Ngokunokwenzeka, wonke umuntu unendaba lapho ubulili notshwala babuhlanganiswa kakhulu. Kunzima ukusho ukuthi ayihambelani nale miqondo emibili, ngoba inhlanganisela efanayo inezinzuzo nezinzuzo zayo. Kulokhu sizothola.
Akukaziwa ukuthi ungathinta kanjani utshwala abalingani
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Yiziphi izinzuzo?
Utshwala buyaphumula
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi kwabazocansi abaningi kuyinqubo ethokozisayo. Ngakho-ke, sivame ukweqa izingilazi eziningana ngethemba lokuthi kuzosiza ukuphumula.
Ngempela, uma kungenjalo ukuhlukunyezwa, iwayini elihle lizokulethela esimweni osifunayo.
Uyakhohlwa
Futhi, izibuko eziningana zizokhipha "ezingcebeni zakho ezingakhokhelwa, zihlehlise imibiko nokukhathazeka ngaphambi kokuya kudokotela. Ucansi ludinga ukugxilwa kwinqubo, nasezenzweni zasekhaya futhi inkinga ingabulala ngokuphelele sonke isifiso.
Umlingani uba muhle
Vele, ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe isinqumo sokusondela okusondelene nomuntu, cabanga uma uyidinga. Uma ungathandi umuntu nhlobo, ngeke ujabule. Enye into, uma amagremu ambalwa akusiza 'ukuvala amehlo akho' ube yizinkinga ezincane zomlingani.
Ubeka engcupheni yokulahlekelwa ukuzwela
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Kuthuthukisa imizwa
Kubantu abahlukahlukene, utshwala busebenza ngezindlela ezihlukile: Omunye ulala, othile uba umsizi, kanti omunye unemizwa kakhulu. Uma ungakwazi ukunquma ukuvuma umlingani ngemizwa, mhlawumbe ukwanda kwesilinganiso kuzokusiza uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala.
Yini udilizwa?
Akuwona wonke umuntu ongaphuza
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi abanye abantu bathambekele kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokuncika, kubandakanya notshwala. Uma uyazi noma uzabelana ngemikhuba enjalo, kungcono ukushaya utshwala ohlwini lokudla kwakusihlwa.
Ulahlekelwa ukulawula
Futhi nhlobo, akudingekile ukuphuza "uphethiloli" ngamalitha - ungafinyelela ngisho "ezintweni ezinkulu" ngisho nengilazi eyodwa, ngoba abaningi abazazi nokujwayelekile kwabo. Uma ucansi luyenzeka nomuntu owaziyo okuncane, ukusetshenziswa kotshwala kungakuphendukela kuwe, ngoba akwaziwa ukuthi amagremu angama-50 azomthinta kanjani.
Ingozi yezempilo
Uma uthatha eminye imishanguzo, ngisho nethamo elincane lotshwala lingaba yingozi. Vumelana, akuvamile ukuba ufunde imiyalo yemithi kuze kube sekupheleni? Musa ukuzibeka engcupheni, isifiso sokucabanga sokuphumula singakuqeda kabi.
Ubulili obubi
Iqiniso elidumile: Utshwala bunciphisa i-libido emadodeni futhi banciphisa kakhulu inani lokugcotshwa kowesifazane. Ibhodlela elilodwa lewayini liyakwazi ukonakalisa ukulungiswa kwesikhathi eside ngocansi, oluzokuphanga hhayi kusihlwa kuphela, kodwa futhi nesimo sezinsuku ezimbalwa ezizayo.
Ucansi ludinga ukugxila
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Ukuzwa Ukususwa
Esikhundleni sokucwiliswa ngokuphelele kule nqubo, uzoba "ongekho," futhi umlingani wakho ngeke aqonde, uyithandile noma cha. Yebo, wena uqobo uzoba senkingeni, eyenzekile nhlobo.