Ukuzala ngokwengqondo kungumqondo onomusa. Kukholakala ukuthi lezi yizimo lapho, naphezu kwempilo yomzimba, ukukhulelwa akwenzeki. Sizohlaziya okuvame kakhulu.
Ukwesaba
Izazi zezengqondo ze-perinatal ziphikisana nokuthi lo wesifazane kuqala "uzokhulelwa", bese usevele enomzimba. Uma ezwa ukuzethemba, kumlingani, ngokuzayo, khona-ke ubuchopho buthumela uhlelo lokuzala - "Ungakwazi". Futhi ukukhulelwa kwenzeka. Kepha uma owesifazane esesimweni sokukhathazeka noma esesabe yena nangekusasa, ungabaza umlingani wakho, khona-ke i-adrenaline iqala ukwakhiwa emzimbeni, okubhubhisa i-hormone eyinhloko yobaba - i-OcecitoCin. Nokukhulelwa akwenzeki.
Thanda ukusilela
Isizukulwane sabantu namuhla aseminyakeni yokuzala, okungukuthi, labo abaneminyaka engama-30- 40 ubudala, bazalelwa ngokwehluke ngokuphelele kunangesikhathi manje, uhlelo lokukhuliswa, kwesinye isikhathi lunzima kakhulu futhi alususi isidingo sothando, ukuqonda kanye ukwamukelwa. Futhi nangu umfazi, ake sithi ubuhlobo bezinkinga noMama, obukade bungalutholi uthando oluvela kuye kanye nengcindezi, bufuna ukubeletha ingane, kepha isibonelo sikanina size sibe buhlungu. Le yimbangela ejwayelekile yokuzala kwengqondo okudinga isifundo esikhethekile.
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Umsebenzi obalulekile
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ingxenye enkulu yeziguli engisebenza kuyo iphumelela emsebenzini futhi wazi ukuthi ungayenza kanjani imali. Kodwa-ke, ngumsebenzi ongeke uphonswe nganoma iyiphi indlela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, unikeza ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yiwo, ngomunye - "imigqa" imisebenzi yowesifazane. Ulahlekelwa ubunikazi bakhe besifazane, uyeka ukuzizwa futhi ephendula amasamba somzimba, ngoba uma umphefumulo uyakhala, khona-ke kuwukubika umzimba. Umsebenzi uvame ukuba kubalulekile ekutheni abafelo sebeye batshelwa kusukela ebuntwaneni - funda, basebenze, bazuze, bahlinzeke. Futhi lezi zisemisebenzi yesilisa ukuthi, ngesikhundla sazo esivelele, zingaphazamisa umsebenzi wohlelo lokuzala lwabesifazane.
Ukuphatha
Ukungabi nakho kokukhulelwa okubhekene nesizinda sesifiso sowesifazane kuhlale kulawulwa - enye inkinga evamile okufanele usebenze kuyo. Abesifazane abanjalo bakhuluma nabo - "Ngidinga ingane nephuzu." Futhi lapho ingane ingasebenzi, phendulela impilo yakho, futhi ngasikhathi sinye impilo yomlingani, kwisihogo esihogweni emhlabeni. Bajwayele ukuthi konke kuqhubeka uhlelo olufakwe kusengaphambili futhi usabele ngobuhlungu ukwehluleka. Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuziphatha okunjalo ukungathembeki okuyisisekelo komhlaba, okubuye kube nebhulokhi ukukhiqiza kabusha inzalo.
Isisusa Esingalungile
Ngihlala ngicela iziguli zami: Kungani udinga ingane. Futhi nakhu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izinhloso zawo zangempela zikubomama. Kungenzeka ukuthi akafuni ingane nhlobo, futhi umbono ungowomyeni wakhe noma ogogo bakhe. Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane iyindlela yowesifazane ohlukanise nabazali, ukufakazela ukuthi usendala. Noma wesaba ukuhlala wedwa, uyazivikela, ngenxa yalokho, kusukela isizungu, ufuna ukuba ngumuntu ofanele. Futhi yisiphi isisusa esilungile, uyabuza? Yebo, vele unikeze impilo yomuntu omusha, wazi injabulo yokuba ngumama noyise, ukwembula izithelo zobabili nozakwethu wothando. Lokhu ngokwakhiwa. Kwenzeka futhi ukuthi owesifazana abukeke ukukhulelwa, hhayi lapho ngizalwa umntwana, ikakhulukazi uma kungenzeki iminyaka eminingi. Futhi-ke, maye, azikho amacala okukhunjwa ukukhulelwa, ngoba isiguli asiziboni, okungukuthi, umgomo lapha akuyona ukuzalwa, kepha iqiniso lokuzala.
Ezinye izisusa ezibhubhisayo:
- Ukukhulelwa njengomfafazi ngokomthetho;
- Isisusa sezinto ezibonakalayo (ethola izindlu noma isimo somndeni omkhulu);
- Ukugcina impilo, kunombono wokuthi ukukhulelwa "kuvuselela umzimba."
- Ukwenqatshwa kusuka esikhathini esedlule (manje sehluke ngokuphelele, ngingu-a -ch).
Eco njengendlela yokuphila
Yebo, ezinye iziguli "zijwayela" ukulwela ukukhulelwa kanye nengane ukuthi iba yindlela yabo yokuphila, inqubo ejwayelekile. Kuyenzeka futhi ukuthi ukungakwazi ukuba nezingane kubanikeze amalungelo athile emndenini noma isimo esikahle se- "isisulu", ukwenqaba okungekho, kunjalo, ongafuni. Ngoba kuleli cala kuzosuswa esisekelweni. Futhi isizathu esinjalo kunzima ukusithola.
Okufanele ngikwenze? Ube ngowesifazane. Vumela ukuba buthakathaka futhi uthembele emhlabeni. Ukusebenzisa ukoma ukuze kulawulwe impilo futhi ngenhla komlingani. Futhi ulalele. Zibuze: ngifunani? Ngizibona kanjani eminyakeni emihlanu? Futhi nale ndoda eduze? Futhi ungalisho igama elithi "ukuzala."