Eminyakeni embalwa edlule edlule, isehlukaniso sasingavamile kakhulu. Kuze kube manje, sekuyinto evamile ngokuphelele, futhi abesifazane abaningi bakhulisa izingane zodwa. Kodwa-ke, impilo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso ayipheli, futhi imvamisa umfazi uza emshadweni wesibili. Ngomshado wesibili - umyeni wesibili futhi, ngokufanele, ubaba wesibili wengane ...
Kuhamba ngaphandle kokusho ukuthi ukubukeka komuntu wangaphandle emndenini ngeke kudlule kunganakwa. Ikakhulu uma kukhona izingane kulo mndeni. Kuyiqiniso, kunemindeni lapho izinguquko ezinjalo ziqhubeka cishe ngokungenabuhlungu, kepha lokhu akuyona nenhlanhla.
Emndenini ofanayo, kuvela kubani ongubaba otholwayo, nakanjani babhekana nenani elikhulu lezinkinga ezahlukahlukene nezingxabano, okuthi, okokuqala, baxoshwa ebudlelwaneni obuqhubekayo nabalingani abancane, babhala jlady.ru.
Ngingakwazi ukuvimba lezi zingxabano? Iresiphi ye-Universal, ilungele noma yimuphi umndeni, ngeshwa, ayona nje ayikho. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe abaningi bezengqondo basanikeza amathiphu ajwayelekile ajwayelekile wokusiza ukushelela lesi sikhathi sokuvumelanisa nomndeni.
Ngokushesha kangakanani ukuqeda izinkinga ezikhona phakathi kobaba kanye nengane, zisize ukusungula ubungane kubo futhi ufunde ukwethembana, manje kuzoxoxwa ngakho.
Kuyiqiniso, ukuze umndeni omusha uqine futhi ube nobungane, kuzodingeka ukuthi unamathisele ukubekezela namabutho amaningi. Akukho lutho olungenakwenzeka. Kepha akudingekile ukuthemba ukuthi lesi simo sizoxazululwa sodwa, futhi ngisho nokufuna okwengeziwe enganeni, noma yini azenzile izinyathelo zokuqala zokubuyisana. Kulesi simo, abantu abadala kuzofanela bathathe wonke umthwalo wemfanelo ngokwenzekayo, ngoba banokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo, futhi ukuhlakanipha kungaphezu kwalokho kwengane.
Ungubani?
Umbuzo wokuqala odinga ukucaciswa kusukela ekuqaleni yindlela ingane okufanele ifake isicelo kwilungu lomndeni elisha. Imvamisa umuntu wesifazane, oqondiswa yisifiso ngokushesha okukhulu ukufundisa ingane kumyeni wakhe omusha, yenza umfo ucingo. Kwezinye izimo, ingane ayinakuqhathaniswa ngumama futhi iqala ukubiza ubaba otholwayo cishe ngosuku lokuqala. Njengomthetho, ukuthuthukiswa okunjalo kwemicimbi kuvame ukuba ngamacala amabili: noma ingane isencane kakhulu, futhi igama elithi mama limesaba kakhulu lelo iqiniso elingaguquki, noma umntwana wesaba kakhulu ukuthi alixazululi nje It. Futhi uma esimweni sokuqala, njengomthetho, azikho izinkinga ezikhethekile ebudlelwaneni bobaba otholwayo kanye nengane, khona-ke isimo sesibili isimo sibi kakhulu. Uzobizwa ngokuthi ngumuntu ongumuntu othandana naye, kepha amthande ngokweqiniso masinyane ingane akunakuphumelela. Yebo, ngeke ajoyine izingxabano ezivulekile nobaba nobaba, kodwa nakhu okuzokwenzeka emphefumulweni wakhe, kuzohlala kuyimfihlakalo yezimpawu eziyisikhombisa, kubhala i-jlady.ru.
Kungakho odokotela bezengqondo umndeni bathole umbono wabo ochazwe ngokucacile kulokhu. Akunjalo, ungaphoqeleli ingane kunoma yini, futhi ngokwengeziwe ukuze ingane ibone ukuthi ubaba wayo ayilungile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, lokhu kungokukulena ukuthi umbize futhi wakwenza, ukuphoqelela ubaba ukuthi abizwe ngokuthi uPapa asawumuntu ovelele kuye. Ngobuhlakani kakhulu ukuze ingane inezele kumuntu ongathandana naye ngegama. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuzoba lula kakhulu enganeni engeke azizwe njengomlandeli ebusweni bakababa wayo, kanti owesibili ogama lingukuthi ukhululeka kakhulu ngobaba wokutholwa ngokwakhe. Yize kunjalo, naye unzima kakhulu kuye - vele kuyena konke, kuyeza emndenini womunye umuntu, lapho sekuvele khona imikhuba yakhe, indlela yakhe yokuphila, ingane ... nendoda , ngisho nokuzwela kakhulu nokunakekela kakhulu, kuzodinga isikhathi sokujwayela konke. Kepha uma eqala ngokuzumayo ukugcizelela ngesicelo sengane "ubaba", qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma naye futhi uchaze ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthuthukisa izingane nezakhe.
