Ingubo emhlophe, isixha, izicubu, izicathulo zesithende kanye nomoya ofudumele wasehlobo edlala ngomumo wengubo yakho ye-chic .. kanye nokuphonsela ukuhleka kwakho kumakhompiyutha aqhelile kakhulu ezinhliziyo zabantu ezisalinde noma sekuyisikhathi eside zihlangabezana nalezi zikhathi ze-chic zokuzalwa umndeni omusha.
Konke lokhu bekukuhle kakhulu futhi kwabonakala kungukuphakade, kepha ngemuva kokuthi umshado uhlala eza, isisusa futhi ngaphandle kwengxabano akuwona umbhangqwana oyedwa oshadile.
Beka iphuzu nesithiyo noma ukhulume futhi ufunde ukuhlala ndawonye, uzwe omunye komunye, uthanda, thethelela, wenze ukuyekethisa nokusebenza ebudlelwaneni?
Imvamisa ungakugwema isehlukaniso.
Kuyakufaneleka ukuqonda nokuhlaziya lezo zinto eziholela kukho noma kungaholela.
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Isehlukaniso ezimweni eziningi zenzeka ngezikhathi zobudlelwano bezinkinga.
Kunezikhathi eziningi zalezi zikhathi.
Lona unyaka wokuqala wokuphila komndeni, lapho abasanda kushada beqala ukubonana njengabantu bangempela, futhi abanazinto zothando ezifanele.
Ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu, kuvela inhlekelele entsha - lapho kuvela ingane. Ngamunye wabashadikazi uletha okunye okulindelwe ngokweqile, kuzwakala ukushoda kokusekelwa.
Ngemuva kweminyaka eyisikhombisa - inkinga elandelayo. Lapho ingane ingena ekilasini lokuqala bese iqala izinkathazo zesikole.
Ekugcineni, izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu - iminyaka eyi-17-25 yokuhlala ndawonye, lapho izingane zikhula zishiya umndeni wabazali, futhi abashadikazi sebefundile ukuhlala ndawonye.
Ngamunye wabo uqala ukuqonda lokho futhi akazange aziphilelele yena, ngakho-ke ngifuna ukuchitha amashumi eminyaka okugcina asebenza ngenzuzo.
Ngingabiza isehlukaniso sezingxabano, futhi noma yikuphi ukungqubuzana kuyisivumelwano esibi kakhulu lapho amalungelo nezibopho zawo akuvamile.
Lapho abantu abasha benza umshado, baqondiswa umuzwa wothando ngomunye nomunye, ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi bahlangana yini noma ababalulekile yini nezimpawu zabo ezibalulekile.
Ingxenye eyinhloko yesehlukaniso ihlanganiswa nje ngaphandle kokuthi idonswe ngamanani wempilo. Lapho kuvela ingane, abashadikazi banemibuzo ezoba nemibuzo ezovuka kuye ebusuku, ukuthi bangalisebenzisa kanjani amaholide abo abazokwenza izifundo naye.
Umbuzo ohlukile inani lezingane emndenini: Kuvame ukwenzeka ukuthi imibono yabalingani ngale ndaba ibuye idabuke. Futhi umbuzo osemqoka ngokuthembela nokulawula, okuvame ukuphuthelwa ngumshado.
Uma le mibuzo neminye eminingi yayibhekwa ngabalingani ngaphambi komshado, awukwazi ukungabaza: Isehlukaniso kungaba mancane kakhulu, futhi imindeni jikelele izoba nokuthula futhi ijabule.
Ngibe neklayenti elalinomyeni nenkosikazi iminyaka engu-15 empilweni yomshado.
Yize babenobudlelwano obuhle. Kwakuyinkinga enamandla kakhulu.
Ngaleso sikhathi, indodana yabo yayivele iye esikoleni, impilo yahlwitha futhi konke empilweni kwakuzolile.
Embuzweni, uyamthanda umyeni wakhe, wamangala, wathi "kwathi iminyaka eyi-15 isivele ihlangana."
Yebo, nangu inkinga. Indodana yakhulela, kwakukhona isikhathi yena nempilo yakhe, kodwa cha.
Kuvame ukwenzeka, bahlala ndawonye iminyaka eyi-15 - 20 futhi bathola ukuthi akukho lutho ngomunye nomunye. Umuntu akanakho ukushisa, nokunye ukunakwa. Futhi ukulimala kwezingane futhi ekugcineni, ungazwa ngisho nomunye, ngoba bakhuluma ngezilimi ezahlukahlukene zothando. Umyeni wami udinga ukuthinta ukuze azizwe ethandekayo, futhi uMarina uqobo uyakhathalela.
Ngakho-ke wanika umyeni wakhe, wamdlisa, wagwaza izingubo zakhe, walihlanza, walindela okufanayo emyeni wakhe, walinda ukubalwa, nokuthinta nezingxoxo ngothando. Futhi wayengaqondi futhi wamxolela, wacabanga ukuthi kwakunguxoko olungenalutho.
Lapho wazi ukucaphuna, ungathola ibhalansi futhi unikeze omunye nomunye uthando olungabalwa ngumlingani wakho futhi luzizwe. Futhi uma usasebenza ngezimo zabazali nokulimala kwezingane, khona-ke nakanjani uzophila isikhathi eside futhi ujabule!
Umndeni ungahlala ulondolozwe uma uveza izizathu futhi usebenze ngesikhathi.