- URita, ake ungitshele ukuthi kungani namhlanje owesifazane osemusha, ofundile, okhangayo, ogcwele amathemba esaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa yindoda futhi wenza konke, ukuze akwazi ukuya kuye?
- Kunezizathu eziningi: kusuka othandweni kuya kwisifiso sezezimali. Njengomthetho, indoda ozama ukuyigcina, inazo zombili imali nokubukeka. Kunzima ukugcina indoda enjalo, ngoba ezungeze izimbangi eziningi ezinhle kakhulu, ezithokozisayo, zibheka amantombazane anjalo, amadoda ahlala enezilingo eziningi.
Lapho nje lona wesifazane ezama zonke izindlela zokusungula ubudlelwano, kepha akukho lutho olusizile, uhlala ekhona kuphela indlela ethembekile: Kuphendukela kubathakathi, emabuthweni amnyama, ngethemba lokugcina noma ukubuyisa umuntu. Ezimweni eziningi, kuyasebenza, kodwa kuhlale kugcwele imiphumela. Okokuqala, kushaya enhlala kahle, empilweni yendoda, iba umlutha, amabutho amnyama asevele aphethwe phezu kwakhe. Futhi yena uqobo uthi: "Yebo, angiyidingi le ntombazane," kodwa ngenye indlela eyayizophulukisa okuthile, nemilenze iye yanquma ukuthatha ifa.
Kunokubhujiswa kwebhizinisi, ngobuhlobo, uzama ukuzikhulula, avumele le nkinga, aqale ukuphuza, ahlele izidakamizwa. Ngesikhathi sokwamukelwa kotshwala, kubonakala sengathi kukhululiwe, kepha kunzima njalo ukuhlala kanzima.
Kulungile, wayithola, manje sebehlangene, kepha kufika umzuzu futhi amabutho amnyama adinga imali yakhe. Ukuze lokhu kudingeka ukhokhe impumelelo, impilo, kwezinye izimo ukushukuma kwezocansi.
- Ingabe bakhona imibhangqwana enjalo lapho indoda ebabazekayo ihlala nowesifazane ngokujwayelekile? Kwesinye isikhathi, ukubheka abanye umbhangqwana, imicabango itshelwa ukuthi ayikho ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.
- Impilo yami yonke iyaphila ngokujwayelekile - ithi kakhulu, bobabili babugqila. Yize kunjalo, amandla endoda "ayekholelwa." Futhi ngo-45-55, lapho kufanele kube amabutho aphelele namandla, kuba ukuphelelwa amandla ngokuphelele, ukuhlaselwa yinhliziyo kuqala, imivimbo. Ngemuva kokuthi "Rows Out, akahlali, kepha umane nje uphila iminyaka yakhe.
Kepha lona wesifazane uye wazuza eyakhe, eduze kwakhe njengenja ethembekile, kodwa akukho njabulo nokuchuma kwenkulumo okungeke kube njalo.
- Ngemuva kwalokho kuphakama umbuzo: Ngabe lona wesifazane akaqondi ukuthi imiphumela ingalimaza yini umuntu azohlupheka?
"Owesifazane onqume ngesipelingi sothando uyisisusa esinamandla kunazo zonke:" Ngiyamthanda futhi konke kufanele kube njengoba ngifuna. "
Akanendaba ukuthi kungenani okungalungile noma okungafanele. Udinga ukungabheki emehlweni endawo ezungezile elahliwe, enqaba futhi angabekezeleli inhlekelele yezintombi zawo. Lapha, kunjalo, kusebenza ama-egoism athunyelwa ngowesifazane.
Lapho ngifunda isitatimende sikaMonica Beluchi: "Ngangiqonda kakhulu njengoba abesifazane bengaphansi. Uma lokhu kuyindoda yami, khona-ke kuzoba yimi kuphela futhi akekho ozoyithola. " Ngiwathandile ngempela la magama. Uhlala iminyaka engu-17 ubudala nge-Vincent Casel futhi engakhathali ngokumangala umyeni wakhe, futhi abheke - asandlale. Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi uMonica Beluchi akakaze anxuse wonke amabutho.
