Igama elithi Schildfree lavela ngamashumi ayisikhombisa ekhulu leminyaka elidlule. Wangeniswa enhlanganweni kazwelonke yansuku zonke ye-United States. AmaRodonarchist ale nhlangano angabaseMelika u-Ellen Pek noShirley Radl. Bakha isiqubulo sabo silula futhi bayaqondakala ngawo wonke amagama: "muva nje, owesifazane oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ongenazo izingane ezibona njengephutha. Ukucaciswa kokungabi nabuntwana, abantu babheka impilo engeyinhle, ukuthandwa ngokocansi okungajwayelekile, ukugula kwengqondo, ukuhlukunyezwa kotshwala noma izidakamizwa. Akukaze kwenzeke kunoma ngubani umfazi anazo izingane ngesizathu esisodwa esilula - akanaso isifiso! " Futhi yize kungekudala le nhlangano yabuswa (ngandlela thile ngezimali e-Childfrey zaphenduka ziqine ngokuphelele), isiqalo sabekwa ...
Namuhla ezifundeni ezingaphezu kwamashumi amane nezinhlangano ezihlanganisa izingane. Konke eMelika efanayo, kanye naseSweden nase-Australia, kukhona amaqembu ezepolitiki, amalungu awo awenqabe nje ukuqhubeka nokuqhubeka nohlobo oluthile, kodwa futhi abeke phambili amalungelo omphakathi kanye nalo Izakhamizi ezikanye nazo, ezinezingane. Futhi ngandlela thile kuyavela. Emhlabeni wonke, inethiwekhi yokudlela, ama-cinema, amakilabhu ezemidlalo namahhotela, lapho ukungena khona "kuya ku-Sixteen" kuvinjelwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezindaweni eziningi, izingane zilingana nezinja. Ngakho-ke, ezakhiweni zamanye amakamelo noma amahhotela abhaliwe ngqo: "Azikho izingane, azikho izilwane ezifuywayo". Emnyuziyamu amaningi, kwalethwa iwashi elikhethekile lapho emahhose ogwadule ngeke uhlangane nanoma yimuphi umuntu wesikole kanye nobudala basenkulisa. Ngani, ngisho nezindiza nezimoto zesitimela "abantu abadala kuphela" kwavela!
Ngokumangazayo, ama-Childrey ane-cyber Church yakhe yeCyber of Jesus Christi Church Church (i-cyber-ntamba yebandla likaJesu Krestu I-PityFree), eyayikhetha isiqubulo esithi: "UJesu wayethanda ukuba abantwana, kodwa wakhetha ukungabi nabo. Futhi lezi yizindaba ezimnandi! " Futhi vumela iziqondiso zaleli bandla zingabalwa eminwe, kepha ziye zakha umsebenzi osebenzayo, ukukhuthaza impilo engenamntwana yawo wonke amanethiwekhi omphakathi.
Akunjalo kudala, ukunyakaza kweChayldfrey naseRussia. "Ukungakhathali" kwethu kune-portal yayo ye-Intanethi, enezinto eziyizinkulungwane eziningana. Ngezikhathi ezithile, bafeza "amathuba abi", futhi abantu abaningi bathola ingxenye yabo yesibili ngemibuthano enjalo. Ngendlela, kulula kakhulu: imibhangqwana enjalo kungenzeka ingakungabazi ukuthi okungenani kombuzo owodwa oyisisekelo imibono yabo ihlangana ngokuphelele!
Ngokwezinga elithile lokhu kunyakaza kuwuhlobo lomthetho wokubhikisha. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kusukela ebuntwaneni, wonke amantombazane alungiselela iqiniso lokuthi kufanele abe omama, futhi ukuntuleka kwengane eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu kuthathwa njengophawu lokuphansi ngokomzimba. Vele, abantu abanqabayo ngamabomu injabulo yokuba ngumama (ubuzali) babekhona ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kepha manje kuphela abangakwazi ukunciphisa: Umndeni ongenazindlalifa akayona iphutha lemvelo, kodwa iseli eligcwele lomphakathi. Futhi ngasikhathi sinye ukungayesabi ukuthi bazotholwa kubo njengokuhlanya. Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izimpikiswano ezithanda ukugayeka zenza izingane?
