Umuntu kusukela ekuqaleni uyisidalwa senhlalo. Ngeke siphile ekuhlukanisweni okuphelele, kusuka koxhumana nabo emhlabeni wangaphandle kuya uma kungenjalo ukusinda, khona-ke isimo sengqondo sinembile. Abantu abaningi kunzima kakhulu ukuyeka ngokwabo, futhi okuyisisekelo kudingeka babuze umgwaqo noma isikhathi ku-PASSPY baphenduka isifiso sangempela. Uma uzibheka kulesi sigaba, sizozama ukukusiza.
Ukuxhumana, ukuxhumana nokuxhumana futhi
Akunasidingo sokuphuma futhi "ugijimela ezingalweni" zekhawunta yokuqala. Qala nabathandekayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungagweme ukuxhumana nomndeni: Uma ukhumbula njalo imihlangano yomndeni ngoba ungafuni ukuba phakathi kwabantu, qala ukuguquka. Umndeni uzokusekela cishe kunoma yisiphi isimo, okusho ukuthi ngeke kuthuse kakhulu ukuvula. Ngemuva kwalokho kancane kancane ukukhulisa umbuthano wokuthandana: okuhle uma uthola ujwayelene nezintshisakalo zakho - kukhona okungenzeka ukuthi uzothola abangane bempilo.
Indoda ekuqaleni komphakathi
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Ungahlali uphephile
Yebo, kufanele wenze isinyathelo esinzima, okungukuthi ukuzinqobe. Kulokhu, kubalulekile ukwenza isinqumo futhi ungazami ukugwema umphumela waso, njengoba kwenzeka njalo ngabantu abavaliwe. Nquma kuhambo oluzenzakalelayo kuphela: vele uhlele isikhashana, uma kungenjalo bukhona ubungozi bokushintsha umqondo wakho. Bhalisela izifundo ezazifuna ukuvakasha, ziqale ukuzibandakanya nalokho ababekufuna ebuntwaneni, kepha akunakwenzeka ngezimo ezihlukile. Imibono emisha eyayishukumiseleka ngendlela efanelekile ukuthola umhlaba ngokwengeziwe.
Ungesabi imibono yabanye
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Ukhathazeke ukuzethemba kwakho
Kwi-Psychology, kunezindlela eziningi ezihlose ukukhomba amandla azo, uzoba lula ukwamukela. Qondisisa ukuthi akekho ophelele, futhi ngasikhathi sinye abantu abaningi bazizwa belungile, naphezu kwakho konke ukungapheleli. Kubalulekile kuwe ukuthi uyeke ukucabanga ukuthi "Uzocabangani ngabanye?" Ngikholwe, abacabangi ngawe, ngakho-ke kungani kufanele ugxile kulaba bantu?
Cabanga ukwesaba kwakho kuyo yonke imibala
Njengomthetho, sesaba okuthile okungekho emthethweni. Akukho lutho olubi ukwedlula okungaziwa, njengoba sazi. Kungakho odokotela bezengqondo banikezela ukwesaba kwabo ngephepha.
Uma kunzima ukusebenza ngezithombe, mane nje wenze uhlu lwezimo kanye nabantu abakulethela ukungakhululeki okukhulu. Imvamisa le ndlela isiza ekuboneni ngamehlo isimo futhi ithole indlela yokuyixazulula, makungaze kwenzeke ngokoqobo. Qala kusuka emicimbini emincane kakhulu ohlwini bese uqeda izimo ezesabekayo ukuthi, ngombono wakho, kungenzeka kuwe noma sekuvele.
thatha isinyathelo sokuqala ekuxhumaneni
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Thintana nochwepheshe wosizo
Kwenzeka ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuthi ubhekane ne-phobia uqobo, kulokhu awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kosizo lochwepheshe owenzelwe ukwenza ukwesaba kwakho. Imvamisa, ama-sociophobes asaba ukuphendukela ebhulini lezengqondo ngenxa ye-phobia yakhe, kodwa njengoba sishilo, futhi sithathe isinyathelo sokuqala, futhi sikuyekeni, futhi sikubambe ngomkhawulo wodokotela wezengqondo ongathola indlela yokuxazulula inkinga yakho. Into ebaluleke kakhulu isifiso sakho sokushintsha isimo kanye nesifiso sokuyeka ukugwema oxhumana nabo bangaphandle.