Izazi zezengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi wonke umuntu ophambanisa nezinkinga zeminyaka, kulowo nalowo owembula isici sawo sokuphila - ukuziqonda, ubudlelwano nomndeni, ukusesha kwalezi zindaba, ukusesha izindaba zokuphila nokunye. Ezinganeni, inhlekelele yokuhlangezeka iwela eminyakeni engu-7 no-14-15: Ngalesi sikhathi i-ego yakhiwa ngenkuthalo, ukuzibonela ngokwahlukana ngokwehlukana nomphakathi. Uma ungasebenzisi isihloko sokuzihlola kanye nesimo emphakathini, esikhathini esizayo ingane kungenzeka ibe nezinkinga ngokwakha izisebenzi kanye nobudlelwano bako.
Konke kuqala nomndeni
Njengoba ingane inengxenye enkulu yesikhathi ichitha isikhathi ekhaya futhi ihlale ixhumana nombuthano omncane wezihlobo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi laba bantu ekuqaleni baqala ukuzithemba kwakhe. Kunamamodeli amabili wobudlelwano obungenampilo, kepha bobabili bahlobene kakhulu nokuhambisana. Esimweni sokuqala, ingane ilawula njalo: Nikeza uhlu olukhulu lwemiyalo, ungabuzi imibono yakhe, ungafaki abantu abadala ezingxoxweni, athuke ngenxa yokungabi nalutho, alawule ukuhambisana nosuku. Esigabeni sesibili, adwengulwa ngokweqile: Thenga izingubo, ulungiselele ukudla, hlangana kusuka esikoleni, wenze izifundo ndawonye, landela usuku losuku. Akekho noyedwa okhethayo onikeza umphumela omuhle - ingane ihlala ilinde isijeziso futhi iyeka ukuphinda ibonakale ngombono wayo, noma icabanga ukuthi impilo yakhe yonke izomsiza - ezindabeni ezifuywayo kuya kubasebenzi. Ukudlula ngaphesheya komndeni, ufuna abangane e-Psychotica, hhayi izintshisekelo, ukulungele ukulalela.
Ungashayeli ingane ekhoneni, umnikeze inkululeko yokuzikhethela
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Thatha ingane yokuzilibazisa
Ezemidlalo ziyisisusa esinamandla sokuthuthuka ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo. Akusho lutho ukuthi ukuqeqeshwa kulukhuni. Ukuzihlola, amandla okumelana nengcindezi engokomzwelo, ukugxila komphumela namandla entando - konke lokhu kunomthelela omuhle kwi-psyche yengane. Ekuxhumaneni nontanga, ngeke abavumele ukuba bazilawule, kodwa kunalokho kuzoba ngumholi weqembu. Abahleki esikoleni, kepha bawahloniphe, ngoba ngomzimba osheshayo amandla alingana nesimo esiphakeme senhlalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngesikhathi samakilasi eqenjini, ingane izojwayelana nontanga efanayo abazoba abangane abakhulu kuye.
Ukukhuluma kaningi
Lapho ingane isethemba abazali bayo futhi ibatshela ngokuhluleka kwabo nokwesaba kwabo, kuba lula kakhulu ukubhekana nabo. Chaza ukuthi ingane ekwenzeni izinqumo kufanele iqondiswe yi-logic futhi ingakhohlwa ngemizwa, ayiphoqelekile ukuthi ivumelane ngezikhathi ezithile, noma ngabe "wonke umuntu enza isiyingi sabangane, futhi angalindi ukuba nentshisekelo kukho kwabanye. Lapho ebusuku, sikucebisa ukuthi uqophe ingane ngokubonisana nodokotela wezengqondo naye azokwazi ukuxoxa ngayo ngezinkinga zakhe ngokuningiliziwe. Uchwepheshe uqonda izici ze-psyche yentsha, ngakho-ke uzokwazi ukumsiza ukuba athole indlela ephuma esimweni esinzima futhi afunde ukulawula imizwa yakhe. Lapho eneminyaka eyi-14-15, izingane sezivele zinohlelo lwenani elakhiwe, izinhloso empilweni futhi zimele, lapho zifuna ukuthuthukisa khona, ngakho-ke ukubonisana kuzongeza kuphela ukucaca kwalezi zinhlelo.
Fundisa ukuzimela
Amandla okulungisa ibhulakufesi, layisha umshini wokuwasha, ungene egumbini lakho - kuleli zinga lendlu ukuguqulwa kwezingane ukuze umuntu akhule. Ukusuka eminyakeni yobudala engama-6-7 ubudala, unganikeza amanani amancane wokuthengwa kwamaswidi namathoyizi, qala ibhange le-piggy ngezinhlamvu zemali. Okulandelayo kuza ukuzibonela ngokuqondile - ukuvumela ukuthi uye kubangani bakho kubangani bakho, ubameme kuwe, ubathumele ekuhambeni kokuvakasha ngekilasi, vumela ukuya esikoleni nasekhaya. Lezi zinyathelo ezincane kwinani zidlala indima enkulu ekwakhekeni komuntu. Into esemqoka lapha ukuvuma ukuthi ingane izokwazisa ngendawo yokuthola kwakhe, ukubiza noma ukubhala i-SMS ngocingo noma ngokubhala. Okwabazali abasethusayo ikakhulukazi, "ama-smart" amawashi alandelela indawo yengane yasungulwa.
Khanyisa ingane ngobusuku obubodwa kubangani
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Uma ufuna ingane ikhule umuntu ovulelekile, kusukela esemncane, ifundise ukuzimela futhi ifundwe ngombono wakhe. Ingane ekhule emndenini ojabulayo, esikhathini esizayo ayisho izinkinga ngokuzethemba nokwakha ubudlelwano nabanye.