Sonke asisifaneli impilo ngaphandle kothando, kepha indlela eya kuye wonke umuntu wethu. Othile unenhlanhla, futhi bathola uthando lwabo ngokushesha, ngisho nasemncane. Othile uyakuthola, alahlekelwe, kepha akapheleli, kepha akholwe futhi alinde, kwesinye isikhathi iminyaka eminingi, injabulo yakhe. Othile ngokuthobeka alinde okuyisidina sakhe kuphela, ngakho ukufuna kwakhe baphenduka umdlalo othokozisayo kunokugcwalisa izimpilo zabo. Kepha bakhona bona ngokwabo abafuna uthando abalethi lutho ngaphandle kokudumazeka nokuhlangenwe nakho kwengqondo. Lokhu kufaka, ngokwesibonelo, amantombazane asheshe alahlekelwe yintshisekelo kubantu abathandana nabo.
Uma ubheka kuqala, lokhu kungenzeka kungabonakali ukuthi: Ukufuna ukunakwa kwendoda oyifunayo futhi kulahlekelwe yintshisekelo kuyo lapho nje ehlangana khona lapho ehlangana khona. Kepha eqinisweni, le nkinga itholakala kaningi. Kukholakala ukuthi imvelo yokuzingela eyizingeli ayifani nabesilisa, kunenombolo enkulu yamathiphu amantombazane aqondene nokuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nabesilisa ukubangela futhi balondoloze isithakazelo sabo bemvelo. Ngasikhathi sinye, wona kanye umqondo wokuthi "imvelo" usho ukuthi umuntu akwenzayo ngokunenjongo, ukulalela kungazi lutho, nokuqiniswa okungalawulwa.
Ingabe intombazane ingaba ngaphansi kwegunya lomqondo ofanayo? Mhlawumbe lapho umshado (noma ubukhona bendoda eduzane) uba yinhloso ebaluleke kakhulu. Kulokhu, noma yimuphi umuntu, noma ngabe afaneleke kakhudlwana noma ngaphansi kweminyaka yobudala, eba yinto ethi "ukuzingela" (nasezimweni ezinzima kakhulu, ukuzingela ngisho nakulabo abangafanele. Intombazane ethandanayo, idonsela ukunaka kuye, kuyilapho engasusi lowo ophambi kwakhe. Onke amabutho aya ku-Live, futhi angazi umuntu, isithombe sendoda kwesinye isikhathi sihlelwa, sishintshelwa amazinga afunekayo, futhi empeleni - kumane nje kwasungulwa.
Wonke amabutho entombazane aya ku-live, futhi angazi ukuthi uyathandana into
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Futhi lapho umuntu osunguliwe ekugcineni edonsela ukunaka entombazaneni, ukuxhumana kwawo kusondela, uqobo, kungazelelwe kuvela ukuthi yonke into eyasungulwa ayilona iqiniso, nokuthi le ndoda empeleni ayikho "ayifanele." Okungukuthi, indoda empeleni ijwayelekile ngokwayo, kepha esithombeni esisunguliwe ayihambelani. Futhi lokhu kungahambisani kwakha ukudumazeka - amandla amakhulu achithekile, hhayi kulokho. Intombazane ilahlekelwa yinzalo kuye.
Isimo esijwayelekile? Eqinisweni, isimo singahluka kancane, kepha umphumela uyefana: ngokushesha nje lapho indoda iba lungabizi, inzalo kuyo inyamalala. Futhi kaningi, ngokunembile ngoba umuntu wangempela akahlangabezani nokulindelwe okulindelwe okuhle. Kepha into ethakazelisa kakhulu ukuthi akufanele ayifani, akazi ukuthi uthandana nayo, kodwa kuwe wasungula isithombe. Umkhombe ophukile usasele zombili - futhi intombazane eyayitholile "ayilungile," nendoda engaqondi ukuthi akazange akwenze.
Imvamisa, ukuzingela okunjalo kwendoda (indondo) - inkokhiso ngombono womphakathi "kumele sibe nendoda." Kepha eqinisweni, le ntombazane ivame ukwesaba noma ayifuni ubuhlobo obungathi sína. Kulokhu, uyazithandaza, afeze, futhi esethole ukuqinisekiswa kwemizwa evela kumuntu, alahlekelwe yiliphi isifiso sokuqhubeka.
Ukuze ugweme ukudumazeka, akufanele usungule owesilisa. Kungcono ukuqala ukuthola ukuthi umelelani
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Kwabanye, ukuzingela okunjalo kuwuhlobo lokuphawula i-ego yakho, "Ngingakwazi". Kepha kulokhu, intombazane ayinasisusa sokwenza ubuhlobo obude nobusondelene, kungumdlalo nje. Ukuzizwa ehhashini, enhle, efisiwe.
Abaningi babheka lokho kuziphatha kwabesifazane kuwuphawu lokuzikhukhumeza. Kepha eqinisweni, okuphambene nalokho, futhi, ikakhulukazi, intombazane inezinkinga ezithile zokuzethemba nokwesaba ubudlelwano.
Indlela ephuma kulesi simo itholakala lapho, lapho futhi umnyango futhi ungafanele uphuphelise! Akunasidingo sokwazi wena uqobo, emhlanganweni wokuqala owethula wena kanye nomshado ophelele, nombala wezindonga ekhishini lekhaya lakho, kanye nenani lezingane ezizayo. Chitha amandla nesikhathi sokuthola ukuthi ngubani phambi kwakho. Ukuzijwayeza kukhombisa ukuthi ngisho nokujwayelana ngokweqile, ingxoxo emincane, kusihlwa esetshenziswe enkampanini eyodwa kusiza ukuqonda, noma ngabe udinga ukujwayelana? Yebo, ekuqaleni kobuhlobo sonke siyimpumputhe encane, ukhetha ukungaboni ku-Elect esingakuthandi ngempela, kepha akufanele ubeke kahle lesi simo! Khumbula, awudlali ngemizwa yakho kuphela, kodwa futhi nemizwa yendoda. Futhi lo akuwona umdlalo lapho uBlefuye unqobile khona.