Kubukeka sengathi noma yimuphi umuntu uheha ubumnene, ukuthamba, i-fascince kanye nezinye izimfanelo zowesifazane ongokoqobo. " Kodwa-ke, njengoba sekuhlale umlingani wakhe iminyaka eminingana, le ndoda iqala ngokungazi ngokuthi "ukucindezela" konke ukubonakaliswa kwabesifazane. Lokhu kwenzeka kanjani nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngakho? Sizotshela.
Uphila ngethempulethi
I-psyche yowesifazane ihlelwe ngendlela ehlala njalo, ecishe ibe yimishini, izenzo ziyakwazi ukwehlisa impilo yengqondo yalowo omele ubulili obuhlukile. Owesifazane "uqhuma" mayelana, namahlazo akhanya kakhulu, umlingani ophelelwe amandla futhi "avele" ngenxa yawo, akhohlwe ngokuqala kwabesifazane, okungamangazi ngesizinda somomodwa esingazinzile. Zama ukungahlanganisi "empilweni yansuku zonke, impilo yansuku zonke futhi ubheke konke okuvelayo, kepha kuhlangene kuphela.
Ugwema ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa
Iphutha elenza uma kungewona wonke umuntu, khona-ke wonke umuntu wesibili. Lokhu akumangazi, ngoba abesilisa nabesifazane bamelelwa ngobuhlobo obuhlukile: Owesifazane udinga ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa, kanti amadoda amaningi awasiboni isidingo sothando kanye nesixha sebhanali. "Ngenza konke ngaye konke engingakwazi" - isiqubulo sendoda esejwayelekile. Ukunakekela nokuhlangenwe nakho kowesifazane wakho kuhamba kahle, kepha ukuthi umlingani angavuka ngokwawo ubudlelwano futhi akazange alahlekelwe yiso sonke isikhathi sobudlelwano, kubalulekile 'ukufuya' ngokubonakaliswa kwangempela kothando lwayo. Abesilisa, bacabanga ngakho.
Owesifazane udinga ukunaka kwakho
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Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi owesifazana uzobhekana nakho konke uqobo
Yebo, owesifazane ungumlingani olinganayo futhi, ngokufanele, umuntu odala ongaxazulula izinkinga zakhe ngaphandle kosizo. Kepha okwengeziwe kowesifazane uthola inkululeko, okuncane akudinga ukunakwa kwesilisa, okusho ukuthi ubufazi bakhe buya kuhlelo lwesibili nelokwesithathu. Cabanga ukuthi owesifazane wakho akucela ukuthi ushintshe irabha emotweni, futhi uyithumela ku-salon namagama: "Well, wena ngokwakho uzobhekana." QAPHELA. Kepha ungalindele kunesimnene sowesifazane "ozimele" ongezimele.
Awushiyi ukukhetha kwakhe
Kowesifazane akukho lutho olubi ukwedlula ukwenqatshelwa kwempilo yezenhlalo esebenzayo. Ukuzethemba kwangaphakathi kanye nokuzithemba okuphezulu ngqo kuncike esikhundleni sowesifazane emphakathini, ebudlelwaneni nabangane nabathandekayo. Kwenqatshelwe kowesifazane ukuthi aphile njengoba kudingeka, ngokwemvelo, ohlakeni lokunengqondo, lo muntu wenza ngezandla zakhe zivimba isifiso sowesifazane ukuba asebenzise inhlangano yakhe yabesifazane. Ungaxoxa nomlingani zonke izikhathi ongazifaki nalokho okubonayo ubudlelwano bakho, kepha ukulawula okuphelele nokuvinjelwa kukho konke kuzoguqula umfazi wakho otholwe ngokushesha. Uyakudinga? Siyangabaza.