Eminye yemibuzo engathandeki kakhulu empilweni yowesifazane - "Lapho usuvele unaka ingane yakho?" Futhi hhayi njalo lo mbuzo ebuzwa ngethoni enobungane, uma umuntu engatholi impendulo ecacile evela kuwe, kukhona izeluleko ezivela esigabeni "bese uya lapho, futhi konke okusemoyeni onjalo kusizwe." Sizohlaziya ukuthi sihlaziye ini esimweni esingesihle, kodwa siphila kakhulu.
Akunakwenzeka ukuphoqa umuntu ukuthi athule futhi akaphinde akubuze imibuzo efanayo, ikakhulukazi uma lesi isihlobo sakho, kepha namanje ungathuli, uma kungenjalo uzoqhubeka nokwesabisa imibuzo enjalo, nawusethule.
Zigcine ezandleni zakho
Okubi kakhulu ukwenziwa ngemuva kombuzo ofanayo - ukwehlisa noma ukuqala ngaphandle, ukuthuka. Ukuzitshela manje ukuthi manje awukakulungeli ukuxoxa ngalo mbuzo, ngoba kungcono kakhulu, kepha uma umuntu ebiza kakhulu emphakathini wakho, kufanele ahlunge izingqikithi afuna ukuxoxa nawe nawe. Kunoma ikuphi, zilungiselele noma yikuphi ukusabela kusuka ku-interlocutor futhi ungathathi icala.
Zilungiselele ukuphinda
Ngeshwa, ihlelo lomndeni oqinile futhi omkhulu lithuthukiswa emphakathini wethu, ukuthi izindaba zokuphindaphindeka emndenini azikwazi ukugwemeka. Kunezinto ezimbalwa osuvele uzicelile ukugwema lesi sihloko - akuyena wonke umuntu osukulungele ukwamukela iqiniso lokuthi othile angaphila impilo ehluke ngokuphelele, hhayi njengeyakhe. Zilungiselele ngezikhathi ezithile ukuphendula umbuzo kaninginingi. Ungalungisa iphethini.
Zilungiselele ukuphinda
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Zithathe
Imibuzo engafanele ngokujulile thina kuphela lapho thina ngokwethu singeke sithathe eyabo inhlanhla. Ukuzethemba kwethu kuvame ukuncika ngokuhambisana nombono wemvelo yethu, ngakho-ke udinga ukusebenza ngokuqinile futhi uvikele abathandekayo bakho ukuba bathonye ngokungafanele. Uma kungenzeki ukuthi wamukele njengoba kunjalo, zinike isikhathi sokuvakashela uchwepheshe, akunakwenzeka ukushiya inkinga, ngoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kungahle kubonakale sengathi kubonakala sengathi kukhona okungekho kweqiniso kuwe, kodwa esimweni esinjalo Kulula kakhulu ukungena ebudlelwaneni obuncike.
Kepha iningi labantu lisakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ezinye izihloko zikuholela esimweni esingesihle, okusho ukuthi okusondele kakhulu ngeke kukubonakalise ngezinkinga ezingadingekile, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuhambisa zona.