Isifiso esinamandla sokuba sephelele sihlala njalo futhi kukho konke, isifiso se-main sokulungile, ukuncika kokudumisa nokuvunywa kwabanye abantu - konke lokhu kubona okukodwa okubizwa ngokuthi "umfundi omuhle kakhulu empilweni." Yini okubi ukubhekana nazo zonke izindaba nge-bang? Ingabe kuyingozi ngaphambi kokuhle kakhulu kokuhle kakhulu? Futhi kungani labo abazitholayo emandleni enhlaka enhle kakhulu, behlangabezana njalo ekukhathazekeni nasezifundeni ezicindezelayo?
Isifo esihle kakhulu ngenye yezindawo ezaziwa kakhulu ezikhuluma kuleli cala futhi ngaphandle kwalabo abangazi nhlobo engcupheni yabantu. Ngasikhathi sinye, le nkambinkimbi ibonwa njengento engeyona into ebi, ekhethwe, njengesimo esingasongeli ikhwalithi yempilo. Isimo sengqondo esinjalo sezinkinga zengqondo ngokuvamile sibonisa isimo sengqondo saseRussia: kuyaqabukela ubani uyavuma ukuthi unesifo sokudangala (ngoba nje kubhekwa njengento enjenge-capricialness ephezulu ne-handra). Okushoyo mayelana "nabafundi abahle kakhulu", ababoshwe ubukhona obufanele ngaphandle kwethuba lokuthola usizo. Sizame ukuqonda ukuthi isifiso sokucima umlilo siyohlala 'siqale', kanye nokuphuma kulesi simo ngokulahleka okuncane.
- Ngokukazengqondo kwezengqondo, kusuka kwinkimbinkimbi yefakisine Abesifazane bahlupheka kabili kaningi kunabesilisa. Ixhumeke ngama-stereotypes ayingozi amantombazane "amahle" nokuziphatha "kwawo" okufanele.
- Ukwesaba - Nazi iziphuphutheki eziphambili zokuphila ekuqaleni, bese kuba umfundi omuhle kakhulu. Ukwesaba kuvusa imiphumela emibi, kuze kube yimikhaza futhi ibonakele
Ukuphazamiseka.
- Agedonia - Leli gama libonisa ukungakwazi ukujabulela noma yini - futhi ujwayele abantu abanesifo esihle kakhulu. Isikhathi sihlala njalo, baphila ngaphansi kwesiqubulo esithi: "Awukwazi - awuqondi", futhi ungajabuli ekuhlolweni.
Umbuzo Wezingane
Izinyawo zakho zikhula kuphi kwisakhiwo esingochwepheshe? Kungenzeka ukuqonda lokhu kusuka egameni lelo: Imvamisa sijwayelana nalesi sifo eminyakeni yesikole, ngesikhathi lapho ukuhlolwa kuqalwa kusuka kuyo yonke indawo. Asigcini nje ngamamaki kudayari. Eminyakeni eyisikhombisa, umuntu uza esigabeni esisebenzayo somuntu sociallization nobuso besabela ngokudideka ngokwabo kusuka ngaphandle. Futhi manje akayena nje indodana oyithandayo nomzukulu omuhle kakhulu, kodwa futhi nomfundi ongaphumeleli, umakhelwane omkhulu, umfundi ofunda naye.
Lesi sikhathi senzeka zonke izingane, kepha kungani umuntu emshiya eqhweni, futhi othile wenza umthwalo wezakhiwo nokungabaza? Yonke le nto emndenini nasekuvuseleleni abantu abadala ababalulekile ngezinguquko empilweni yengane. Uma enza ingane ye-hooliigan nengaziwa, okwathi kunzima kothisha nabezifundisi, kodwa abazali bamukisa uthando nokwamukelwa, ngaphandle kokuphumelela ekusidumiseni ngeke bamdumise ngeke bamdumise. Esikhathini esizayo, umuntu ngeke akhathazeke ngemibono yabantu ayengabalulekile kuye.
Umzali, okuncike ezilinganisweni zalowo nalowo, obalulekile futhi odlulayo ngokudlula, kusebenza isifiso saso sokuthanda ingane yakhe
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Kepha uma 'ungena kubantu' futhi awuzange uthande umuntu, futhi emva kwalokhu, abazali bakho bakhombisa ngazo yonke imibono yabo, njengoba becasukile futhi badumala ngokuthi othile akazange athokozise othile - ukubhala. Maye, i-Card Complex Ehle kakhulu cishe idluliswa njalo kusuka kokudala kuya esizukulwaneni esincane. Umzali, okuncike ekulinganiseni kokudlula ngakunye, okubalulekile nokungesikhathi esedlule, amaphrojekthi afisa ukuthanda ingane yakhe (ngokungazi). Futhi ngakho-ke umuntu omncane ubona ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuba "kuhle" (ngisho "nokuhle kakhulu"), okulungele umzali, uma kungenjalo awuboni uthando noma umkhathazi, ukudumazeka okuqinile.
