Vele, iningi lethu lifuna kusuka ekusondeleni kokuqala okudingeka ukuthi izifiso zozakwethu zidinga ukufakwa kwi-par nezazo, uma ukholelwa ukuthi izibalo ezinikezwa yi-Psychologists, ngokususelwa ku Inani labantu kanye nezikhalazo zabesifazane, okungekho kwempilo yalokho okungenakwenzeka ukuvumelanisa. Ungakunikeza kanjani ukuqonda umlingani wakho ukuthi imihlangano yakho esondele kakhulu ikulethela ukwaneliseka okuncane, yini? Kulokhu sazama ukuthola.
Ngitshele kahle
Abanye abantu abazi ukuthi bayifunda kanjani imicabango yethu, ngakho-ke, ukuthi "uzofika", "wacabanga, akusilo isiwula," ngokunokwenzeka, uzongena ezifisweni ze-eguist nakuzo . Amadoda amaningi anethemba lokuthi uma owesifazane engavezi umbono wakhe, kusho konke akufanela, ngakho-ke akucaci ukudumazeka kwakho ngemuva kokusondela, ngoba ekuqondeni kwakhe unakho konke ebudlelwaneni. Ngokufanelekile, yakha imingcele yalowo ovunyelwe kufanele "ogwini", ngisho nangaphambi kwesikhashana lapho 'uqiniswa' ubudlelwano obukhona - khuluma, khuluma futhi Khuluma futhi.
Thembeka
Noma ngabe yimuphi umuntu onobuhlakani ongazange uzibeke, ulingise izincomo ze-Orgasm nezinkulumo lapho uhlala uwukuphela komuntu egumbini lokulala, elingazange lithole ukwaneliseka ngenqubo nhlobo. Kuliqiniso, akukufanele ukutshela iqiniso "ebunzini", ikakhulukazi ngokugcwele "izehlakalo", uma uqonda ukuthi le ndoda icishe ibe yindawo ephakeme, futhi awukaze 'usakaze' ukudonsa Umvuthwandaba, uchitha ukunaka kwamadoda wedwa. Owesifazane uhlala edinga isikhathi esithe xaxa sokuthola ucansi, zama ukudlulisa lo mcabango kumuntu futhi ungadlali ngenxa yobuntu.
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Ngokwesibonelo sakho
Uma nje uqala ukuhlangana, izikhathi ezimbalwa zokuqala awukwazi ukuthola injabulo kusuka ku-UStanger nomlingani omusha, kuyinto evamile, enikezwe iqiniso lokuthi awukafundelana. Kepha uma ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa isimo singashintshi - namanje awuzizwa wanelisekile, ongakwazi ukushiwo ngomlingani wakho - uqondise ngobumnene: Kuboniswa kahle ukuthi izindawo ziphendulwa kahle ekuthinteni kwayo, nokuthi udinga kanjani ukuphatha umzimba wakho.