Ucwaningo olwenziwe e-University of Pittsburgh luveze ubudlelwano phakathi nesikhathi esichithwe ekuhloleni kwetheyipu yezinkundla zokuxhumana kanye nokusabela okungekuhle ezithombeni zomzimba. Labo abachitha isikhathi esithe xaxa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, izikhathi ezi-2.2 zivame kakhulu ngezinkinga ezinokudla okunomsoco kanye nefomu elingokomzimba kubantu abakhonjiswe kubo kunontanga abasebenzisa isikhathi esincane ezinhlelweni zokuxhumana nabantu. Lokhu kufakazela ukuthi "ukumunca" ngathi okuvela emvelweni kuthinta ngqo indlela yethu yokucabanga nesimo sengqondo ngokwakho. Sichaza ukuthi kungani lokhu kungaba yingozi.
Amanethiwekhi omphakathi asithinta
Photo: Pixabay.com.
Ukusebenza ngokomzimba
Uma abangane bakho abaseduze bebamba njalo ukusebenzisa, futhi uthanda ukuchitha isikhathi ekhaya ku-TV, akukho lutho olubi. Kodwa-ke, umuzwa wokukhathazeka kwangaphakathi kwesinye isikhathi usakazeke emqondweni - amantombazane athenga okubhaliselwe, ahlanganyele ngamandla, ngaphandle kokuthola injabulo ekuqeqesheni. Amadivayisi anxephezelwa ngezithombe ku-Instagram, ezinikezwa yisibonakaliso esingewona amagama kubabhalisile: "bangidumisa!" Ukuphela komuntu onelungelo lokuhlola ukubukeka kwakho nokukugxeka - wena ngokwakho. Noma ngabe uthambile ngokuphelele noma ukhuluphele, uzogxeka ngokulinganayo uma ungafundi ukwamukela nokuthanda umzimba wakho.
Ukuhamba ngamandla
Kubukeka sengathi akunakwenzeka? Manje-ke kwavela kanjani izwi labantu ukuthi "ngemuva kokuthi iholide lidle iholide lesibili"? Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ngesikhathi sohambo kuyadingeka ukuvakashela okuphezulu kakhulu, ukuqasha imoto futhi kuhlole amadolobha angomakhelwane, zama zonke izitsha ze-cuisine kazwelonke ... yeka! Ukuphumula njengoba uthanda. I-Tempel ebhishi noma yehla izintaba eziphakeme, ngegama, yenza lokho okufunayo ngempela. Lokhu kusizwa ngokuhamba okukodwa lapho kufanele ungaxoxi kahle ngezinhlelo zosuku, hamba lapho, lapho ungafuni ukuba khona, futhi ube semvfoltage njalo ukuzivumelanisa nesidingo.
Ubudlelwano obuhle
Uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi yonke imibhangqwana ezungeze iminyaka engu-5 ayiyeki isikhathi se-bouquet-Candy, khona-ke, kubonakala ngempela. Ebuhlotsheni lapho abantu bephane khona nomunye, akunakwenzeka ukugwema ukungaqondi kanye nezingxabano. Ungazami ukubonisa injabulo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kanye nezingxoxo nezintombi, uma ngokoqobo ukhala njalo ebusuku emcameni. Thula abathandekayo bakho, bakhulume nabo emiphefumulweni bese ubashiya labo abangakwazisa. Ukuhlukaniswa nesehlukaniso akusona umusho wempilo yakho. Kepha ukucindezelwa okungapheli kungahle kube umusho: impilo kunzima ukuyibuyisela lokho okubonakala. Yiba neqiniso nawe kanye nomlingani, uhlangabezana nezikhathi ezibaluleke kakhulu zodwa futhi ungabheki abanye.
Uthando, hhayi ukwenza sengathi uyathanda
Photo: Pixabay.com.
Umqondo wokucabanga
Amanethiwekhi omphakathi enza ngempela abantu bacabange ukuthi wonke umuntu unebhizinisi elingcono nxazonke. Kuphela kuphela ukufanele ukuqondisisa ukuthi ukuphishekela gloss yangaphandle ulahlekelwe kakhulu. Kuyadingeka ngempela ukulwela okungcono, nje ungacabangi ukuthi imoto yangaphandle eyenziwe ngemalimboleko izokucebisa. Isimo somuntu sifundwa kalula ngemininingwane emincane, ngakho-ke kuphela ongakhohlisa, wena uqobo. Ukuthuthukisa kancane kancane, nikeza isikhathi esithe xaxa imfundo futhi ungakhohlwa ngalo mkhuba, khona-ke maduze nje imoto oyifunayo izoba sekhaya lakho, vele ukhokhele wena.