Isifiso sokujabulisa ubaba noMama singabizwa ngokuthi yi-Natural, kepha empeleni akunjalo. Ubudlelwano bemvelo phakathi kwezihlobo ezindala nezincane bothando nokwamukelwa, noma yini eyenzeka, ikakhulukazi ezweni "langaphandle" emhlabeni. Ingane ezinzile engqondweni iyazi ukuthi lo muzwa, kuyavela, kuyadingeka ukuthola okuthile okukhethekile. Kepha ingane ebingelele ngenhlanganisela yabahle kakhulu, idinga kakhulu uthando (ngokunembile, ukuvezwa kwalo) futhi ukulungele ukukuthola.
Ukuze afeze ezabo, izingane zinezindlela ezimbili - indlela yengane "enhle" nengane. "Kuhle" kuzokudla ifa lokuncika kwe-neurotic ekuhlolweni kwezemvelo futhi kuzozama ukulungele wonke umuntu. "Kubi" kuzokwenza kahle okuphambene nalokho, ukuzama ukuheha ukunakwa kokuziphatha kwe-hooligan kanye nemivuzo eyingozi. Umbuthano wobudlelwano wawuvaliwe: Kumuntu omncane osemdala, izifiso ngokweqile sezivele zabeka ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthola ukudunyiswa nokwamukelwa. Ezinganeni zomuntu onjalo, bese kubazukulu bamzukulu, nakubazukulu abakhulu, okuyinkimbinkimbi "enhle kakhulu" kuzobonakala cishe ngamaphesenti ayikhulu.
Izilinganiso zeDayari
Ngakho-ke, sathola izimpande zenkimbinkimbi. Umbuzo uphakama: Ngabe ngidinga ukulwela nalesi simo? Yini okubi ukuba nguyena ofuna ukuqonda okuhle?
Ake siqale ngeqiniso lokuthi ukuphelela kungumqondo ohlekisayo kakhulu. Akukho lutho olubi futhi olulimazayo ku-psyche ekuzameni ukufeza ipulangwe eliphakeme, ukubona ukuthi kusho ukuthini kuwe. Kulokhu, uzobona umgomo futhi ulwele ukufeza lokho. Yonke imibono yabantu ababuka ukuthi iba yikho, ingathatha noma unganaki. Ukuhlolwa komuntu wesithathu kuwe kungulwazi kuphela lokuzindla, futhi kwesinye isikhathi umsindo ongenalutho. Umbono womuntu okungeyona ingxenye ye- "Middle Circle" ngeke akuthinte.
Kepha ukuthuthukiswa kokuba ngubani ozama ukujabulisa wonke umuntu nawo wonke umuntu, wesaba ukuba "kubi" emehlweni kothile futhi uzama ukuphuthelwa ukuphelela hhayi ngokubheka kwakhe lokho? Abantu abanjalo abavami ukukhuluma ngokuthi "cha", besaba ukudumaza induna, umngani, umlingani, umzali. Banaka kakhulu ukuthi babukeka kanjani emehlweni ezindawo ezikuzungezile, bakha isithombe sabo esifanele.
Inkinga ukuthi lokhu "lokhu" kuthokozisa abanye kuphela, kepha hhayi "umfundi omuhle kakhulu". Akazi ukuthi angaziqonda kanjani, akazi futhi esaba izifiso zakhe, ngobunzima wenza izinqumo. Ucwaningo lukhombisile: phakathi kwabafundi abahle kakhulu "kunabaholi abambalwa kakhulu. Lokhu kuyaqondakala: Ukuze ubambe isikhundla esiholayo, kubalulekile ukuthi ngokushesha nangokucacile "ukwenza ukubheja", kwesinye isikhathi kungakhathazeki ngokuthi ngubani nokuthi yini ezocabanga ngawe. "Okuhle" akubekezeleleki umbono wokuthi othile okulomhlaba ungagculisekile ngawo. Kungakho ethanda ukuthatha isikhundla somculi onokwethenjelwa, oqinile nongenazinkinga.
Ngokuvamile, "abafundi abahle kakhulu" banezinkinga ngocansi. Futhi lapha izizathu nazo zilala ebusweni. Impilo Esondelene yi-sphere engabekezeleli ama-proutense nama-masks. Ukuze uthole impilo yezocansi ephumelelayo, kuyadingeka ukuqonda izifiso zakho kanye nekhono lokukhuluma ngabo (ngisho nangokuthi "Cha"), ngaphandle kokwesaba akekho nokwesaba.
Ngakho-ke, izimpilo zalabo abachitha iminyaka yabo emihle ngokulandela "amahlanu" kwabanye, kuphela ohlangothini kungabonakala kuphelele. Eqinisweni, zonke izinsuku zalezi zinto ezincike ezixhomekekezelwe ziwukusebenza kanzima: Ungayeki noma uphumule. Ungaba khona kule modi, kepha okwesikhashana: Ngokushesha lapho kuzoba nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ukucindezeleka, mania.
