Inkinga enkulu engithola ngayo umsebenzi ngokudla okungokomzwelo yinto yokudla okungokomzwelo, ukuziphatha kwabantu okubonakalayo nokubonakalayo okuboniswe ngobudlelwano nokudla. Lesi sihloko sijulile futhi siyathakazelisa, sigcwele izingibe nezingqinamba, ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka uma kwenzeka kungenzeki ukuhlukanisa ngokuguqula kuphela umbono owodwa wengqondo. Enhliziyweni yalokhu kubandakanyeka, "ukuqina" ekudleni kuhlupheka kakhulu ekubonisweni okuhle kakhulu. Abathengi abanesibindi abajabule.
Ubuhlungu obuphumelelayo
Kuyinto encane nje yokucwilisa imaskhi yokuthembeka, impumelelo yangaphandle, ubuhle obungenakuphikwa, ingcebo, ukuzimela kanye nobuhlungu obukhulu obuphenya kakhulu, njengoba nobuhlungu obugcwele ngokucophelela bukhanya kakhulu futhi buhlungu. Ukwanda kwalokhu kutheleleka ngaphansi kwegama elithi "Ukuhlupheka" kunesilinganiso esingaphezu kwamandla. Qalaza. Bheka esibukweni, futhi ngokuqinisekile uzothola umkhondo wakhe.
Isidingo sothando yi-firmware yethu eyisisekelo, futhi kungenxa yayo sisengozini enkulu. Uthando lusebenzisa abantu esincike kulo. Kamuva, thina, abafundi abanethalente, sisebenzisa okufanayo ngendlela engcono kakhulu kulabo abathembele kithi. Izincwadi eziningi ezinhle kakhulu zibhalwa ngohlobo lwemidlalo enjalo. Thatha, ngokwesibonelo, i- "Manipulator Manipulator" yabahlabayo, noma "abantu abadlala imidlalo nemidlalo lapho abantu bedlala khona" E. Bern.
Ukukhishwa kufihla ithemba lokuphelelwa yithemba. Kwenziwa umuzwa wokuthi empilweni yami ngesikhathi esinzima akekho kimi. Ngingedwa futhi ngidinga ukwesekwa. Ngidinga uthando, ukubamba iqhaza, ukunakekelwa, engiswele kahle ngokwemvelo.
Kungaphezu kokwazi, ekuphishekeleni uthando siba yithemba futhi sihlukanisa thina. Usinde kanjani esingakwenza. Othile uphonsa imali ukwenza imali, othile udlwengule noma asebenzele kabusha umzimba wakhe, othile uyothenga, anciphise ezindabeni konke. Futhi umuntu ozingela abalingani bobudlelwano bothando, kahle, noma ngocansi nje. Uma izindlela ezinjalo zokubuyisa kabusha uthando ungasebenzi, ungaphendukela otshwala, izidakamizwa, ukugembula noma, ukugula, ukugula ngesifo esingalapheki! Kunezindlela eziningi, kepha sizohlala namuhla ekudleni okuphelelwe yithemba.
Kungani ukudla? Yebo, ngoba leli thuluzi elilula elinikeza ukwaneliseka okusheshayo. Ukudla bekutholakala lapho sintula abazali baseduze. Ukudla akuzange kuvuke futhi akuzange kusishiye, njengoba kwenza uYise. Ukudla akuzange kulimaze usizi nezinkinga. Akazange athi "cha." Akazange ashaye. Ukudla bekungadakwanga. Bekulokhu kutholakala njalo, noma ngabe bekunqabile futhi kunqunyelwe. Wayenambitheka. Kufudumele lapho sihlasela, sehlile emlilweni. Ukudla sekuphenduke umngane osondelene naye, ohlala eduzane. Kungenzeka ukuthi wayefana kakhulu nothando esasivame ukuswela khona. Kodwa-ke, ukudla akuzange kube ukushintshwa okugcwele. Wahlala e-surrogate, engakwazi ukuqeda indlala yangempela edumile.
