"Ukujabula, kudingeka uthole umuntu ozokuthanda ozoba nesithandwa esihle nobaba okhathalelayo, bese enza ukuthi laba abathathu bahlangane ..."
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Iningi lethu kufanele liphuphe lomuntu wethu, mayelana nengxenye yesibili, ezosifeza ngokuphelele. Thatha imisebenzi esingafuni ukunquma futhi sinikele ngamabomu. Imvamisa ungezwa okunje: "Nginike leyo mizwa elahlekile."
Isibonelo esihle kakhulu yimibhangqwana eyisibonelo, lapho indoda ivalwa njengebhokisi, kanti owesifazane uyimbali emncane ayivikelayo. Indoda ihola, futhi owesifazane uhlinzeka ngemizwa yombhangqwana. Vumelana, isithombe sifiseleka kwabaningi. Indoda iyi-minider, owesifazane - umama kanye nonkosikazi, ihotela ekhaya. Futhi yilowo nalowo "ekhejini" lakhe, ngaphakathi kwendima yakhe uphethe izibopho zakhe nokukhokha. Abesifazane basola amadoda ukuthi banciphise inkululeko yabo, bacindezela uTiranny, kwathi amadoda abeka phambili lapho benza konke kubafazi, futhi labo bahlale badumala futhi bengabonge amahora angama-24 beqaphele egameni lomndeni. Futhi lezo nabanye baqala ukuphupha uthando nokunconywa, imvamisa bekuthola nothile oyedwa. Lesi sithombe sivame kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, ungaphupha uthando? Ngabe kukhona okungahambi kahle ekufuneni ukuhlangana nomuntu wakho?
Akukho lutho oludonswe khona kula maphupho, lena yimisebenzi enempilo futhi eqinisekisa impilo. Kodwa-ke, lapho siphupha umuntu wethu, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka ukwazi ukuthi akufanele enze lutho. Ungafiki ukwenza lula umthwalo wezezimali noma uphulukise amanxeba adlule othandweni. Lapho abalingani beba ngomunye nomunye be-psychotheratists, belulama ngokungafanele ukulimala komunye nomunye noma bacabangele okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kwesikhathi esidlule, okunamathiselwe phakathi kwabo kuyakhula, futhi intshiseko kanye nentshisekelo yezocansi izophikisana. Lo mbhangqwana uba abangane abafudumele komunye nomunye, kepha ubudlelwano babathandi buncibilikisa. Futhi ukuphuma okusemthethweni - ukuthola omunye umuntu ukugcwalisa umgodi wokuphamba empilweni. Iphupho le-heroine yethu likhuluma naye ngalezi zinkinga:
"Ngiye kolunye uhlobo lomcimbi wokuqeqeshwa, kunabantu abehlukene abathokozisayo, ekujuleni, futhi bahlangana nendoda, ngisho negama elithile engikukhumbulayo - max. Ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa, sahlangana, ngajwayelana kangcono futhi ngathandana. Uma kukhulunywa ngokuqhubeka nokukhulumisana, ngathi nginendoda nengane ngandlela thile kwaba njalo ngenxa yakhe. Ngokusobala, ingxoxo mayelana nayo ayizange ivele ngaphambili. Angikukhumbuli nokuthi, kodwa ngaphenduka kanjani "enkantolo" yendawo yonke - ezilalelini zabantu, lapho kwakukhona ukuqeqeshwa, - ngitshela impilo yami, ngoba kwakunzima kimi ukuthola i-satellite ye Impilo, yayiphutha futhi iluthando olushisekayo, futhi yathola ubulili kuphela. Futhi manje umyeni wamanje waphenduka umuntu ongizungeza ukunakekelwa, futhi kwase kuphelele engikufunayo. Mina okokuqala ngandlela thile bekufanele ngitshele konke, kepha ngasizathu simbe kwakudingeka. Futhi-ke into ebaluleke kakhulu yenzeke lokho ebengikufunayo - Lo mkhulu waqhubeka nokuthola imizwa yesisa kimi, kodwa usuvele uthatha lokho engiyikho, zonke izindaba zami nesipiliyoni. "
Kuyacaca ukuthi ukulala akuyona iqiniso ngokomzimba. Ukulala kumtshela ukuthi uyaphupha uthando empilweni yakhe. Uthando lungamandla, uvusa impilo enamandla kunezinye izifunda eziningi. Uthando luyisifo osiphupha ukuze ugule, njengoba u-Irwine wabhala. Iphupho libonisa ukuthi uyaphupha uthando olungenamibandela, ukuthi wayethandwa futhi wathathwa njengoba unjalo. Kukule ngalokhu ukuthi asho "enkantolo", lokhu maqondana naye kwenza isithandwa sangempela.
Ukulala kusikisela ukuthi uyazithanda ngokusilela empilweni yakhe. Ngenkathi efuna lokho kwezinye izinto, kubantu. Kepha akalali, umuntu omdala, angafunda ukuzithanda kangako noma ngabe ubani.
Ithiphu enhle kakhulu. Ngiyazibuza ukuthi uphupha ini? Thumela amaphupho akho nemibuzo nge-imeyili [email protected].
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin