Phila ngalokhu, futhi ungabambeleli esikhathini esedlule. Ezinkundleni zokuxhumana manje, ukukhangisa "kuya emseleni futhi uthole ividiyo, ukuphoqa umona wangaphambili". Ukuziphatha okunjalo emantombazaneni amancane angaqhamuki eminyakeni yobudala yedrama angaqondakala. Kepha amantombazane amadala acabangani, ube nesikhathi sokuhlukanisa vele nomlingani oyedwa? Kulokhu okubonakalayo, ukukuphoqa ukuthi ucabange ngamaphutha akho bese ubheka isimo ngenye indlela.
"Ngichithe iminyaka engcono kakhulu kuye"
Misa ukuhlola impilo, njengokungathi isikhathi esivela eminyakeni engama-20 kuye kwengama-30 ukuphela kweminyaka ebalulekile. Yebo, lokhu kuyisiqongo sentsha yakho yokuphila lapho ungaba ngumama. Kepha mangaki amantombazane anamuhla acabanga ngakho? Ihlambalaza indoda ngesikhathi esichithwa kuye, ubeka endaweni eyisiphukuphuku. Lapho ungena ebudlelwaneni, awuqali isilwane, esingenakuphonswa isango leSchroatiki, futhi kufanele unakekele, noma ngabe kucace. Ukhetha indoda, futhi uma ngabe iminyaka engu-1-2-10 ichithe nengathandwa, engazange ifane nemibono yakho, amawayini kuwo alele kuwe kuphela. Futhi ngasikhathi sinye, cabanga ngokuthi ukwenzile, ukukhohlisa umuntu onothando ngokweqiniso - lokho nakho!
Yazisa iminyaka edlulile, futhi ungasuki izinkumbulo
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"Bengimthanda, futhi yena ..."
Kwesinye isikhathi awuqedi ubuhlobo, kepha amadoda anawe. Ukusinda okushoneleni okunjalo ukuze uzibone lapho ubuthanda ngempela umuntu, akulula. Kepha izeluleko zethu ezikulesi simo ukuyeka lesi simo uqobo. Cabanga ngokuthi muhle kangakanani ukuthi ube nomlingani owayefuna ukuhlonipha imizwa yakho futhi wathola amandla okuvuma ukuthi asafuni ukuxoxa ngempilo evamile. Okuvame ukwenzeka kaningi ukuthi othandekayo anyamalale ngaphandle komkhondo, ngoba kunzima ngabo ukusho ukuthi alukho uthando phakathi kwakho (futhi mhlawumbe never). Lokhu akusho ukuthi ungumuntu ongelutho noma unokubukeka okujwayelekile. Lutho neze! Singazichaza njalo ukuthi kungani sifuna ukuhlukana nalesi sikhethi, kepha lokhu kungenxa yokuthi siyaqonda - akusifaneli ngokuqondile.
"Noma nginami, noma cha"
Ukuzwa umusho onjalo ovela entombini esondelene naye, ngangesabi ... futhi uma ucabanga, yilenasifazane engakanani. Lokhu kuzizwa kuvelaphi ubunikazi? Ukuhlukanisa, awunikezi ithoyizi lakho olithandayo, kepha thethelela nomuntu, umuntu ngokuyinhloko. Ukuze uvikele iphutha elinjalo, uhlakazeke okokuqala ngemingcele yomuntu siqu, bese uthola ngemingcele yozakwethu. Akufanele ungene lapho, siyini isibonakaliso sokumisa esibomvu. Hlonipha ilungelo lomunye ngombono wakho, isikhala nenkululeko yokusebenza. Uma ulawula othandekayo wakho, maduze nje kuzobaleka ngokushesha kangangokuba izithende ziyavutha. Futhi yebo, esikhundleni sakhe nathi siyoshiya i-tyrana.
Yeka ukuba yimpahla futhi ukhulule umuntu
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"Okuningi Kukhokhela Engingilahlile"
Le binzana liyintandokazi yethu ... amantombazane nabesifazane, sekuyisikhathi sokususa umqhele ekhanda! Angingabazi ukuthi wonke umuntu kini muhle. Kepha uma indoda ihlukana nawe, khona-ke wena ulungele yena. Futhi nangezenzo, ngemuva kwalokho uzokonakalisa ubuhlobo, khuluma ngokufanayo. Musa ukuhlala komunye: Musa ukuthumela ngemuva kokuhlukanisa izingcaphuno eziyiziwula, izithombe ezivuselelayo ze-sexy, izithombe enkampanini yamanye amadoda. Lowo obekumele athengele ukuba ahlukane, azenzi, maye kanye na-ah. Ukubala amandla kuya kolunye umbono womunye, uphuthelwa impilo yakho. Ngikholwe, akukufanele. UGondo udlulise isifundo uqhubeke.