UDyskomphophobia uwukuphambuka kwengqondo lapho umuntu engakwamukeli ukubukeka kwakhe futhi ezama njalo ukuyishintsha. Isibonelo, ufuna ukufaka ama-veneers ukumamatheka okumhlophe okumhlophe kweqhwa, yize une-koqweqwe lwawo olukhanyayo, noma ukulungele ukuya ekuhlinzekeni ngopulasitiki ukuze kuguqulwe ukwakheka kwekhala ngaphandle kobufakazi bezokwelashwa. Izazi zezengqondo zichaza ukuthi kungani isifiso sokushintsha singaletha ekuphashweni kwemizwa.
Zonke izinkinga zivela ebuntwaneni
Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi zonke izincomo zezingane ziqongelela abangazi lutho futhi ziboniswa kwi-psyche yomuntu omdala. Uma uhlala ugconwa ngamaphutha wokubukeka, kepha abazali abazami ukusekela futhi banake izinzuzo zakho, nakanjani, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, wawunobunzima bokuphansi. Ukuzethemba okuphansi nokwenqatshwa kwabo kuvuse ukuphambuka okukhulu kwe-psyche. Isibonelo, kungabonakala sengathi labo abaseduze kwakho bayakuxoxa nawe futhi bakuhleke, abadlulayo babheka ukulahlwa, futhi bavalele amanga ngobuhle obukhona. Kulokhu, kufanelekile ukuqonda ukuthi inkinga ilele kakhulu - ayixazululwa ngo-plastiki nezinqubo, udinga ukusebenza nodokotela wezengqondo.
Intukuthelo yezingane ayidlule isikhathi eside
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Ukuguga akuyona intokozo
OLUNYE OLUNYE UBONAKALISO, ngokusho kochwepheshe bezengqondo, ukwenqaba ukwamukela iqiniso lokuguga. Bheka Abezindaba kanye nemikhiqizo kuvusa ukwesaba kuphela. Cabanga ukuthi ubone kangaki isikhangiso ngethuluzi elenzelwe ukubuya nentsha? Yebo, isifiso sokubukeka sihle sijwayelekile. Kodwa-ke, udinga ukuhlangana nombono wokuthi ngokushesha noma izinguquko ezibonakalayo ezibonakalayo zizovela ebusweni bakho nasemzimbeni. Ungacabangi ukuthi usuphenduke umuntu omubi futhi ose-asexual - hhayi nakancane! Phila futhi ujabulele impilo kungakhathalekile ubudala.
Ukwehluleka empilweni yomuntu siqu
Uma, ngesikhathi sengxabano, umlingani ekutshela: "Zibheke, okudingayo?" Sikucebisa ukuthi ubalekele masinyane kuye. Ingxabano yokugcina kunoma iyiphi ingxabano inguquko kumuntu. Okubi kakhulu lapho azi ngezakhiwo zakho futhi zizama ukunquma isiguli. Zithokozise nabantu abathanda kuqala umphefumulo wakho kanye nekhwalithi yezinhlamvu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akunandaba ukuthi unawo yini isibalo esifanelekile, uma "u-dummy" ngaphakathi. Izazi zezengqondo zibiza ukungaphelelwa yithemba lapho ubudlelwano bungengezi, kepha ukukhokha isikhathi sokuzibonakalisa. Sebenzisa ukwamukelwa kwesibuko Lokhu kuchazwa kanjena: Konke okungasifaneli kwabanye, kukhombisa ukwesaba kwethu okufihliwe. Lapho ungashiyi umlingani ongakuhloniphi, khona-ke awuzihloniphi. Ngikholwe, impilo yakho izoshintsha ibe ngcono, ngokushesha nje lapho ubona lokhu futhi usebenze kuwe.
Ziguqule ubumnandi, hhayi ukwesaba
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Ukuvumelanisa - ama-dysmoremophilics afanayo
Lapho ufunda izindaba zabantu abangakuthathi ukubukeka kwazo, abaningi babo bathi yonke impilo yabo izama ukwephula abanye - ukubiza, ukusebenzisa amandla ngokomzimba, inikeze amandla asemzimbeni. Into yokugcina ibaluleke kakhulu, ngoba uMkhandlu ongaqondakali uyindlela efihlekile yohlaka. Ngemuva kwesifiso esibonakalayo sokusiza, lapho usule intombi eyayiza ngemuva kokuzalwa kokudla intombi, ufihla ukugxila esifanekisweni sakho. Enye into uma iDasha uqobo izobuza izeluleko zakho - yabelana ngesibindi ulwazi lokudla okufanele nokuqeqeshwa. Qondisisa ukuthi wonke amagama akho anamandla - ungabavikeli abangacabangi.