Futhi ngivumelana ngokuphelele naye: Ukuze wakhe ubuhlobo obuqinile, ngibaqinise njalo, indoda idinga umangale nsuku zonke, ukwenza ubudlelwano obuhlukahlukene.
- Ake siqale ngeqiniso lokuthi lesi isitatimende sowesifazane ompofu. Lowesifazane "olima" emsebenzini nsuku zonke ekuseni ahudulele yonke indlu, izingane ngeke zijabule ukumangaza oshade naye nsuku zonke.
- Ngokwengxenye, ngivumelana nawe. Owesifazane "olima" kusukela kwabayisikhombisa ekuseni ahudulele izingane, umndeni, yonke indlu ngowesifazane, umngane wendoda eyengezwe ephakathi kakhulu engakwazi ukunikeza induduzo nokuzimela ngokwezezimali. Ngeke iqhubeke futhi uyizame.
Uma sikhuluma ngokungananazi, sikhuluma ngamadoda avikelekile futhi efuna ukuthi athole impumelelo yezezimali, ingcebo, udumo olunganikeza izinga eliphakeme lokuphila. Abesifazane balwela amadoda anesimo esithile, ukuthonya, ukuheha, hhayi onogada noma uMgqibelo. Ngenxa yendoda enjalo, ngesinye isikhathi owesifazane ulungele ukuthengisa umphefumulo, hhayi nje ukuya kumthakathi.
- Futhi lapho eya kumthakathi, lonke i-spectrum yokuxhaswa kwezinto ezithakazelayo ezinsizeni zayo. Kungani sasinabathakathi abaningi kangaka?
- Iningi lalawa lingabakhohlisi. Kuyaqabukela kakhulu ukuthola umthakathi wangempela. Konke kuhanjiswa kujantshi webhizinisi, imali kule ndawo iphonsa enkulu. Kunezinhlangano eziphelele zeMafia, ibhizinisi elinjalo liqondisa izakhiwo ezithile. Futhi uma babethatha abathakathi bangempela, bonke babezoshintshwa babheke phansi, ngakho-ke sasinenhlanhla enkulu ukuthi iningi lawo lingama-rogues amancane.
Ubuthakathi buyisiqeshana, umsebenzi ngamunye. Ukuthola umlingo wangempela kunzima kakhulu, njengomthetho, kungadedelwa kuwo kuphela emsakazweni ohleliwe. Abakhangisi kwi-Intanethi.
- Uyazi, esizeni sendoda ecebile nenethonya, bengizocabanga ngaphambi kokuhlangana nentombazane ethile, futhi kungacabanga kakhulu ngaphambi kokuhamba. Imiphumela ingaba yimbi.
- Njengomthetho, awekho amadoda amangalisayo eMoscow. Bonke bawela ngaphansi kwalomthelela. Uyigugu, kuye kukhona umzabalazo. Abesifazane abafuna ukuthola inyamazane enjalo, kakhulu, namadoda ahambisanayo, ngeshwa, ngaphansi. Bona uqobo bayakwazi lokhu futhi abaningi bazivikela ngokwabo ngebhizinisi labo.
Kungenzeka ukweluleka ukuthi angabi engcupheni futhi angahlangane nanoma ngubani ohlangothini, ukuze aphile emndenini noma ngomngane wakhe waphakade, kodwa la uqobo lawo, ukuze abeke osanta.
Kunamantombazane amaningi amancane amahle amnandi: ama-waintres, izinceku, onobhala - melana kanzima.
