Khumbula ukuthi uzama kangakanani ukuzithobisa lapho uthukuthele nozakwabo, wazama ngedwa ukubhekana nezinkinga noma wabhekana nothando olusanda kuphetha. I-Emotional Intelligence iyingxenye ebaluleke ngempela yempilo yethu, kepha abaningi bayiqonda kabi. Ukucindezelwa kwemizwelo nokuvinjelwa kokubonakaliswa kwezinye zazo yizitha ezimbi kakhulu zempilo yezengqondo ezinzile. Sithi kungani kungafanele ukwenqabele ukuba uthukuthele futhi ungathandeki.
Isithombe somuntu ofanelekayo
Hlala ucabange, noma ngabe kufanele unciphise ukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo. Umbuzo oyinhloko okufanele uwubuze yiwo: Ngilawula imizwa, ngoba ngiyayifuna nami noma yamukelwe kanjalo? Lo mbuzo awusondela - isithombe somuntu ofanele siguqulwa njalo emphakathini. Manje lokhu akuyona imenenja ephumelele kuphela futhi ofundile ngokuphelele, kodwa futhi nomuntu owaziyo ukuthi angasondela kanjani noma yisiphi isimo ngekhanda elibandayo. Kodwa-ke, isithombe asikaze sibe yi-charter robot, esivame ukuyizama ngokwakho, sizama ukuba nesikhathi somqondo omuhle, imvamisa ayihambelani nempilo.
Ungaziqhathanisi nabanye
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Ukuqwashisa ngenkinga - ingxenye yomphumela
"Iqiniso lizalelwa engxabanweni," kusho abendulo ngeze. Akukho lutho olungahambi kahle ngezingxabano uma zombili izinhlangothi zizama ukuza khona. Kuchazwa impela ukuthi ngesikhathi sezingxoxo ezishisayo, imizwelo ubilise - badinga ukumkhawulela ngenkani, babone ukuthi lokhu kuyizibonakaliso zemvelo zomuntu ngamunye. Lokho wukuthi, sikhuluma ngendlela eqondayo ekubonisweni kwemizwelo - ukulawula, ukuqaphela imbangela, futhi hhayi ukungabanqabeli ngokungananangqondo ukubabona. Lapho nje uqonda futhi usebenza kulo mzuzu, inhlala-kahle yakho izoshintsha ibe ngcono.
Zizwe ukhululekile ngokwakho
Umuntu ngamunye yinhlanganisela eyingqayizivele yezimpawu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu oyedwa angaba ngumphakathi futhi amomotheka ngosuku olulodwa, futhi ufuna ukuba yedwa naye. Musa ukwahlulela abanye ngombono wokuqala futhi ungazihlanganisi ngokwakho okulinganiselwe kwezimpawu, wesaba ukuthatha igxathu kude nesithombe esinomqondo omuhle. Uma emsebenzini kufanelekile ukuthi kuncishiswe ngonembeza ngezinga lemizwelo, lapho-ke lapho uxoxa ngokuvama, akufanele ukukhawulelwa. Ake sithi uzizwa ubumnandi, uvame ukucasukela abantu abaseduze nokukhuluma ngendlela abayimigwaqo. Ngasikhathi sinye, unqume ukuthi ukuvezwa kaningi kwemizwa kwenza amagama angenalutho futhi angabalulekanga kangako. Ngani? Ngubani owathi udinga ukuthi "Ngiyakuthanda" kathathu izikhathi ezi-3 ngosuku, hhayi kaningi? Ungabheki abanye futhi ucabange ikhanda lakho. Abantu abakanye nawe bazoba ntofontofo nje. Khuluma ngayo yonke imizwa ebhekana nokuqiniseka nabantu bomdabu.
Ukuzinakekela - isipho esihle kunazo zonke
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Vimba imizwa eyingozi ebuchosheni
Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ubuchopho buhlukaniswe iminyango, futhi wonke umuntu wenza indima yawo. I-hypothalamus inesibopho sokwakhiwa kwemizwelo - kuvusa kanyekanye futhi kulawule ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa. Iminyango yobuchopho esele ngandlela thile ibamba iqhaza ekubonisweni kwemizwa. Isibonelo, i-whisky ayilona ize, lapho sinamahloni, ngoba banesibopho salo muzwa. Cabanga ukuthi kwenzekani uma uvimba imizwa yakho: isibonakaliso sokuthi umnyango owodwa ubuchopho udlulisela kwelinye, uyeke ukuhamba. Usuku nosuku, lesi senzo senziwe ngokuqonda, okugcina kuholela ekubuthakathaka kwezinga lokuphendula lokusabela ekucasukeni. Ingqondo iyeka ukuthobeka kuze kube yilapho kufanele ubone inkinga. Lokhu akukubi kuphela ngobuqotho bamakhulu eminyaka avezwa yindlela, kodwa futhi ne-psyche yakho - inkinga engakhohlisi ihlala inokuqonda, futhi ingapheli.
Kuyathakazelisa ukwazi ukuthi uzuza imiphi imizwa? Yabelana nge-athikili nabangane, mayelana nempilo oyinakekelayo.