Vumelana, ukuzethemba ukuzethemba kusiza ukufeza imiphumela emangalisayo, kepha abaningi bethu bangaziqhenya ngokuthula okuphelele ezimweni ezicindezelayo? Akunjalo. Sinqume ukuthola ukuthi singakunqoba kanjani ukungaqiniseki futhi sizama ukuba ngcono kunathi namuhla.
Sifuna izinzuzo zazo
Izazi zezengqondo zeluleka ukusetshenziswa kobuqili obunobuqili nobuqili: Sihlukanisa iphepha libe izingxenye ezimbili, kukholamu yokuqala Bhala izinzuzo zayo, ngokwesibili - Okubi - Okubi. Manje uzodinga isikhathi sokucabanga ukuthi yiziphi izinzuzo ofuna ukufaka esikhundleni sezinto kwikholamu yesibili. Njalo lapho uphatha ukuqeda ukushoda kwakho ohlwini, ubashaye. Kancane kancane, kufanele uthole ngokuphelele ikholomu yesibili.
Ube yinguqulo engcono
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Ngekhanda impumelelo yakho
Idayari yephepha akuyona into eyedlule yesikhathi esedlule, kodwa "simulator" ephumelelayo. I-Psyche yethu enenjabulo enkulu ikhumbula zonke izinto ezingathandeki ezenzeka empilweni yethu, kuyilapho yonke into ilungile kaningi ukukhiqiza ngememori. Ungathenga incwadi encane lapho uzolungisa khona zonke izikhathi ezinhle ezenzeke noma ngabe awulona usuku, kodwa, ake sithi ngesonto. Ngezikhathi ezithile ukuchichima amakhasi edayari, uzophefumulelwa ukunqoba kwethu, umuzwa wokungazami wokungaqiniseki uzothatha indawo yokuzola nokuzethemba emandleni abo.
Imininingwane yokuhlunga
Noma yiziphi izindaba ezingezinhle zisithinta ngamandla kunokuba singazicabanga. Ukuqonda kwethu ukuhlehlisa izikhathi eziphazamisayo futhi, kanye nalokhu, kunomuzwa wokukhathazeka, uhlobo lwayo alulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukunquma. Zama ukudonsa kuphela okukucebisa njengomuntu futhi ohlelweni lobuchwepheshe, kuphela emandleni akho okulawula "ukugcwaliswa" kobuntu bakho futhi uthuthukise endaweni oyidingayo. Yiba yinguqulo yakho engcono kakhulu futhi eqiniseka ngokwengeziwe ngaphandle kokukhathazeka.
Bangobani abangane bakho?
Noma ngubani ophikisile okuphambene nalokho, kepha imvelo yethu iyazibonakalisa. Cishe kungenzeka ubone, ngezikhathi ezihlukile, kuzo zonke izimpilo zethu, abantu beza kithi abaletha okuthile noma "basuse" kithi. Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uqonde ngokusobala ukuthi ubani oseceleni kwethu nalapho kungaletha ukuxhumana okusondelene nomuntu noma omunye umuntu. Uma ufuna ukuthola isibonelo esiphilayo somuntu ozethembayo futhi ozolile, kungani ungakutholi phakathi kwabangane bakho noma phakathi kwe-gurus yensimu yakho yomsebenzi? Kubalulekile ukuba nesibalo phambi kwaso, esizokugqugquzela nokuthi ngubani ongazulazula.