Amantombazane aqhamuka emadolobhaneni, emadolobheni amancane, awadakwa, alungiswe, akukho lutho olungaphansi kubahlali benhlokodolobha. Futhi abanandaba ukuthi uthanda kangakanani amadoda, amakhosikazi asemthethweni noma izingane. Bayazi ukuthi abakwanga nje kumuntu kuphela, kodwa futhi "umhlaba wonke."
Lapho intombazane ibonga umuntu ocebile emkhakheni wezimpahla ezibonakalayo, ogcwele umhlaba wezinto ezibonakalayo, khona-ke uzokwenza konke ukuze alahlekelwe. Kepha uma ephuthelwe, khona-ke kwesinye isikhathi konke konke kulahlekelwa yincazelo yayo. Ngemuva kwendoda enjalo, awusafuni ukuhlangana nomuntu olula, ukuqhathanisa akulungiswa.
- Ngabe uxhumana nawe ukuze ubuyise indoda enjalo? Futhi ngokuvamile, unaziphi izinkinga kuwe?
- Njengomthetho, baphathwa ngezinkinga zomndeni, lapho ubudlelwano phakathi komyeni wakhe nomfazi buyakhamba. Ngemuva kokuthi ngibone, kungani lona wesifazane engeke akwazi ukubamba umlingani wakhe, abuze lo mbuzo: "Ungakuvala?" Ngiyenqaba. Ukwephula isiphetho kanye ne-psyche somuntu - isono esikhulu. Angizishintshi izimiso zami, umbono wami, angikaze ngincenge amabutho amnyama. Ngikholwa ukuthi kukhona i-boomerang, futhi angabuya azongishaya. Ngeke ngiziveze wena nomndeni wakho izivivinyo ezinjalo. Kulokhu, umsebenzi we-psychologist uyaqala. Kwembula izizathu.
Kwenzeka kaningi ukuthi owesifazana uthole indoda futhi evuseleleke.
Ucabanga ukuthi wabeletha indodana eyayilindelwe isikhathi eside, futhi ayiyi ndawo kuye. Owesifazane uyayeka ukumnakekela, uyayeka ukuba yindoda ethokozisayo.
Futhi nakhu akunakwenzeka ukuphumula, ngoba "abancane nabalambile" bathwebula ukusesha izimayini, futhi umyeni wakho angaba yile mpango.
Maye, ngaphandle kokuqonda i-Psychology yabesilisa kunzima ukuyigcina, kodwa ukuthemba ukuthi uzophila nawe emcabangweni wokuba nesihawu - ububele - ubuwula kakhulu.
Ngokwemvelo, indoda efuna njalo, uhlala edinga i-drive, i-adrenaline, ukuhlinzwa kwemizwa, imizwa emisha, emisha.
Futhi owesifazane omatasatasa impilo nengane ngeke aveze amandla amasha anikeze indoda lokho akufunayo emvelweni.
Le ndoda ingenamkhawulo i-polygamen, uyohlala enaka abesifazane ababe khona abesifazane. Futhi ungacabangi ukuthi izimbangi zihlala zihlaseli ezisencane, owesifazane nomdala bangayenga umuntu.
Nginikeza ngokubonisana okuningi, ngisebenzisa amakhono e-parapsychological, ngibona, lapho isizathu sangempela sokuhlasela. Kuphi, ngasiphi isigaba, ukwehluleka kwaqala ebudlelwaneni.
Ngizonikeza isibonelo: Enye yeziguli zami ebusheni bakhe yaphonsa umkhwenyana, futhi wayiphonsa izinhlungu nokuthukwa emphefumulweni wakhe. Manje lobu buhlungu nokuthuka kuhlala ngokuqinile kokuqonda. Iminyaka yadlula, yathola umlingani emndenini, kepha icala lihlala futhi lithinta ngokungaqondakali ngokuzithandela. Wazonda futhi ufisa lokhu noma cha, kuthinta ubuhlobo nendoda yakhe. Umyeni uhlangana nalesi sithintelo, sokwenqatshwa futhi ngeke akwazi ukuqonda ukuthi yini inkinga. Owesifazane lapho esevumizweni ephelele, ekhipha uketshezi olungabonakali, futhi la manzi akhanga indoda.