Ukuphelela - umqondo uhambisana kakhulu
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Ukungalaleli amaholide
Kuthiwani uma uthola inqwaba yabahle? Siqondiswa yimithetho eyinhloko yanoma yikuphi ukwelashwa: Sisebenza ngesicelo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uma ungenaso isidingo soshintsho, futhi uyakwazi okuyinkimbinkimbi yakho isikhathi eside, awufuni ukuhlukana naye, awusifuni ukusebenza naye, khona-ke asikho isidingo sokwenza okuthile.
Kuhluke ngokuphelele uma ukuqonda ukuthi "ngakho-ke akunakuphila" ukukufingqa futhi kungavumeli ukuhamba, futhi ngenxa yempilo "enhle" yengqondo ewohloka. Lapha, udinga indlela eyizinto futhi eqinile.
Into yokuqala, kusuka kulokho okufanele ulahlise indlela yokululama, ukuKhansela ukulinganisa. Noma ikuphi. Ekhelini lakho, ezihlotsheni nasekuvalekeni, okujwayelekile kanye nabantu abangabazi. Njengoba sazi, abafundi abahle kakhulu abasebenza kahle, ngakho-ke thatha lesi sici ngokwakho. Ngokusobala futhi ngokucophelela "hlunga" inkulumo yakho nengqondo, uphonsa zonke izinhlobo zezahlulelo ezilinganisiwe lapho. Njengoba kwaziwa, inkulumo yibhuloho phakathi kokwazi neqiniso, ngakho-ke vumela amagama athi "muhle" - "Wenze kahle", "Wenze kahle" futhi ngakho-ke azwakala ezindebeni zakho.
Siyakhumbula ukuthi abantu abanesifo esihle kakhulu abayimilutha yokudumisa, kusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukwamukela lokhu kudunyiswa, kepha hhayi kwabanye, kodwa ... Kuzenzele! Kukhona nomthetho ongabonakali: khetha izincomo ezingenazo izilinganiso. Qiniseka ukuthi ubhale phansi ngesikhathi esinzima ukuze ukwazi ukukhafulela ohlwini lwakho lomlingo.
Isinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu sokuphulukiswa kusuka kwinkimbinkimbi ukubheka emehlweni ekwesaba kwakho futhi uwuthathe. Yini abahlonishwayo besaba? Vele, "amabili"! Lapho esekhulile, lezi "ziphunyuke" azibalulekile, kodwa ngenxa yenu ukuze uthole isimilo esingesihle - ukufa kufana, ngakho-ke, yenza le nqubo ilawulwe. Ingabe ungumhambeli omuhle kakhulu, futhi wonke umsebenzi wesikole ujwayele ukuthi izitsha zakho ziphezulu kokuphelela? Yehlisa ngokunengqondo isidlo, kancane, ukuze ukwazi ukuthi kuphela ukwazi ukuthi "kukhona okungahambanga kahle." Ulungele inkulumo esidlangalaleni? Beka okungalungile okwamukelwe ngamagama ambalwa. Uzobona ukuthi ama-bunders akho amancane ancanyana impela futhi akekho onikeza inani elikhulu kangaka lokungapheleli ngaphandle kwakho. Kubalulekile ukuzwa lo mzuzu wokulawula: Ungapheleli, futhi isibhakabhaka ngeke siwele phansi, uma othile ebonwa. Prakthiza i-hooliganism enjalo ngangokunokwenzeka - futhi uzobona ukuthi akudingekile ukudlala uMnu. Noma uNkk. Ukuphelela ubusuku nemini.
Njengomthetho, abantu abahlushwa yinkimbinkimbi abahle kakhulu, bahlala kumandla kagesi nasekukhathazekeni. Ngakho-ke udinga ukukhetha umkhuba wokuphumula okulungele wena. Kubalulekile ukukhipha amakilasi lapho ungathola khona 'ukuhlolwa' bese uqala ukudumisa. Ngakho-ke imidlalo yokuncintisana, umdwebo weqembu noma umdanso, ama-alas, musa ukulingana. Kepha ukuhlanganyela ekupendweni wedwa nawe, zama isandla sakho embuthanweni wobumba, vakashela echibini ngaphambi kokuvala (akukho okubhukuda isikhashana!) - Izinketho ezifanele! Funa udaba olungeke lubangele isifiso sakho sokwenza kube ngcono kunawo wonke umuntu.
Okokugcina, akekho okhansela i-psychotherapy, ebhekana ngempumelelo nezakhiwo, esebenzelana nemvelaphi yawo futhi asuse izimpande zobubi. Uchwepheshe angakunikeza izinhlobo eziningi zezenzo, kufaka phakathi iqembu. Ukubambisana kuyindlela enhle yokuzibuka ohlangothini.