Thola umphefumulo obucayi - into enzima lapho ungumuntu okhulile nowanele. Usuvele uneminyaka eyi-15 ubudala lapho ebunganisi sekwanele emkhankasweni ohlanganyelwe kwi-cinema nezingxoxo zokuhleleka kwezindaba, eneminyaka engama-40 nabantu asebekhulile ngokucophelela ngokucophelela ngokukhetha abangane. Chaza ukuthi kungani ubhekene nobunzima obufana nabajwayelene.
Abantu bamatasa nomndeni wabo
Mhlawumbe isizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi kunzima kanjani ukwenza abangane ngemuva kweminyaka engama-40, ingabe yilapho iningi labantu linezinye izibopho. Lapho eneminyaka engama-40, abantu bavame ukuba nezingane ezindala (okungukuthi, intsha), kanye nalezi zingane, njengomthetho, zidinga isikhathi esiningi ekukhulisweni kwazo. Ngakho-ke, uma ungatholanga izinkinga ezifanayo, kuzoba nzima ukuqonda ukuntuleka kwesikhathi kusuka kumngane.
Ngobudala, sivame ukukhetha umndeni, hhayi abangane
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Imibuthano yezenhlalo ngemuva kweminyaka engama-30 ayishintshiwe
Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi lapho ufinyelela eminyakeni engama-30, abantu baqala ukwazisa ubuhlobo obufanele, hhayi ubungani. Njengombuthano wangaphandle, umuntu, ungahle ubonakale umcabango owesabekayo "ukuze ungene" kumbuthano osuvele wakha. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nalokhu ukujoyina amakilabhu ngenzalo. Thola isizathu sokuhlangana nalaba bantu, futhi nakanjani uzothola abantu abanomqondo ofanayo phakathi kwabo.
Ukwanda kwe-Egoism
Ngobudala, siqala ukwazisa izifiso zakho zomuntu siqu, hhayi abanye abantu, kangangokuba vumelana kakhulu nokwenza ukuyekethisa nabathandekayo. Lokhu kuphendula okujwayelekile okufakazelwa i-psyche ethuthukisiwe. Kodwa-ke, akufanele ube nesigaba kukho konke: Zama ukubheka izifiso zabo bonke futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma esimweni senkinga.
Ukuntuleka kwamakhono wezenhlalo
Uma ubheka kwi-Intanethi, kunamabhulogi amaningi okusiza ekwakheni ubudlelwane bothando, kepha bambalwa abantu abafuna ukudala ukuxhumana okuqinile nabangane. Yize zisemibandela yokusakazeka okugcwele kwe-Intanethi, sekuyisikhathi sokwenza le nkinga. Abantu baya ngokuya bexhumana nomunye ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, futhi bangaphili, okukhulisa amakhono abo okuxhumana ngempela.
Ukuxhumana nabantu abanezintshisakalo ezifanayo
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Izidingo ziba ngaphezulu
Akwanele ukukhuthaza iqembu elilodwa lomculo noma ofunda nabo ukuze aqale abangane, njengoba ebuntwaneni. Isilinganiso sokuqala sobungani ngemuva kweminyaka engama-40 senzeka ukushintshanisa imininingwane ebalulekile futhi ube wusizo komunye nomunye kwezinye izindaba. Manje uyakuqonda ukuthi ukuhambisana kubalulekile kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobuhlobo bomphakathi. Kungakho uhlelo lwezenzo olungcono kakhulu ukujoyina amakilabhu ezithakazelwayo futhi ngokuzithandela ukwenza lokho engikuthanda. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi uxhumane nabantu abanesifiso sezinto ezifana nawe.
Ukuntuleka kwemali
Umbuzo wezinto ezibonakalayo uwonakalisa noma ibuphi ubuhlobo, noma ngabe upholile kangakanani. Uma umngane enibiza ngenkomishi yekhofi noma aphakamise ukuhamba nemindeni eholidini phesheya, kepha awunamali, kungekudala noma kamuva uzoyeka ukuxhumana. Okuwukuphela kwendlela engenzeka kwakho ukuqala ukuhola ngaphezulu ukuze uhambisane nabangane.