Noma yibuphi ubuhlobo bomuntu buyinkimbinkimbi futhi budinga umsebenzi. Kepha kufaneleka nini ukuma? Lapho ubudlelwano bungenangqondo? Sizama ukuthola i-Sology-Fasticologist, i-Blogger yezocansi uLarisa Konstantinidi.
FISOOLOGIAIST-FOXOLOGIOLOGIOLOGIOLOGIOL, ELING Blogger Larisa Konstantinidi @Lori_Taks:
Ubudlelwano bukhona kuze kube iphuzu elithile, ngenkathi benengqondo, ukugqugquzela, inhloso. Ngokwebudlelwano, sanelisa izidingo zemvelo ehlukile. Singaba ngumuntu ogcwele ngokuphelele, kepha funa umuzwa othile ebudlelwaneni - isidingo sothando, ngokwesibonelo. Ngaphambi kwalesi sidingo senelisekile, abantu basebudlelwaneni. Eqinisweni, angikwazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo wanoma yimuphi umuntu futhi ngithi udinga ukuhamba, ngoba imingcele yomuntu siqu nemibono mayelana nobudlelwano ihlukile. Isincomo kungenzeka uma othile ebudlelwaneni eyingozi komunye.
Into esemqoka ebuhlotsheni izokuphepha ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba
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Lapho ngokuzimela kungasebenzi ngokuzimela ebudlelwaneni, okuletha izinhlungu nokudumazeka, kufanelekile ukuxhumana nochwepheshe, futhi kanye nawe uzothatha le ndlela. Into esemqoka ebuhlotsheni izokuphepha ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Ngingakucebisa ukuthi uhambe uma kukhona ukungaboni ngaso linye. Kunzima kakhulu ukucabanga nge-pair engaguquki endaweni yezepolitiki yokubuka noma ukubheka umshado nezingane. Esiteji, lapho kungenzeka ukutadisha nokuqonda umuntu, kufanelekile noma cha, sivame ukwenza okulindelwe kwethu ukuthi ngubani ongasebenzi kulokhu okulindelwe. Okokuqala, siya ezingilazini ezipinki, bakholelwa ukuthi umlingani uhlangabezana ngempela nalokho okulindelwe. Kuhle, uma kunjalo. Kepha, njengomthetho, khona-ke ekulumeleni uqala ukuqonda ukuthi umlingani wakho awesiwo nakanjani lokho ongathanda ukukubona eduze kwakho. Kepha njengoba i-psyche yomuntu ilungiselelwe ukusivikela, gcina amandla, siqala ukucacisa umlingani. Kwesinye isikhathi inqubo yokuqwashisa ingahlala isikhathi eside kakhulu, iminyaka.
Lapho ngokuzimela kungaphumi ebudlelwaneni, okuletha izinhlungu nokudumazeka, kufanele ukuxhumana nochwepheshe
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Isinqumo sokuhlukana sihlala sinzima kakhulu, ngoba amandla amaningi angokomzwelo atshaliwe kumuntu, ezezimali. Wonke umuntu wenza isinqumo lapho kufanele ahambe. Omunye angaba khona esimweni sokukhungatheka, ukungalingani kanye nokudumazeka, futhi othile akabekezeleleki, lapho omunye umuntu, uma emunye, ebeka isipuni ngaphandle kwalokho, yini engingayithanda. Kunoma ikuphi, sifuna umlingani wezinto zokuqagela zabazali bethu. Sithandana nokuthile okujwayelekile, okusondele. Futhi lo mngani akahlali emnandi njalo. Kungaba ngonya nokubanda. Amadoda abandayo avame ukuba yisihloko sokudumisa kwabesifazane, ngoba uyise wayenjalo noma kwakungekho nhlobo. Othile uthandana nokwehla, emahlangeni ahlala njalo nasezinhlangothini - konke lokhu kuvela ebuntwaneni.