Namuhla, isilinganiso sobudala bowesifazane bahlela ingane yokuqala ineminyaka engama-30. Noma ekuqaleni kwalelikhulu leminyaka, kwakukhona okufanayo ngesimangaliso - njengomthetho, eminyakeni engama-30, lona wesifazane wayesenengane eyodwa. Kodwa-ke, amaqiniso anamuhla abeka izimo zawo lapho abesifazane kufanele bazivumelanise khona, futhi imvamisa umamadele kufanele ahlehlise ngosuku olulandelayo. Abesifazane abaningi, umbono onjalo bathumba echibini lokudangala, ngoba iningi lezintombi kade lithatha izithombe nezingane, liziqopha kuma-mugs nasesikoleni. Musa ukushesha ukucasuka, ngokusho kochwepheshe, ekukhulelweni ngemuva kokukhulelwa ngemuva kweminyaka engama-30 kunezinzuzo zawo esinqume ukuqoqa endatshaneni yethu.
Umlingani wakho uzoba ngumzali obhekele ngokwengeziwe.
Uma obaba abasebancane bengasiboni njalo isikhundla sabo esisha, khona-ke amadoda avuthiwe alingana nendima kababa onesibopho esingakanani - eqala ukuhlela kuze kube yilapho ingane ibonakala ikhona ngowesifazane, ngakho-ke ukuxhumana kwakhe Ingane nonina iba mully ngokwengeziwe, kanti obaba abasebasha beqabukela benikela ngengane iminyaka yabo sonke isikhathi sabo sonke isikhathi, lapho bonke babenesikhathi sokuthi "bandiza", ngakho-ke indoda iqala ukubheka a Isizathu sokuhlwitha ekhaya noma ukubambezeleka emsebenzini, ngoba ukunakekelwa kwengane kuyivivinyo elikhulu kakhulu lendoda. Vele, iminyaka yobudala ayihlali isebenza njengento enqumayo, izibalo zokungabikho zivame kakhulu ukuba abazali abanomthwalo wemfanelo kakhulu, futhi ikakhulukazi obaba - abantu abangu-30.
Uzokwazi ukusondela endimeni kamama
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Uhlela ukukhulelwa
Kuyivelakancane ukuhlangana nowesifazane owayeneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, waba umama ngengozi. Kulesi sikhathi, owesifazane uyakuqonda lokho akufunayo, kudingeka hlobo luni lomuntu, ezimweni ezingokoqobo kuphela umfazi "ohlelweni lwezinto ezibonakalayo" ohlelweni lwezinto ezibonakalayo, okusho ukuthi luzonquma ngokuzimela ngendlela ahlela khona Yaza obani abazomphelezela kule ndlela enzima nokuthi ungaziqinisekisa kanjani yena nengane yakhe, uma ingane ingasebenzi nobaba wengane.
Ngabe ulungele ngokwengqondo ukuzalwa kwengane
Njengoba sishilo, umfazi "uyakhula" ohlelweni lwezenhlalo eduze kwama-30, futhi ngasikhathi sinye kunokuzola ngomphefumlo nokuzethemba kwangaphakathi. Omama abasebasha bavame ukulungiswa kakhulu ekuqubukelweni kwengane ngenxa yentsha yomzimba, eyayingenaso isikhathi sokuthola izifo ezengeziwe, kepha isimo sowesifazane esinemizwa ngokuphelele sihambisana ngokuphelele neshumi leminyaka kuphela. Ngakho-ke, awunakuhlangabezana noMama we-Nermy ka-30 - sekuvele ukulungele ukuthatha umuntu onzima, kodwa mhlawumbe esinye sezindima ezibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakhe.