Lapho umshado uwa, izingane zilahlekelwa kakhulu. Balahlekelwa ngumndeni kuphela, kodwa futhi nomuzwa wokulondeka, futhi lapho kungekho mqondo wokuphepha, kubonakala sengathi umhlaba wonke uyawa. Futhi ayikho imibuthano namathoyizi azokwazi ukugcwalisa lokhu kulahleka. Izibalo zeSurova: Izingane ezivela emindenini engaphelele kungenzeka zifunde okubi kakhulu, zibe nengozi ephezulu yokukhulelwa kwentsha, utshwala nezidakamizwa, izinkinga zomzwelo kanye nokuziphatha okuvame ukungapheli eminyakeni evuthiwe ngokwengeziwe.
Kulezi zinsuku, ihlelo lezingane liye lavela ngamandla amangalisayo. Ingane yabeka ekhanda ekhoneni yaqoka main emndenini nasebudlelwaneni. Kepha kubalulekile ukuthi izintshisakalo nezidingo zengane zibaluleke kakhulu kunezintshisakalo nezidingo zomlingani, iphutha elikhulu! Okuhle kakhulu ukuthi abazali bangazenzela izingane zabo, bafunde ngenjabulo. Ufuna ukuba ngumzali omuhle kakhulu - yiba umlingani omuhle kakhulu womlingani wakho. Kuliqiniso, akwenzeki njalo.
Emhlabeni wangempela, abazali baqhuma kaningi. Kuyethuswa kakhulu yiqiniso lokuthi abashadikazi bangaphambili abakwazi ukugcina ubungane obujwayelekile noma, okungenani, ubudlelwane babazali phakathi kwabo. Inani elikhulu lezingane noma lihlala ngaphandle komunye wabazali noma liphoqelekile ukuthi lithathe obaba noma umama omusha ngoba nje umuntu omdala ulula kakhulu ukuvala umzali owedlule empilweni. Kepha yini ingane esimweni esinjalo?
Bonke ubunzima obukhulu nezingane ezivela emishadweni edlule (kanye nabazali abavela emishadweni emisha) bavela ngenxa yokuthi abantu abadala abakwazi ukusungula ukuxhumana futhi bahlele ama-accents afanelekile ebudlelwaneni bonke abanentshisekelo: izingane, ezintsha kanye nabashadikazi.
Ezweni lethu, ukuzijwayeza ukuthi izingane ngemuva kwesehlukaniso zivame ukuhlala kunina. Lokhu kusho ukuthi indoda ezokwakha impilo yakhe nowesifazane onengane iphoqelekile ukuthi ihlale nengane ensimini eyodwa futhi yakha ukuxhumana naye. Kubukeka sengathi abesifazane abashadayo abashadayo nengane kulesi simo kulula, kodwa bazijwayeza futhi banobunzima obuningi obuhambisana, njengoMbusi, onomhawu, nomkakhe wokuqala.
Izingane ezijwayelekile kufanele zikwazi ukugcina ubudlelwano obuzinzile nabo bobabili abazali.
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Akunandaba ukuthi ubudlelwane kubalingani bakudala ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, izingane ezijwayelekile kufanele zikwazi ukugcina ubudlelwano obuzinzile nabo bobabili abazali (uma abazali bengancishisiwe noma abakhawulelwe amalungelo okuphila). Kungakhathaleki ukuthi ingane yahlala kuphi ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, abalingani bakudala kuzodingeka bavumelane komunye nomunye futhi basungula imithetho ejwayelekile yezemfundo. Akufanele kube nezimo lapho ingane enosuku lonke ifunda khona izincwadi futhi idlala upiyano, futhi nobaba - usuku oluyindilinga luhlala ekhompyutheni noma ikhonsoli.
Imincintiswano yelungelo lokubizwa ngokuthi umzali ongcono kakhulu, njengomthetho, lisanda kuthululwa yi-psyche yengane. "Ukungena" uPapa ogcwele emphakathini emphakathini, ingane ayifuni ukubuyela ezweni lemikhawulo nemithetho ebenza ngayo. Ngakho-ke, hhayi kuphela igunya labazali likamama, kodwa futhi nomyeni walo omusha, licasulwa ukungezwani emndenini.
Imfundo ephumelelayo yezingane idinga ukuxhumana okusebenzayo. Noma ngabe abashadikazi bangaphambilini kanye nabalingani babo abasha abathandani noma bavumelane nabanye ngezinkinga eziningi, kufanele babe yiqembu elilodwa uma kuziwa ekukhuliseni izingane. Kubalulekile ukuvuma: abalingani abasha be-Persoses yangaphambili - ababambiqhaza abagcwele kwinqubo yezemfundo. Iphutha elikhulu lizobakhipha kusuka kwinqubo yokukhuliswa noma lehlisa igunya labo, kanye nokufunwa kwezingane ezitholwe ngokushesha kokutholwa nokulalela.
Abalingani abasha babazali ngokuqondene nezingane ezivela emshadweni owedlule kubalulekile ukugcina i-Golden Maild: ukungayenqabi ingane, kodwa futhi ungazami ukuyenga eceleni kwakho. Ubudlelwano kuleli cala kufanele busekelwe kumanani alula futhi aqondakalayo wengane: ukunaka, ukunakekelwa, ukuvuleleka, ukwethembana. Noma ngabe ekuqaleni, kubalulekile ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthola ingane ukujwayela ingane. Lokhu kungumyeni omusha ngomama - othandekayo nomuntu osondelene naye, kepha ingane isazothatha futhi imthande, futhi lokhu kwesinye isikhathi kudinga isikhathi esiningi. Kepha ukuthi lokhu kuwumgomo kwakukhona, umlingani omusha kapapa noma umama omusha womshado kufanele abe yingxenye yomndeni omkhulu ovamile. Futhi kubalulekile ukuqonda wonke umuntu: futhi labo abazoba yindoda yesibili noma umfazi wesibili, nalabo abazongena emshadweni omusha ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.