UKim Catherol akwamukeli noma yiziphi izibopho. Photo: Rex Izici / Fotodom.ru.
1. Ukugcwala kweplanethi.
Uma ubheka izenzo zezingane ezinohlangothi oluhlukile kancane, kuvela ukuthi bazenzela nesenzo esihle. Futhi yini oyifunayo: Iplanethi isongela ukugcwala ngokweqile, izithelo ezengeziwe - kusho ukudala usongo kubo bonke abantu.
2. Nikeza impilo kwesinye isidalwa ingububi obukhali.
Kwenzekani namhlanje osizungezile empeleni kuvela ekahle. Isintu esinezinyathelo zeminyaka eyisikhombisa siye ehlelweni. Akukhathalekile ukuthi yiliphi inani eliqokwe umkhawulo womhlaba (ngoDisemba 2012 noma ngoJanuwari 2022). Into eyodwa icacile: Ngokushesha lapho noma kamuva kuzoba nenhlekelele yomhlaba wonke, noma ngabe iyimpi ye-athomu noma nje inhlekelele yemvelo yesilinganiso somhlaba wonke. Kulesi simo, ukungathandi kwezingane kufanele kuthathwe njengesenzo esicabangayo nesivuthiwe.
3. Izingane ziphazamisa impilo.
Yebo, izingane ziphelele ama-egoists. Ngakho-ke, akucaci kubo, kungani unika zonke izingane ezingcono kakhulu, uma ungajabulela impilo ngekhoyili ephelele. Kungani konke lokhu kungekudala, ukuchitha amathuluzi amakhulu nesikhathi ngaphandle kwethemba elincane lokuthi utshalomali lwakho lokuziphatha, olungokomoya nezezimali luzoke lubuyile ngekhulu!
4. Abazithandi izingane nje.
Amadoda amancane amemeza ubusuku nemini. Banokuphila okuhle kakhulu kwempilo kwabanye, kepha bekusanda kwakamuva ngakho kufanele kudalwe. Kepha uma wena, ngokwesibonelo, uphuthuma inja engomakhelwane, ugcobe zonke izingubo ngodaka, okungenani ufonele ukuze uthole impendulo kumnikazi wayo. Kepha ingane ephonsa amatshe kini kuwe, ngasizathu simbe kufanele agaye ngokumamatheka. Ukungena ngomusa ngandlela thile! By the way, musa ukudidanisa i-chaylldfrey nge-Childheit (Detate). Cha, izingane zeqiniso zibhekisela ezinganeni zabanye abantu. Akafuni ukuncelisa kanye nenzalo yakhe futhi abonise ukuzithoba kwezinye izithunzi ezingezinhle kakhulu zama-hooligans amancane.
5. Ukuntuleka kwemvelo kamama.
Ngokusho kososayensi, amaphesenti ayisithupha nesikhombisa abesifazane abengekho ngokuphelele imvelo yomama. Noma ngabe la mantombazane ethungwa, leli qiniso alithinti isimo sabo sengqondo ngezingane zabo: bamane bangenandaba nabo! Abamele ubulili obuqinile amaphesenti aphakeme aphezulu. Ngakho-ke cabanga ukuthi kunomqondo wokuqhubeka nohlobo lwabo njengobuntu, ngoba izingane zabo, zincishiswe uthando nengcindezi, zizokhula zithathwe!
Bheka lonke uhlu!
Ukunyakaza kwengane eminyakeni yamuva nje, osaziwayo abaningi ngokwengeziwe basondelene. Izinkanyezi eziningi ziyekile ukusungula izincazelo zobuqili ngenxa yokungakhathali kwabo. Bavuma ngokweqiniso ukuthi kungani ukuqhubeka komusa - umsebenzi awunanjongo. Imvamisa, imbangela yezimpande kumele ifunwe ezimncane.