Umphumela wokumangala
Imvamisa kakhulu abantu abadala badale izimfuneko ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuvela kwezingxabano phakathi komuntu phakathi kobaba wokutholwa kanye nengane. Futhi iphutha lokuqala elivame ukutholakala yimiphumela yokumangala. Akunakusho ukuthi angenzi ingane isimanga, okungenzeka ukuthi kungathandeki - ungafaki ingane ngaphambi kokufeza okuthile.
Imvamisa, owesifazane ufihla ubuhlobo bayo enganeni, ikakhulukazi uma eseneminyaka yobunzima obunzima, ekholelwa ukuthi kuzoba ngcono. Lutho neze. Yize kunjalo, kungani iqiniso livela enganeni? Ngoba umama usola ukuthi ukuvela kwezingxabano ezahlukahlukene kungenzeka.
Kepha kufanele uqonde ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukugwema ukungqubuzana nganoma yisiphi isikhathi - kungekudala kuzofanela wazise ingane uma, vele, uhlela ukuba ngcono ubuhlobo bakho futhi uhlale ndawonye. Kodwa-ke, enye inkinga yengezwa kuzo zonke lezi zingxabano - ukucasukela okunamandla kakhulu kuwe ngokufihlwa yiqiniso.
Ngakho-ke, zama ukubeka ingane eyazi umshado osolwa kusengaphambili. Yize kunjalo, sonke isikhathi sakhe, futhi ejwayele ingane ekhethiwe, kuyadingeka kuphela uma ubudlelwano bakho bubucayi impela, futhi amasu anembile futhi aqokwe. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngemuva kwesibili - ukuqomisana kwesithathu, ingane izoyeka ukukubona okungenani ngokungathi sína.
Nokuqhubeka. Zama ukungahlehlisi le ngxoxo isikhathi esingapheli, ngoba ekuqaleni ubeka inganekwane futhi uphendule yonke imibuzo yakhe, isikhathi esengeziwe uzoba nesikhathi sokuhlangana nalo mcabango futhi athathe.
Umhlangano wokuqala
Kuvame ukwenzeka ukuthi owesifazana aholele ekhaya lakhe elizayo ekhaya, ngaphandle kokwazisa ingane yakhe. Kodwa-ke, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuthola ekuseni egumbini lokugezela noma ekhishini lomuntu wangaphandle, ingane ingazwa ukushaqeka kwangempela ngokwengqondo. Kuyisiwula kakhulu ukuthemba ukuthi ingane izoyiqonda yedwa. Ngakho-ke, ukujwayelana kokuqala kwengane nobaba wokutholwa kwinguqulo ekahle kufanele kwenzeke endaweni yokungathathi hlangothi, esimweni sokuphumula kakhulu.
"Ngomhlangano wokuqala wobaba wokutholwa kanye nengane, ukuhamba ngekhekhe noma eshashalazini, ukuhamba ngepaki, ipikinikini ngemvelo noma uhambo oluya ezindaweni ezintsha kungaba inketho enhle. Ngemuva kwakho konke, imizwa etholwa ndawonye isondele kakhulu kubantu. Kubalulekile ukubheka ukusabela kwengane, mnike ukuxoxa nelungu lesikhathi esizayo lomndeni wakho kuphela, thola ukuthi bahambisana kanjani, "uVera Valentinovna KozhevhevNvikov.
Ngendlela, izazi eziningi zengqondo zinamathela eqinisweni lokuthi imihlangano enjalo kufanele okungenani ibe ngababili - ezintathu. Futhi kuphela emva kwalokho ungamema umuntu ukuthi avakashele noma awuhabele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kulokhu, isikhathi sokuvakasha kufanele sandiswe kancane kancane kuze kube yilapho ingane ijwayele ngokuphelele kubaba otholwayo.
"Kuyenzeka ukuthi ukujwayela ilunga lomndeni elisha kudlula kalula futhi ngaphandle kobuhlungu, kuzo zonke ezinye izimo ukuxazulula izinkinga ezivelile okufanele ziphathwe ngakho konke ukubina kanye nesibopho. Ezimweni ezinzima, kungcono ukuphendukela kudokotela wezengqondo ozokusiza wena nengane yakho ukwakha ubuhlobo obuvumelanayo emndenini. Ngemuva kwakho konke, i-psychology - Isayensi ingumuntu ngamunye futhi ngaphezulu kwesimo ngasinye esithile kudingeka ukuthi isebenze ngokuhlelekile, kuyinkimbinkimbi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ngokubambisana, "kusho uVera Valentinovna.