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UMila, njengegama lakhe, kunalokho iMilovoid. Iphelele isethi yayo, futhi esikhwameni sakhe esihle sesandla kuhlale inamaswidi, ushokoledi, ikhukhi elimnandi noma i-waffelka. Ubheka etafuleni elijwayelekile lapho sabuthana khona esinkwa se-Refrart, futhi sadumala ngezandla zabo - "Akekho noyedwa owaqagela ukuthi alethe okuthile okuhle - okumnandi." UMila ucebile, unobungcweti obukhethekile, umyeni kanye nabantu abadala abazimele. Kepha ngaleso sikhathi ubukeka njengembambatha encane edidekile. Imvelaphi yokudumazeka kwakhe, ukudideka kanye nokucindezelwa kwamanga aphansi we-lip enganeni ekhohliwe. Lapho kungazelelwe kwafa ubaba wayo muhle, futhi basala bodwa ngosizi lwabo ngosizi lwabo abasebancane futhi bagcwele amathemba aphukile. Kusukela lapho, sekuvele amaswidi ezimpilweni zabo. Amaswidi amaningi. Kwakungenakwenzeka ukukhala futhi ngokudabukisayo: umlomo wasukuma nomunye uswidi. Namuhla, akekho noyedwa owenqabela ukukhala nokuzwakalisa ukudabuka okugcwele - kuyenza yena uqobo, abe ngowesifazane okhulile. Amaswidi agcinwe esikhwameni adambisa ukukhathazeka kwentombazane evuthiwe. Uma kwenzeka, uma kuba lusizi. Futhi udabukile manje usesikhathini sonke, ikakhulukazi njengoba izingane zisukuma zashiya indlu. Futhi lesi simo siveza izinkumbulo zesikhathi eside zokushonelwa sekwedlule isikhathi somuntu onomdabu kakhulu nothandekayo - upapa.
Abathengi abanesibindi bajwayele ukusebenzisa ukudla njengothando lwe-surrogate, olungasakwazi ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izidingo. Besingathandanga ebuntwaneni njengoba sidinga. Futhi ukuba ngabantu abadala, asikwazi ukubona nokunxephezela ukusilela kothando. "I-Pizza ukuphela kokulungiswa kothando engikudingayo manje," abathengi abanokunqoba bazokutshela. Ngendlela yabo baqinisile. Kepha ukucabanga okunjalo nokuziphatha akuphumelelanga ngokuphelele ekuhambeni kwesikhathi.
Umngani wami, esigxotsheni, umfazi omuhle kakhulu obukekayo obukekayo. Ngimbheka futhi ngiyawathanda: umlomo wakhe uhlala uhamba emdanso ongahlafuni. Udla ngaso sonke isikhathi. Konke. Ngisho nokwazi kwethu kokuqala kwakungu: "Sawubona, igama lami ngingu-Agniška. Kumnandi. Ngabe kukhona okudingayo? " Ngomsebenzi, ungumuntu we-psychotheratiatist. Ukhuluma ngobuntwana bakhe nangobudlelwano noMama. Isibonelo, umama amtshela ukuthi: "Phonsa konke, hamba kukhona i-pasta." Ungu: "Kepha angifuni ukudla i-pasta, manje ngifuna ukudweba!" Umama, ngaphandle kokuhamba ngisho ne-eyebrow: "Ufuna i-pasta. Ngazi kangcono! " I-Agneshka iminyaka engama-40. Umama uyaqhubeka nokuxhumana ngendlela ejwayelekile, yinye yedwa futhi kwelinye izwe. Uwedwa kuphela, uhlala efulethini elincane elisuswayo eJerusalema, ezama ukuthola imihlobimbandlela eyenziwe ekhaya. Ukudla ukuphela kwento empilweni yakhe ikhona njalo. Futhi, kunjalo, amaphupho okunciphisa isisindo.
Ngabe ubukhulu bethu buxhomeke kukho?
Ukuziphatha kokudla okukhohlisayo kuwukubonakaliswa kwenkolelo egxile ngokujulile yokuthi "asilungile ngokwanele ukusithanda njengoba sinjalo."
