Okokuqala, kubalulekile wena ukuthola ukuthi yini injabulo. I-Aphorism "akuyena onokuningi, futhi lowo ongadingi okuningi" uzosiza ukuqonda kangcono umbuzo oyabelwe. Ngemuva kwakho konke, impilo yeqiniso ingaphakathi kuwe, hhayi kwingxenye yezinto ezibonakalayo.
"Injabulo Ukuthula kwangaphakathi nobumbano, lapho uzibona uzibone futhi ubuqiniso," uMarianna Obvitova okholelwa. - Ngoba uma kukhona ama-alamu, uma unqamula yonke imizwa, khona-ke ungomuntu ongathandeki. Iqiniso ngukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kungajabula, kepha, ngokweqiniso, ngaphambili kuzoba umuzwa womusa wangaphakathi nombono wokuphila njengokujwayelekile. Okungukuthi, kubalulekile ukuzithatha, abazali bakho kanye nedivaysi yaleli zwe. "
Ukulinganiselwa kwamakhulu eminyaka owesifazane wadalelwa ukuba athande, anakekele izingane, ngomyeni wakhe, ezoqhuba ibhizinisi emnothweni. Ngakho-ke, kusobala ukuthi akulungile ukuzama ukwedlula indoda yakho. Owesifazane kufanele akhethe i-satellite yempilo ekhanda ngobuchule futhi aqine - uma umuntu ebuthaka kunomlingiswa, umane nje angachotshozwa.
Kusukela ebuntwaneni, siyayazi inganekwane ngezikhulu namakhosazana, lapho isikhulu sizosindisa isikhulu - siqinile, sihlakaniphile futhi sihle. Intombazane enesikhathi seveni ifuna "inkosana" yona, futhi iyini ukukhetha kwakhe, okunjalo - nokuphela kokuphela.
Into elungile kakhulu ukwakha ubudlelwano "uthando-ubungani"
Photo: Unsplisish.com.
Uma owesilisa ezizwa ebuthakathaka uma enobuthakathaka uma eqhathaniswa nowesifazane, akasoze akwazi ukuvikela futhi amesekele, futhi uzojwayela lesi simo sezinto futhi azowenza njengakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, lona wesifazane uba "ngenhla" le ndoda, ngaleyo ndlela ayibonise ukuthi lisekhaya emndenini. Akabhekwanga ngombono wakhe, akanendaba naye, azibhekisi yena ngobuchule futhi engcono. Kepha isihluthulelo sobudlelwano obujabulisayo ubungani phakathi kwabalingani. Yize kukhona okuhlukile lapho owesifazane esebenza futhi engaphezu kwendoda yakhe ehola, kepha angalokothi ayibeke phansi futhi ayazi ukuthi bangabalingani bempilo.
"Umhlaba wakhulelwa kanjani ekuqaleni? Kuliqiniso, owesilisa wadalwa njengomvikeli, njengalowo othatha umthwalo wobuthakathaka, uyaqhubeka uMarianna Abovitov. - Kepha kule minyaka eyi-100 eyedlule kube khona ukuguqulwa kwezindima zenhlalo, futhi manje angizukufonela indoda ngebhangqa, empeleni inamandla. Lapha, wonke umuntu kufanele asuse ekubukeni kwakhe emhlabeni. Uma, ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane ubaluleke kakhulu, ukuze umuntu aqine kuye, uzomfuna. Into elungile kakhulu ukwakha ubudlelwano "uthando-ubungani". Ukuba sephandeni futhi ungazami ukwedlula noma ngubani, ukuxhumana amehlo emehlweni. "
Uma ubheka isithandwa sakho futhi awuboni isiphetho sakho esinye isisulu kukho, futhi kunemibuzo ethile enganikeli ukuthula, kunjalo, kufanelekile ukucabanga: Ngabe nginokukhetha okulungile? Ngaphezu kwalona wesifazane, akekho noyedwa ozophendula lo mbuzo, njengoba kungumuntu ngamunye. Owesifazane wanamuhla kufanele abe nesikhathi sokwenza: futhi asebenze, futhi athande umyeni wakhe, futhi abe nesikhathi sokuchitha isikhathi nezingane. Lokhu kuzohlukaniswa nguwesifazane ohlakaniphile. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi indoda ihloniphe umfazi wayo. Okungukuthi, udinga ukusondela ngokunembile ekukhetheni. Ngemuva kwakho konke, iqiniso lokuthi sizokhetha ukuthi asazohamba, kulapho. Ngakho-ke, yindoda okufanele ibe isibambiso sobudlelwano obujabulisayo nowesifazane ojabulayo.