Ngokungangabazeki, imicabango yohlobo lwezocansi ingavakashela wonke umuntu, kepha kungenzeka ukuthi uthathe isinqumo sokusebenzisa kwabo kuphela okwesithathu, ngokuya ngezibalo. Uma bobabili abalingani bethembana futhi bengabubanzi obukhulu, akukho lutho olusolwa ukuthi, ngokwesibonelo, benza uthando endaweni engajwayelekile noma umeme okwesithathu kwi "inkampani" yakho. Kodwa-ke, akuzona zonke izifiso zethu ezizalwa ngokwemvelo: ukulimala kwengqondo noma okuhlangenwe nakho okuvela esikhathini esedlule kungakubeletha ekuqapheleni kwethu isifiso esingabizwa ngokuthi siphilile.
Injabulo ngokuhlupheka
Ucansi - inqubo ehlanganisiwe, umphumela wayo uncike esimweni sozakwethu ngamunye. Ebuhlotsheni obunempilo, ngalinye lawo maqembu ayaqonda ukuthi linganikeza umlingani nokuthi umuntu amthandayo "ongawuphendula kanjani embhedeni. Uma nobabili nizwa injabulo yenqubo esondelene kakhulu, asikho isizathu sokuthokozela. Kuvela izinkinga uma ungakwazi ukuthola okuqinile koxhumana naye omuhle - isifiso sokuhlupheka ngokomqondo noma ngokomzimba kwesinye isikhathi ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuthola i-orgasm endaweni ethokomele. Umuntu udinga ukuqhekeka kwemizwa, futhi ungahlali ubusa kahle ekugcineni. Lesi sici singabizwa ngohlobo oluthile lwe-masochism. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukuphendukela kuchwepheshe ngesikhathi ukuze ungalahli isifiso nentshisekelo ngocansi ngaphansi kwezimo ezijwayelekile. Qikelela kuwe.
Ucansi kufanele lujabulise kubo bobabili
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Isifiso sokudala izinhlungu
Isimo se-reverse masochism. Uma uqonda ukuthi ukusondela kwakho kumlingani akusekho okubangela imizwa eyedlule ekhanyayo, "Umbala" osondelene nezindlela ezahlukahlukene, kubandakanya nemidlalo ye-erotic. Isimo sokuguqula esiyingozi sithatha uma ufinyelela ukuphazamiseka noma ubuhlungu kuphela kumlingani noma ubuhlungu, makangakuveze ukunganeliseki. Lesi sifiso sikhuluma ngokuqala kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, okubalulekile ukunaka nokusebenza nodokotela wezengqondo ukugwema ukuthuthuka okwengeziwe.
Ucansi njengendlela yokuphakamisa ukuzethemba
Kwesinye isikhathi ukwehluleka empilweni yangempela kungaletha ukungaphatheki kahle okungabekezeleleki. Ngokwesimo sethu, isifiso sokudlula ophikisana naye sibekwe, futhi uma lokhu kungenzeki, ake sithi emsebenzini noma kwezinye izindawo zokuphila, ngokuqhubekayo kudinga isinxephezelo. Imvamisa, abantu bathola insindiso ekuxhumaneni okusondelene: Umbono wokuthi "ngidinga ukuthi kudingeka", "Ngibalulekile / ngingumuntu obalulekile," mhlawumbe isikhathi esithile sokuphelelwa yithemba, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye Ucansi luzokwamukela kuphela ukuskrola okungapheli komcabango ngokubaluleka kwako ekhanda. Njengoba uqonda, ukuzethemba ngeke kubambelele ecansini, kanye nokusondela akwakhiwa lapho kuncike khona.