Yiba nabalingani abaningi ngokobulili, ukuze ube nethuba lokukhetha kwabo - ngaphambi kokuba libe yicebo lamadoda okuziphatha ngokobulili, nabesifazane abazama ukukhombisa inkululeko yabo, babuke, bakubeka ngobumnene, bengavumi. Manje konke sekushintshile. Ubuso obuphakathi kwamamodeli wokuziphatha kwabesilisa nowesifazane uyasuswa futhi lokhu kusobala, phakathi kwezinye izinto, esibonelweni sokuqeqeshwa kwe-pickup - ukujwayelana okusheshayo nokufanelekile nokuyenga okusebenzayo. Empeleni, kungani owesifazane engeke afune ukuyenga indoda, ejwayelene naye kuqala?
Ingabe kunemigomo emcabangweni we-Pickup yabesifazane? Lo mbuzo ungaphendulwa kuphela ekuqiniseni. Yebo, kukhona futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, kuya ngokuya kuthandwa. Isici esiyinhloko sokubanda kwabesifazane ukuthi uma umuntu efunda ukunqoba izingqinamba, ukuvikela izakhiwo nama-phobias avimbela ukuthi asondelene nentombazane oyithandayo, khona-ke iveni yabesifazane ingubuciko bokunakelwa kwesilisa. Owesifazane kufanele abukeke kanjalo ukuze aziphathe ukuze amadoda akwazi ukuncama ukubonakala kwakhe, kodwa futhi alungele ukujwayelana. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ngisho namanje silindele ukuthi isinyathelo sokumazi sisavela kumuntu.
Ngakho-ke, umgomo oyinhloko wokuphapha kwabesifazane ukuvusa isithakazelo kumuntu. Akukho lutho oluheha ukunakwa kwamadoda njengokubukeka kwabesifazane. Usuvele ubheke okukodwa nje, owesifazane angakujabulela "umuntu futhi uzoya kuye, adlule kuye. Kulokhu, ukubukeka akufanele kube yinhlamba ngokweqile ukuze le ndoda ingabheki owesifazane oyisisebenzi isisebenzi somsebenzi omdala kakhulu noma akazange azizwe iqhinga oluthile.
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Ukuthathwa kwabesifazane kusebenzisa amasu amaningi nezindlela okufanele uzithakazele indoda. Kepha umthetho oyinhloko ukleliswe kahle ubufazi kwezokuxhumana. Amanye amantombazane nabesifazane bendlela yokuxhumana ngokoqobo ethandana nendoda kusukela kwabamizuzu yokuqala kanye nalabo abamele ubulili obuhle, abancishwe lezo zemvelo, kufanelekile lokho.
Abesifazane bajabulela ukuthathwa ukuze bahlangane futhi babopha ubudlelwano namadoda owathandayo. Kungaba njengobudlelwano ubusuku obubodwa kanye nosesho lwabalingani bothando lwaphakade noma abalingani besikhathi esizayo. Ngokuvamile, ngokweqiniso, konke kuhlangana nge-pickup yabesilisa, kepha empeleni ukuvezwa kwabesifazane kubukeka okuhlukile. Ngakho-ke, amadoda awalindeli kulowona wesifazane lezo zimfanelo abesifazane abangathanda ukuzibona kubantu. Isibonelo, ukuqiniseka, ukuzazisa ekwakheni, ukuboniswa kobuhlakani babo, isikhundla esiphakeme senhlalo kude nalo lonke amacala kungadlala indima enhle ecaleni lesithombe sowesifazane.
Amadoda amaningi afuna ukubopha ubudlelwane nentokazi yesifazane, ehlanganisa ukuheha kwabesifazane kuphela kanye nokushesha. Azidingi "umuntu esiketi" nhlobo, ezoziqhayisa ngempumelelo yayo esebenza kahle, ukuba khona kwemali noma ukuxhumana nokhokho, njenge "Kidy Yakhe". Vele, futhi kuncike ekutheni hlobo luni lwamadoda afana nale ntombazane noma owesifazane ohlose ukusebenzisa ubuchwepheshe be-Picap ekuqondeni. Ngemuva kwakho konke, imiphefumulo ethile ingamabhizinisi nje kanye nabesifazane abacebile, futhi othile uzobheka "igundane elimpunga", elizosebenza umama ohle namaholide.
Futhi, umfazi eza emisebenzini yokuthatha kufanele aqonde ukuthi hlobo luni lwendoda afuna ukuyenga - usomabhizinisi ocebile, i-macho yezemidlalo, edidekile "nge-" botanity "encane. Futhi ngesisekelo sokubekwa okuyikho kwezinhloso, kuyadingeka ukwakha amasu angeziwe we-PICAP.