Uma ucabanga ngobudlelwano obukhululekile, into yokuqala efika engqondweni ukuntuleka kokulawulwa kanye nemikhawulo kumlingani. Kodwa-ke, ngokoqobo, bambalwa abantu abakwaziyo ukucabanga nokwenza ngaphandle kokubheka ingxenye yesibili. Ngalesi sizathu, kusukela ebudlelwaneni bamahhala baphendukela ekuncikelweni ndawonye, lapho umuntu enza lokho akufunayo, kanti omunye uzokubekezelela ukusebenza kwakhe. Kulokhu okubonakalayo, cabanga ngazo zonke izinzuzo nokubi kobudlelwano obukhululekile.
Abalingani abahlukene kanye nomhawu oqondile
Uma ukhona empilweni ye-neurotic, esazama ukuthola iqhinga ekuziphatheni okuphelele komuntu, khona-ke ubudlelwano bamahhala abukho ncamishi nawe. Umgomo oyinhloko lapha isithembu esingathuthuki ebudlelwaneni bezothando ngemuva kocansi. Ngaphandle kwalokho, awukho ebudlelwaneni bamahhala, kodwa bamane "ngezimpondo." Cabanga uma usukulungele ukuthola ukuthi ngubani umuntu wakho wachitha kusihlwa, futhi uhlangane nabanye abantu abasha bodwa. Yize emaphusheni umcabango wesithombe sowesifazane obulalayo ubonakala ekhanga, empilweni akukude nonke ukulungele ukushintsha kusuka kothandekayo wokuxhumana okuthe xaxa.
Zilungiselele ukubona ukubona ukuvukela umbuso njengokujwayelekile
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Isidingo sokuhlanza konke
Ngeke kwenzeke ukucasha kumlingani wakho ukuthi walala nomhlangano wokuqala ngemuva kwephathi ekilabhini. Isisekelo sobudlelwano samahhala ukuthembela nokuvuleleka nomunye. Zilungiselele ukusho ngemininingwane yemihlangano yakho esondele, uma lokhu kufunwa yisigamu sesibili. Umgomo oyinhloko wokuhlangenwe nakho ohlangothini luyazi ulwazi kanye ne-adrenaline ekuxhumaneni okusondelene nomuntu omusha. Ngakho-ke uzokuqonda lokho ofuna ukukuthola kumlingani embhedeni, futhi ungathola ukuthi hlobo luni lokuthandwa yinye yezinzuzo ezingenakuphikwa.
Ungesabi abagxeki
Uma ushunqiwe ngumuntu ongamazi ukuthi ungasivikela kanjani isikhundla sakhe engxabanweni futhi unamahloni ukujwayelana nabantu, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzobe ulungele ukugxekwa kwabathandekayo. Wonke umuntu kuzofanela achaze intombi, ebize phakathi kobusuku ngokuvezwa: 'Ngibone isilwane sakho, ekilabhini nenye intombazane!' Ungalokothi uvumele abanye bakuhlambalaze ngoba nje: Impilo yakho iwukuthi uphila ngenye indlela: ukukhetha kwakho.
Xoxa noMlingani ngakho konke ukuze kungabikho
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Ukuzicabangela - hhayi i-soz, kanye nesidingo
Akunandaba ukuthi upholile kangakanani, kepha kwesinye isikhathi kuzobonakala ngawe ukuthi umlingani wakho eshintshele emkhakheni ovunyelwe futhi wahlelwa kuwo wonke ithuna. Umhawu nentukuthelo yimizwa ejwayelekile, into esemqoka ngesikhathi sokucindezela. Bheka wena uzoba udokotela wezengqondo ongcono kakhulu kuwe: Cabanga ukuthi kungani kungakanani ukuvukela umbuso, futhi manje baba novalo. Ubudlelwano obumahhala buphakamisa ukuxhumana njalo nabo ukuze bakwazi ukuthola izifiso ezingenamkhosi ezingenayo futhi baxazulule inkinga esiteji se-infardier - Kulokhu kudingeka kulungiselelwe.