Esinye isibonelo. Insikazi eneminyaka engama-45 ubudala. Imncane kakhulu ukuthi uma ibonakala umuzwa omubi. Hhayi ukuncipha uqobo, kepha ukuphuma okuphelele futhi kungahle kubonakale. Wacishe wayeka ukudla futhi wayekhona iminyaka eminingana, ngoba umyeni wakhe wamshiya. Akaze azi ukuthi kufanele apheke kanjani. Indoda empilweni yakhe yilabo abathengiwe, abazilungisile futhi bondliwe. Ngokuyinhloko, washintsha ukunakekelwa kwakhe kwabazali ukuze anakekele umyeni wakhe. Wajwayela indlela yokuthi kusukela emkhombeni ophukile, wahlala engenalo umthombo wothando kukho konke ukubonakaliswa kwalo. Izingane zikhulile ziphile ngokwahlukana. Uyedwa, uhola amakilasi e-yoga. Ngaye, iya esitolo, thatha inqola, khetha ukudla, uyikhokhele, ulethe ekhaya bese upheka, ume, ume, ume e-slab ngumsebenzi ongabekezeleleki. Ngikhuluma ngalesi sibonelo akuyona ukuhleka. Uyahlupheka ngempela. Futhi ngendlela yayo ilungile, kungaqondakala. Uma ukudla kuluthando, alukho uthando empilweni yakhe. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi ungakanani oneminyaka emingaki, uma singafundi ngempela ukuzinakekela.
Ukuhlupheka kusekelwe ezinkolelweni ezijulile ezingasinikezi ukwedlula imibono yawo ejwayelekile ngathi. Lokho akusoli, siphila impilo yakwamanye amazwe esimweni somunye umuntu. Kulesi simo, noma ngabe umuntu futhi asithande ngempela, siyayicindezela ngokuzithandela, ngoba lolu thando olungahlelwanga luzovimba ngokujwayelekile.
Ubukhulu bomzimba wethu buya ngezinkolelo ezitholakalayo mayelana nothando, mayelana nenani lazo, ngamathuba ethu. Yize kunjalo, labo abaphendukela ekudleni nangokuthi isizungu, ngasikhathi sinye sokulahlekelwa isisindo, bashintshe futhi bacekele phansi ingxenye yomzimba wabo "owengeziwe" futhi bayazethemba ukuthi bayakwazi ukuguqula okuthile empilweni. Kepha imizamo enjalo ihlushwa yiFiasco. Akunakwenzeka ukulahla umsoco onqume ngokomoya ngaphandle kokujulisa ebuhlungwini, lapho kutholakala khona ukuphunyula ngokudla.
Uma nje singavuli, esingemva kokuziphatha okubonakalayo kokudla, azikho izinguquko ezinkulu empilweni ezingakhuluma. Ufisa ukuguqula imizimba yabo enhle kungaba ukuthola ukuthi yini eyenze! Jwayela umzimba wakho, funda ngezingcingo zakhe futhi uthole amakhono okumlalela. Futhi-ke, ekugcineni, thatha izidingo zakhe zangempela. Umzimba wethu uhlukile ngoba unomqondo wayo. Ihlela ukucabanga nokuzethemba cishe ngokushesha.
Lo mbhalo ngokuqinisekile uzokushiya udumazekile, ngoba ngeke ugcwaliswe ngamaphoyinti ayi-10 endabuko ngeziqinisekiso (endabeni yokungabi nakubi futhi ekhuthele) ekugcineni ufinyelele ukukhanyiswa okujabulisayo. Ngalo lonke uzwela ukuze ufune ukuphila kahle futhi ungqubuzana, mathupha, ngesimo esinjalo, kukhona ubudlelwane obuningi namathuna angenamkhawulo. Ngikholwa ukuthi impilo iyi-adventure ehehayo ehehayo. IMaya Plesetskaya iveze indlela elula yokulondolozwa kwefomu - "Ungadli." Ufuna ukuyeka ukuqhekeka? Vuka impilo! Zibekezelele. Buyisela impilo yakho. Ubanjwe ngokuqinile ekunikezeni kwakho nasesihawu. Angisho ukuthi udinga ukulahla lawa masu. Bavele bazivelela isikhathi eside futhi bebengeke banikeze noma yini okusha kuwe! Isikhathi sokumangaza. Zama ezinhlobonhlobo zama-sphere. Khipha ifriji ekugcineni. Ngobumbano futhi ngobuciko ukuveza ulaka ekhelini, hhayi ngaphakathi emzimbeni wakho. Kubonakale, esikhundleni sokucasha. Futhi lapho, ubheka, ukudla kuzoba nje ukudla, okuyinto empeleni.
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