Ngabe ucabange ukuthi umuzwa wokungaqiniseki emaqinisweni abo ungaba umngane wabantu abaphumelele kakhulu? Ochwepheshe bezengqondo babiza le nto "sanoborus syndrome" - umuntu akakwazi ukuhlola kahle izimpumelelo zakhe zobungcweti, noma ngabe wayedumisa kangakanani nokwamukelwa yini. Ngomqondo othile, lesi simo singafaniswa nokuthanda ukuphelela, kepha abathandi bokwenza konke "ngokugcwele" bavame ukuqonda lokho abakufuna futhi bayakusho ngempumelelo yabo, abangakwazi ukukusho ngempumelelo yabo "abangakwazi ukukusho ngempumelelo" abakhohlisi ".
Kanjani "uzalwa" ochwepheshe abangavikeleki
Ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi noma yiluphi olungaqiniseki lokunikeza ubuntu bethu ebuntwaneni bakhe: abazali kanye nabanye abantu abadala, babo imibono yabo, bangakwazi ukugqugquzela ingane, esingakubona ngokuphelele. Njengoba wena, kungenzeka, uqaphele, emibuthanweni yezemidlalo ehlukahlukene yokudala kanye nezemidlalo, umbono wokuthi ungcono ukhula ngenkuthalo kunabanye - ngale ndlela emnganeni kuthiwa wakhulisa isifiso seziqongo, ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kusebenza kude nayo yonke ingane, futhi uma umuntu ezophokophela empilweni yezalo, enye ingane izophenduka umuntu omdala ukuthi noma iyiphi impumelelo ingumbono, uma ingatholi isiqinisekiso sokubuyiselwa emuva, kepha ngisho nakulesi simo Umuntu akakwamukeli ngokuphelele umphumela omuhle - Abantu abane-Imperostor Syndrome bazwela kakhulu ukugxekwa.
Kungenzeka yini ukulwa nesimo esivimbela ekwakheni umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu
Kunzima ukubhekana nesimo sokungaqiniseki okuhle. Vele, kungcono ukuthola izincomo zochwepheshe ozokwazi ukuhlaziya izikhathi ezingezinhle kakhulu kuwe, okuvimbela ukuzithatha njengochwepheshe, kepha nokho ungazama ukuqonda.
Funda ukwamukela izimpumelelo zakho
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Zivumele okuningi
Ngamunye wethu uyaphutha, kudingeka aqondwe futhi amukele - akekho umuntu ohlala enza konke okuhle. Lapho nje uqaphela ukuthi ukuphelela kutholakala ekhanda lakho kuphela, uzoba sendleleni ethi "Ukulungiswa", okungukuthi uzoqonda ukuthi umsebenzi kufanele wenziwe okungenani, kodwa futhi Ukugxekwa okunzima kufanele kuncishiswe, uma kungenjalo ubeka engcupheni ngaphezu kokungavikeleki ukuthuthukisa izwe le-neurotic.
Ungesabi ukuhlanganyela nabathandekayo
Akukho okusiza ukuzwa izikhathi eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu zokuphila njengokusekela abantu abaseduze. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukukhetha ukukhetha abantu abaseduze kakhulu lapho uqiniseka khona, uma kungenjalo izinkinga zakho zingaba yisizinda somphakathi uma i-interlocutor yakho iyohluleka ukugcina ulimi. Kepha umngani osondelene naleli liwula eliphelele. Cela umhlangano futhi wabelane naye ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, mhlawumbe umngane wakho uzonikeza izeluleko ezingashintsha kakhulu isimo sakho sengqondo esimweni. Kodwa-ke, zama ngokungadingekile ngokungafanele - usazi isilinganiso kukho konke.
Qopha zonke izikhathi ezinhle
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bavame ukusetshenziswa yile ndlela, evumela ukugxila ekunqobeni kwabo futhi bazibone. Khetha usuku lapho ungadingi ukushesha noma kuphi futhi uhlale phansi ngokwenza uhlu: Khumbula zonke izikhathi ezibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho, ingxenye enkulu, khetha impumelelo yobungcweti. Ngezikhathi lapho uzobona ukungabaza, dlula ngalaba bantu abahlulekile futhi uzobona ukuthi isimo sokungaqiniseki sizoqala kanjani ukuya ngemuva. Zama!