Isibonelo esicacile kunazo zonke esiyintandokazi yazo zonke ze-America TV oprah Winfrey. Ngakho-ke ubani owayenengane enzima! Umama omncane wamnika ugogo wakhe owayekhulisiwe, ehlane lasemakhaya. Yena, mhlawumbe, ngendlela yakhe, wayemthanda umzukulu wakhe, kodwa ngawo wonke amandla (futhi lokho akubhekwa njengokugeza ngesikhathi) ayeke izinduku zakhe. Kamuva, umama wambamba indodakazi yakhe. Kepha okungokopha kwakunethemba lokuhle kakhulu. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho impilo yenkanyezi yethelevishini yesikhathi esizayo yesikhathi esizayo yaphenduka esihogweni sangempela. Kuyo, intombazane eneminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye, bonke - nabafowethu, kanye noMalumetho Nabowa Nabo, kanye nobungane babo obuningi. Umphumela: Lapho eneminyaka eyishumi nane, u-Opraz wakhulelwa wazala ingane. Ngenxa yokuthi ingane yazalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi, wafa ngemuva nje kokuzalwa. Futhi kwakungu-Winfri wazinikela isithembiso sokungasoze saba nezingane. Futhi ngagcina izwi lami: "Lapho ngisekuncane, akekho onendaba nami, ngakho angazi ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani."
Izingane zihola umethuli we-TV ngokwesabekayo yangempela. Ngandlela thile uPhrah utshelwe ngecala kuphela lapho echitha usuku lonke enkampanini. "Ngake ngadinga ukunakekela ingane eneminyaka emine. Bengikhathele kangangokuba ngazizwa ngijabule impela lapho umama wakhe ebuya. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho ngabona khona ukuthi ukukhetha kwami kwakungekhona ukuba nezingane - kwakuthembekile ngokuphelele. "
U-Oscar- "umlingisi-ubuhlakani, uHelen Mirren, futhi, wasinda ekulimaleni okunamandla njengengane. Cha, abazali bakhe abangabahlukumezeka futhi umalume wezomdabu bebengenayo. Ekuxinekeni kwakhe ukuze izingane zinecala ... uthisha wesikole. "Kuze kube semininingwane emincane kakhulu engikhumbula ngayo esikoleni saqoqwa ngayo eShabby Foyer, sichaza ukuthi manje sizobheka ifilimu lengqondo. Lapho efakiwe, sabona owesifazane ebhula ebuhlungwini, kodwa lapho nje esephelile, uthisha wathi ukuzalwa kwengane kuyinto enhle kunazo zonke emhlabeni. Ngokweqiniso, ngashaqeka futhi ngashaqeka. Kusukela lapho, umcabango wezingane uyanengeka kimi. "
Inkanyezi yefilimu ethi "Diary Bridget Jones" ne- "Chicago" Rene Zellweger akazange asinde noma yikuphi ukulimala ebuntwaneni. Kodwa-ke, akadli inzondo ekhethekile. Njengothando. Ngesizathu esisodwa: Impumelelo eHollywood ibingelula kuye. Futhi akahlosile ngenxa ye-diaper ukulahlekelwa yindawo ethosiwe enjalo eyanqotshwa ngaphansi kwelanga. "Ngingavuma ukuzwela kanjani: Angikaze ngiphuphe ngokuba ngumama. Ngemuva kwakho konke, izingane zingubushiqela wangempela. Futhi angizukuyeka ukugqilazwa ngokuzithandela. Kuyiqiniso, kwesinye isikhathi ngingaxoxa nabashana bami, kodwa ngihlala ngifudumeza umbono wami wokuthi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ngikwazi ukushesha lezi zimbali zibuyele kubazali bazo. "
