Umzali ngamunye kuzofanele abhekane nesikhathi esingalindelekanga empilweni yengane yakhe, njengomuntu osemusha: ngoba umuntu udlula enganakwa, kwathi eminye imindeni iba isivivinyo sangempela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lesi simo sivame ukukhamba hhayi kuphela izingane ngokwazo ngokuziphatha kwazo, kodwa futhi nabantu abadala abanengqondo abazama ukungavumi, kodwa bacindezele osemusha, ngaleyo ndlela babeke okungaphezulu. Sasicabanga futhi sanquma ukuthola ukuthi iziphi izimo zikunikeza kuphela kude nentsha.
Uhlala ugxekwa
Iphutha elikhulu labazali abaningi, ikakhulukazi uma ingane ingeyokuqala futhi iyodwa. Ebuntwaneni, imiyalo yabazali ilungisiswa ukuntuleka kwesipiliyoni enganeni kanye nesifiso somholo wabazali kusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle. Endabeni yentsha, icebo elinjalo lokuziphatha lingadala hhayi ukwenqatshwa, kodwa futhi nolaka lwale nsizwa. Okubi kakhulu ukuthi umzali angenza ngesimo lapho ingane enhle engaceli izeluleko, - qala ukugxeka izinqumo nokukhetha ingane. Zama njalo ukuthola isizathu esenza ingane iza ngandlela thile, ukugxekwa kuyindlela yokungabikho.
Kwesinye isikhathi inkanuko ingaba yindaba yempilo
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Ngabe uphatha ama-stereotypes mayelana nentsha enganeni yakho
Ngamunye wethu ungumuntu ngamunye, okusho ukuthi kufanele enze iziphetho ezingathandeki, ikakhulukazi lapho zithinta ingane yakho - ukulahlekelwa inhlonipho yakhe. Kukholakala ukuthi yonke intsha ihlukaniswa umlingiswa ongenakuqhathaniswa, izifiso kanye nokuntuleka kozwela kubantu abadala. Kwenzeka, nokho, ukwenza wonke umuntu emugqeni owodwa - umsebenzi wabantu abadala abangafanele. Intsha eningi ingaziqhayisa ngezinto eziningi izimpumelelo futhi isifiso sokukhulisa kunabantu abadala abaningi. Cabanga ngalokho okuthandayo enganeni yakho eyeve eshumini nambili? Mhlawumbe lokho okucabanga ukuchitha isikhathi kungaphenduka kube yindaba yempilo.
Awukwazi ukuhlukanisa
Kuyiqiniso, akufanele uvumele impilo yengane yakho eSamotek, noma kunjalo, ukuze usola ingane kabi, futhi, akufanelekile - njengomthetho, okulindelwe kakhulu uma silindele lokhu. Nikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokuzibonakalisa ohlangothini oluhle, ungakhohlisi ukuthi "akukho okusadedelwe kuyo." Khumbula ukuthi ukufakwa kwakho kungaphula impilo yomuntu.
Awemukeli ubuntu bakhe
Enye yezinkinga ezinkulu kakhulu zanamuhla zanamuhla zokungafaneleki kwabanye abantu. Umhlaba ukhula ngesivinini esisheshayo kangangokuba abazali kunoma yisiphi isizukulwane sentando-NEILS babeka ngemuva kwezifiso, futhi izikhathi ezingaziwa nezingaziwa empilweni yengane njalo ziba nokungathembi, ukwesaba nokucasuka. Shiya. Ingane engene eneminyaka yobudala esemusha ibalulekile ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho kwayo, seyizamile ekuzilisheni okusha kwakhe, yathuthukisa amakhono ayo. Njengoba sishilo esimweni sokugxekwa, zama ukuqonda izizathu zokuthi kungani ingane yakho yenza njalo, hhayi ngenye indlela, mhlawumbe, mhlawumbe intshisekelo yengane yakho eyeve eshumini nambili ayisebenzi kangako, njengoba ubukeka ekubukeni kokuqala. Ungasheshi ngeziphetho.