Khumbula, ebuntwaneni sonke sathanda ukuthola izipho - silinde usuku lokuzalwa noma elinye iholide ngesineke esimangalisayo. Futhi uma intombazane encane ilangazelela ngoba empilweni yabazali nabangane, ebudaleni kubalulekile ukuze baqonde ukuthi akuzona zonke izipho, zibize kakhulu lokho. Kepha futhi akukufanele ukubheka izinsolo zawo wonke umuntu - abantu abaningi bayakhiwa kabusha, bebona injabulo emehlweni abomukeli bendandatho noma amathikithi e-ballet alindelwe isikhathi eside. Namuhla sinqume ukukhuluma ngezipho ezivela emadodeni, kungani zivame ukubanikeza nokuthi zingazithatha kanjani, ukuze zingadali ukungaqondani nhlangothi zombili.
Yini lokhu okwenzeka emvelweni?
Eqinisweni, hhayi umuntu kuphela onokuqonda ukuthi izipho ziyakwazi ukuheha ukunakwa kwabantu bobulili obuhlukile: cishe zonke izilwane ngandlela thile ukunikeza umngane womshado, kubalwa ekubuyiselweni komphefumulo, kubalwa ekubuyiselweni. Ngakho-ke akufanele umangale ukuthi umuntu, noma ngabe awukuhlelele kakhulu kuwe, uthola ngenkuthalo izintshisekelo zakho ukuze unikeze isipho esingeke sikushiye ongenandaba. Indoda imane igcwalise uhlelo lwemvelo.
Isipho esivela kumuntu asihlali sisikisela ecansini
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Okwenza Sasaba ukuthatha izipho
Zonke izinkinga zethu zabantu abadala zivela ebuntwaneni. I-Psyche yethu enhle ikhumbula isipiliyoni esedlule. Ake sithi ufuna ngempela ukuvakashela lokhu okuhehayo epaki, lapho abazali baphendule khona: "Hawu, uzobhala lo mthetho ngophelele, hamba" futhi yilokho kuphela umoya onjalo. Uqala ukubona noma iziphi iziphakamiso ezenzelwe ukukunikeza imizwa emihle njengendlela yokuthola okuthile ngokubuyisa. Kubi kakhulu, le ndlela isebenza ngokumelene nabesilisa. Uqala ukusola ngisho nendoda oyithandile isifiso sokukudonsela embhedeni, ngaphandle kwalokho kungani ekunika ijazi loboya?
Okufanele ngikwenze?
Manje sikhuluma ngamadoda owabudlelwano naye ngokwengeziwe noma ongaphansi. Namuhla, kwesinye isikhathi amadoda asebenza emisebenzini eminingana, okusho ukuthi ukhokha ukunakwa okuncane kowesifazane wawo ukwedlula indlela ayefuna. Angaqala ukuhlenga amahora awo okusebenza phambi kwakho ngesimo somusho "Nikeza imali yokuyothenga." Abesifazane abaningi baqala ukuthukuthelela: "Ufuna ukungithengela!" Cha, ayifuni. Abesilisa, ikakhulukazi matasa, akuvamile ukuba bakhathaze lapho kufanele bathole khona into othanda ukuyithanda - kungenzeka nje ukungabi nesikhathi. Ngokukunikeza imali, uyaxolisa ngokuntuleka kweduze. Ungavuki ku-pose futhi ubonise ulaka.
Ngokuqondene nalawa madoda ojwayelene nowajwaye futhi angaqinisekile ukuthi kufanelekile yini ukuthi ukuphindisela, wamukele isipho wena ngokwakho ongakwazi ukukhokhelanga, awukufanele. Uzonikeza umuntu ithemba elingenalutho lokuphindisela kwangempela, yize empeleni ephula amaphupho akhe nokholo engxenyeni yensikazi yesintu. Thembeka phambi kwakhe nakuwe.