Ingqikithi yezocansi, mhlawumbe enye ye-Thinnests yanoma yimuphi umuntu. Izwi elilodwa elingakhathali kusuka kowesifazane lingaxazulula izakhiwo lapho indoda ezolwela khona isikhathi eside. Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uqonde umlingani wakho, futhi ungazithinti lezo zikhathi ezingakucasula indoda yakho futhi aphange kusihlwa sothando. Sinqume ukuthola ukuthi yikuphi ukwesaba okusondele kakhulu kuvame ukweqisa phansi esindayo.
"Kuthiwani uma kungasebenzi!"
Noma yimuphi umuntu kufanele azi ukuthi ngowesifazane wakhe akekho okungcono, futhi ngenxa yalokho imicabango ngokwehluleka embhedeni ingakhula ibe yi-phobia yangempela. Kubalulekile ukwenza owesifazana aqonde ukuthi indoda ibaluleke kangakanani kuye, ungahluphi ngamazwi athambile futhi uthinte ukukhathazeka umlingani. Uma uqonda ukuthi indoda yakho inezinkinga zobulili, ayigxili kulokhu ukunakwa, akudingekile ukucasulwa ukwehluleka embhedeni. Esikhundleni salokho, umsize akwazi ukubekezelela le nkinga - indoda izokubonga.
"Kuthiwani uma engayithandi!"
Inganekwane ethandwayo ithi indoda inentshisekelo kuphela injabulo yazo. Kodwa-ke, ukwahlulela ocwaningweni, amadoda ezimweni eziningi aphathelene nenjabulo yabalingani, ngoba ukuncoma kowesifazane kungakuphakamisa ngokuzethemba ngokuzethemba kwabesilisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kanye nabesifazane, amadoda amaningi abhekene ngenxa yokubukeka - akhule kahle, ukulahleka kwezinwele, ukuthuthuka kwezinwele nokunye okuvelelayo kungasusa ngokuzethemba kwesilisa, kuleli cala ongakunikeza ukwenza uthando ngaphakathi ubumnyama. Njengasesimweni esedlule, akudingekile ukucacisa umlingani wakho ukushiyeka kwawo okunenkani, ngoba umsebenzi wakho ukusiza indoda yakho ukunqoba izakhiwo, futhi hhayi "ukukhula" okusha.
Umuntu kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi uyahlanya ngaye
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"Kepha kuthiwani uma ..."
Vele, ukuphikisana nokuthi noma yimuphi umuntu wesaba umthwalo wemfanelo, oyisiphukuphuku, ngoba akunjalo. Futhi nokho amadoda amaningi aya emcabangweni wokuthi umfazi angathembeka kuye futhi, mhlawumbe, efuna indlela yokumbopha kuye. Njengomthetho, ubudlelwane obunjalo bubonakala ngamadoda asinda ekuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki nomuntu owayengowesifazane. Kubalulekile ukunikeza ukuqonda indoda ukuthi ungowesifazane owanele ubulili akuyona indlela yokuthuthukisa isikhundla sakho, vele uchithe isikhathi ndawonye futhi ungalindeli lutho esikhundleni.
"Kuthiwani uma ungikhulisa!"
Futhi okunye ukwesaba okudumile okwesabayo - Owesifazane uzombamba ngomzuzu omubi kakhulu. Kubantu abaningi, izinto ezincane ezinjengamasokisi ahlekisayo embhedeni noma kwezinye izici ezithokozisayo zomlingani azisho, kodwa sonke siyathanda ukuziphendukela ngezikhathi ezithile, futhi nakhu lo mfazi akhuphuka Ngisho nezinto ezihlekisayo kakhulu - indoda imane nje ayikwazi ukukhokhela into ehlekisayo evela kowesifazane.