Ngayo i-solidar ne-winon Rider. Akaqiniseki ukuthi abakhiqizi bazolinda ukubuya kwakhe kwikhefu lokuya esikhathini. Ngemuva kwakho konke, "ifektri yamaphupho", naphezu kwegama layo lezothando, empeleni ukuhambisa okungenamqondo. Kuyakufanele ukukhuphuka okuncane - kanti amakhulukhulu abalingisi abasebancane nabanethalente azofika endaweni yakho! "Ngiyakwazi engikhuluma ngakho. Ngisho nakulefilimu "i-Black Swan", i-heroine yami - amavoti we-ballerina - athathe indawo umdansi omncane owenziwe nguNatalie Portman. Futhi into enjengale kungenzeka empilweni yangempela. "
UKim Kastroll, umlingisi ochungechunge lwamahlelo "ubulili edolobheni elikhulu", awesabi umsebenzi wakhe. Kodwa-ke, ukuqhubeka kohlobo nohlobo lwenqaba. NjengeSamantha yakhe, uKim uthanda injabulo yengqondo futhi akazimukeli noma yiziphi izibopho. Futhi izingane zihlala zizilahla, akunjalo? "Nginabangani abaningi nezingane, mina uqobo ngingubabekazi omuhle. Kepha uma ngibuya ekhaya, ngifuna ukuphumula lapho, niyazi? " Umlingisi uzwakala ngokumangazayo iqiniso lokuthi izingane zithathwa njenge-rogue. "Kodwa yini embi uma ngifuna ukuthula? Ngikholwe, angizisoli ngakho konke engingazange ngibe ngumama. Kepha kungani ngenxa yaleli qiniso, kufanele ngibambe izindondo ngokwakho? Akuwona yini ukucwaswa? "
UKim udla uzakwabo U-Eva Mendez, owayekakhe amashumi amathathu nesishiyagalombili nawo ayengazi injabulo yokuba ngumama. "Ukuba qotho, ngiyathandana nalawa ma-shalun amancane. Kepha ngisho nangaphezulu ngiyayithanda induduzo yakho futhi isikhathi eside, ubuthongo obude. Ngubani ongangilahla ngalokhu? "
ICameron Diaz ngokungafani nabanye osaziwayo abaningi abakhathazeki ngezinkinga zomuntu siqu, kepha imibuzo esezingeni lomhlaba. "Emhlabeni nabantu abaningi. Kungani ukhulisa inombolo yabo? " Kodwa-ke, inkanyezi yefilimu ethi "Mask" ayihlukanisi ngezinkolelo zakhe. "Angibuyiseli lutho kunoma yini. Njengalesi sigaba sempilo yami, ngibona sengathi izingqinamba zabantu zincane kakhulu. "
Kukhona phakathi kosaziwayo kanye nangempela kwangempela - labo abanokugabalala kwabo okuthe xaxa kwabafowethu abancane bethu. Ngakho-ke, umfokazi waseFrance onobuhle futhi ozwakalayo uMarin Farmer uqinisekisa ukuthi ukuxhumana nengane yakhe kuthatha indawo ukukhathazeka kwakhe ngezinkawu ezimbili ezihlala naye njalo. Futhi wesaba izingane. Futhi futhi inezingane kusukela ebuntwaneni. Lapho uMilen eseyisikole, abazali, ukuze akhulise umuzwa wobubele kuyo, aphoqelelwa isonto ngalinye ukuvakashela esibhedlela i-Hashe, lapho izingane ziphathwa khona nge-autistic. Akumangazi ukuthi umcabango wezindlalifa akaze afike kumculi.
Inkanyezi yefilimu "yabantu be-X" Famke Jansen futhi bakhetha ukunakekela izilwane. "Impilo yami yonke iphokophela uzungeze i-terrier yami ye-logoris. Ngokubukeka kwakhe, ubukhona bami begcwele okushiwo. Kungani ngidinga ingane uma inja yami ibuyisela intombi enhle kakhulu, kanye nomndeni, nezingane? "
Kepha uJacqueline exhing, osontekile amanoveli ngamadoda wokuqala omuhle we-cinema womhlaba, kungenzeka nje angenawo isimo semvelo somama. "Bengiphila impilo enjalo njengoba bengifuna. Futhi angizisoli ngakho konke okungazange kuzalwe izingane. Ngingumuntu ojabule ngempela! "
Uhlobo lowesilisa, inani kuphela
UGeorge Clooney kude nomcabango wezingane. Photo: Rex Izici / Fotodom.ru.