Futhi lapho kuba nokwephulwa ngokungenisa inzondo e-ndoda, ama-chakras ngokobulili avinjiwe, amandla amahle othando avinjiwe.
Ngenxa yalokho, indoda ithola ubulili, kepha ayikutholi okuphakelayo, imibala emizwa, iqala ukubukeka kahle - ngakwesobunxele.
Ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, u-Euphoria wanyamalala, kwaba khona okujwayelekile, wathi: "Ngabona ukuthi awusiyena wesifazane wami."
Okuningi kungahamba ngendlela ehlukile ukube bekungekho mabhulokhi aphansi, okucasulwa nokudumazeka, okuhlushwa uthando lokuqala. Konke kwenzeke kungenalwazi, imibhangqwana eminingi ngokuzumayo iqonda ngokungazelelwe ukuthi ayidalelwane. "
Enye inkathazo enkulu yingakho owesifazana ehlakazeka enendoda eyodwa ephuza futhi ngokushesha wathola omunye umfutho. Konke lokhu kufakwe ekukhulekeni, futhi izimpande zale nkinga zidonswa ebuntwaneni. Umsebenzi wami ukufaka umuzwa, ukukhomba nokuqeda.
Kepha ngisebenza nalokhu, xhumana, nginikeza izeluleko, ukuthi ngingaqhubeka kanjani ukuziphatha.
Ngeshwa, abesifazane bethu babi kakhulu ngokwengqondo, funda izincwadi ezincane lapho izifundo zokuhlakanipha zifundiswa khona. Manje kunezincwadi eziningi ezifinyelelekayo futhi eziwusizo ebudlelwaneni, kuyadingeka ukwazi ukuze ubone amaphutha akho kusuka ohlangothini.
- Wena, ngokungafani nezincomo ezincwadini eziwusizo, kukhona indlela yombhali?
- Okokuqala, ngikucebisa ukuthi udlule ukuxolelwa nokuphenduka. Kunzima kakhulu - ukuthethelela nokwamukela bonke. Uma ifa elibi selidlulile emndenini wabazali, futhi uma izinyathelo zingathathwanga ngesikhathi, khona-ke lokhu kungukuthobeka. Nikeza zonke izithumba phezulu, ngiyaxolisa bese ukhohlwa. Okwesibili, wakhe inkohliso yempilo enhle futhi uzame ukuhlala, umelele njalo.
Yakha isithombe esisha futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi zama ukuhlala, ukucabanga kuyinto enhle. Le ndlela ingaba "ukudonsa" ngokwakho bese ususa konke ukufakwa okungasebenzi. Nginezincomo eziningi ezisebenzayo ezingazange zisize umbhangqwana owodwa. Le yindlela yombhali wami ngokususelwa ekufundisweni okujwayelekile kwe-psychology kanye ne-parapsychology.
Inhlanganisela yezengqondo kanye ne-parapsychology ixazulula izinkinga eziningi empandeni.
Make-up, amasheya, isidlo sakusihlwa nokhandlela nokufaka amakhandlela akunakuxazululwa yinkinga nendoda. Konke kungukukhanya ngokweqile futhi kuzosebenza isikhathi esisodwa noma ezimbili, ngoba ukufakwa okubi kuhlale futhi akukho lutho olushintsha.
Okokuqala udinga ukusula i-subconscious, ungacasuki ngabantu, kwimbangi, kubazali. Ukuvumelana kuza nami, ungaphumi ngomuntu emcabangweni amacebo amabi agcwele zonke izindlela. Sidinga ukuvumela inzondo, inhlamba eyedlule, ukwehluleka, ukuqeda zonke izinhlelo ezingezinhle futhi ziqale ukuphila futhi.