Ukuziphatha okungafuneki ebudlelwaneni kunezizathu eziningi - kusuka engosini kuya kwezokwelapha. Kodwa-ke, lapho uqala nje ubuhlobo, izibuko ezipinki zingahlunga amasiginali wengozi abomvu, okuholela ekuthambekeni ukuze alungise ukusebenza okungamukeleki. Kuyiqiniso, abantu abaningi kwesinye isikhathi baziphatha kabi, okubandakanya ukukhombisa izimpawu ze-egoism, ukungasebenzi kanye nokugqekeza. Kodwa ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi kunohlobo oluthile lobuntu obumnyama ", okungenzeka ukuthi kungabi kubi ngenxa yembangela embi kakhulu - kusuka enjabulweni. Sichaza ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka nokuthi ungazibona kanjani amasiginali anjalo kumlingani wakho.
Into ebabazekayo yosizi
Uma ucabanga nge-sadizma, ungacabanga nge-marquis de garda edumile noma abalingiswa abafanayo owaziwa ngokuthambekela kwethu okungajwayelekile. Kodwa ukudabuka kungaphezu kokudala ubuhlungu bomzimba. Lokhu kuyintokozo yokulimaza enye nganoma iyiphi indlela. Usosayensi uDelleta L. Polhus nozakwethu baphenya izindlela ukuthi usizi luxhumana ngezindlela. Bachaza ukuthi "i-thread emnyama" kubhekisele ekuhlanganiseni kwezinto ezintathu "emphakathini ezinolaka", okungukuthi: Psychopathy, Narcissism kanye neMagiavellism. Baphawula lokho, yize ngamunye wabo enokufana ngezifundazwe zangempela zemitholampilo, avele futhi aveze umehluko omkhulu kumasampula avela emaqenjini angawolwanga emtholampilo.
Udlame alugcini ngokomzimba kuphela, kodwa futhi nangokwengqondo
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Yini okufanele uyinake
Ukukhuluma Kalula, wonke amamodeli wokuziphatha kufanele abe yizimpawu zakho, lapho umuntu azibeka khona njengesizinda sendawo yonke futhi azinaki izifiso zabanye abantu, futhi athambekele ekuphoqeleleni izindlela zokuthola abanye, noma ngabe zinjalo. Isibonelo, ingxoxo lapho ukhathele futhi ufisa ukuphumula, noma ukusetshenziswa kodlame lomzimba. Nansi imikhuba emihlanu yamadoda okufanele iqaphele:
Mallmail. Unelungelo lokuhlukanisa nomuntu ebudlelwaneni obuhle, ungezwa ukuphendula ukuthuka nezinsongo. Uma umfana eqala ukukhohlisa iqiniso lokuthi ukuxhumana noma isithombe esiseduze ", lokhu kuyisibonakaliso esicacile sokuthi akunakwenzeka ukubuyela endodeni enjalo emuva.
Ukungahambi kahle. Uma umuntu eshesha, abese ephenduka, ngaphambi kwakho, futhi, umuntu onengqondo eyenziwe. Noma yisiphi isilinganiso sodlame lwengqondo noma ngokomzimba asizange semukeleke ekubambisaneni okulinganayo okulinganayo.
Ukuziphindisela. Isifiso sokulimala noma okubi kakhulu kunabahlaseli - futhi hhayi okujwayelekile. Noma ngabe yanqunywa emgwaqweni, bathola umugqa, bathuka umsebenzi, konke lokhu akusona isizathu sokuyeka inkinga ebukhoneni bakho. Nganoma yikuphi ukungezwani kwezengqondo, ungabhekana nezindlela ezijwayelekile - ekuqeqesheni noma ngesikhathi sengxoxo nomuntu osondelene naye.
Unya. Ngokuphathelene nabantu, isihluku akufanele sisetshenziswe ngendlela efanayo naso ngokuqondene nezilwane. Uma umuntu evumela ukuba ashaye isilwane esibi, khona-ke unezinkinga ezisobala ngekhanda lakhe. Naka izimpawu ezinjalo - zimbi kakhulu.
Maqondana nezilwane, unya unyakezwa
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Ukulawula. Nguwe kuphela owaziyo ukuthi ufunani nalokho okudingayo. Uma umlingani enquma kwababili ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza kwakho, kusho ukuthi akakufaki lutho. Kumabhangqa, abantu kufanele bakhulume futhi bafike esinqumweni esijwayelekile, futhi hhayi ukuthi benze ngedwa uma kungezwa inkululeko yakho, kodwa amabili ngasikhathi sinye.