Abamele abaningi abaziwayo bezocansi abanamandla nabo bayavuma ukungathandi kwabo izingane. Imvamisa - ngenxa yokuthi abafuni ukwaba ama-halves abo wesibili nanoma ngubani. "Ngikholwe: Umkami ulahlekile nami. Kungani sisenaye umuntu? " - Kusho muhleko u-Christopher uhen. Umlobi uHaruka Murakami ulinde umzuzu lapho ekugcineni ehlangana ngokwakhe, kepha iminyaka iya, futhi namanje ayizwa efana nengane. Umqondisi we-Quentin Tarantino uqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zakhe zingamafilimu akhe. Futhi okunye ukukhumbula kwakhe, othandekayo, akadingi. Hhayi-ke, futhi iphupho labo bonke abesifazane uGeorge Clooney, lapho ebuzwa ngezingane ezingamashumi amabili nesishiyagalolunye ezibuzwa ngezingane, evame ukudabuka: "Uma kungazelelwe, nginesidingo sokukhuluma nalezi zingane futhi ngizizwe usemndenini Zungelezela, ngivele ngibize uBrad no-Angie futhi ngibameme ukuba bavakashele. Ukumane uzikhumbuze ukuthi ngijabule futhi ngingenazingane. "
Abaporofidi Ezweni Lawo
ERussia, yize ukunyakaza kokuhamba kweChayldfrey, namanje akwamukelwa kakhulu ukuvikela ilungelo labo lokungabi nezingane. Okungenani osaziwayo bethu baphendule imibuzo ngokulandela ingqondo ngokungenangqondo kwabo. Futhi kuvame ukukhawulelwa amahlaya.
Ingeborga Dave embuzweni kungani engenazingane, iphendula ngomuzwa wokuhlekisa waseLithuanistic: ukhetha ukuya ocansini. IMaya Plisetskaya ekuphenduleni umbuzo ofanayo okhiphe i-aphorism ephelele: "Imindeni enezingane eziningi. Maya Plisetskaya - One! "
Zemfira. Photo: Lilia Sharlovskaya.
UZemfira ngasikhathi sinye engqungqutheleni yezindaba eshiwo esidlangalaleni: "Cha, anginakuba nezingane, ngingasho ukuthi:" Muhle, uyathandeka, uyamangalisa? Wenzeni, wenzeni? " Ngasizathu simbe kwakubonakala ngaye ukuthi le ngxabano ibingachaza ngokugcwele ukungabaza ukudala umndeni futhi unakekele inzalo.
Futhi uKsenia Sobchak kuphela ophikisana ufakazela ilungelo lakhe lokungabi namntwana. Futhi njengesibonelo, iminyaka yakhe emisha: "Ngivumelana ngokuphelele neqiniso lokuthi lisemncane ukuthi libekwe njengezimfanelo ezimbi nezihle. Kepha muva nje kwafika esiphethweni sokuthi empeleni ngingumuntu ngaphandle kwengane. Ababelethi bangithanda, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye (ngenxa yokuthi babenempilo yomuntu uqobo) ngazimiswa. Ngaba yisisulu semfundo ebizwa ngokuthi yi-Spontaneous Education. Ngalo mqondo, imfundo yabazali iba uhlobo oluthile lukafulawa oludinga ukukhishwa. " Kungakho iKsenia ingafuni isiphetho esifanayo nenzalo yayo. "Angizithandi izingane ezincane, azibangeli imizwa ethandekayo. Angifuni ukuphila umndeni ekuqondeni kwakhe okwakudala. Lawa magugu awangemi kimi. Ngikholwa ukuthi ubungcwelisa yindawo yokuvimbela inzalo engcono kakhulu. Lapho unempilo ejwayelekile, umsebenzi, imfundo, imali namathuba, khona-ke akusona isifiso sokusebenzisa le mpilo kuma-diaper, i-borscht kanye nezinye izinjabulo.
Kodwa-ke, muva nje ezinkulumweni zeKsenia zavela amanothi wokungabaza. "Manje angikahlukanisi kangako. Lokhu kuyathuthuka. Mhlawumbe umuntu ofanele uzovela empilweni yami noma eneminyaka yobudala ngizoqala ukufela yedwa, khona-ke ngizokwenza isinyathelo esilandelayo. "
UKsenia Sobchak ubheka ngokwakhe izisulu zemfundo engazenzisi. Photo: Lilia Sharlovskaya.
Kulokhu, ukunyakaza okukodwa kwamahlaya kwe-Russian Childfrey Movement, okuthunyelwe kunethiwekhi eyodwa yokuxhumana nabantu. Uzwakala kanjena: "I-Real Childfree yindoda yezwi. Uma ethi akasoze aholela ezinganeni, khona-ke akasoze akwenza. Uma "engakaze" kuphele iminyaka engamashumi amathathu, noma amashumi amathathu nanhlanu, noma angamashumi amabili, udoti, izinto ezincane empilweni. " Yebo, uma kunjalo, kusho into eyodwa: Ukuqothulwa kwesintu akusongelwa impela!