Khumbula ubuhle - i-wondrus "u-Olesya" eSonto Elikhulu? Ogogo abangafundile amakhulu ambalwa amakhulu eminyaka edlule bayiphonsa ngamatshe okufundwa namuhla kunoma iyiphi inyuvesi nge-psychology noma i-jurisprudence njengohlelo lwe-neurolynguistic. Umbhali uLena Lenin wakhipha inguqulo entsha yencwadi elalelwayo "NLP Men". Kuyo, uyachaza ukuthi abanye ubuchwepheshe be-NLP bangasetshenziswa kanjani ekuphathweni kwamadoda ekhaya. ILebulny Lionss yabelana ngezimfihlo zokuphathwa kwemilingo kwabayeni babo. Ngasikhathi sinye, uLenin uqobo uqinisekisa ukuthi incwadi yakhe ayihlangene nalutho oluthakazelayo: "Ngibiza ukusetshenziswa kwesayensi! Uhlelo lwe-Classical neurolinguistic lususelwa kwimodeli ye-Psychotherapeapeutic yososayensi baseMelika uMilton Erikson, umkhuba wokuzijwayeza ngentshiseko. Imfihlo enkulu yezifundo zakhe zomtholampilo - futhi bavumele bangivuse emlilweni njengomthakathi - ukuthi wonke umuntu wesifazane angasebenzisa kahle i-hypnosis ngokuphepha othandweni nabesilisa noma aphathe ekhaya. Okwezokuphatha ku-Trans Erickson wasebenzisa izifanekiso zokuziphatha ezisetshenziswa ngokuphelele ebudlelwaneni bomshado. Isibonelo, kugcinwe ngokushintshana okusebenzayo futhi okufisayo. Okokuqala, engxoxweni eqotho nendoda, kuyadingeka ukuthi kufakwe ohlwini lwezimo ezisobala umuntu akwazi ukuzithoba kalula. Ungamtshela, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi Umi eduze kwakho, izandla zakhe zanga okhalweni lwakho, kuhhavini zinuka ikhukhi ngesinamoni, iculo elimnandi lamaBrahms lithule futhi ... Uyakuqonda ukuthi lo thando ludlula imizimba yenu. Umzuzu wokugcina uyinto ecacile yokusikisela, kepha futhi nokokuqala okusobala, uzokholelwa kalula eqinisweni nasesimweni sokugcina. Noma isiphakamiso esiyinkimbinkimbi, esibandakanya ukubopha iziphakamiso ezahlukahlukene ngosizo lwenyunyana "kanye", okubuye kulungele ukungavikeleli nokuqondisa ukwehluleka. Isibonelo: "Asithengi umgexo wekamama!" Futhi emcimbini wakhe: "Ungamjabulisa malini owesifazane osangibiza ngesiwula" engeza: "Ngemuva kwalokho sizomnika imali, makamnikeze isipho, makamkhethile isipho, makamkhethile." Isiphakamiso esinjalo sisiza ukudala ubudlelwano be-causal phakathi kwezinto ezimbili ezihlukile. Isibonelo: "Beka, muhle, ingalo yami esifubeni sami, zizwe inhliziyo yakho ishaya, futhi uyazi ukuthi siwuthanda kanjani umngane womngane." Inyunyana "futhi" ilungile futhi ngesinye indlela yokusikisela okubizwa ngokuthi "umsebenzi ophindwe kabili". Kuyo, imiyalelo emibili ixhumeke yinyunyana ethile, kube sengathi le misebenzi ixhumeke ngokungalingani komunye nomunye futhi ngokunengqondo iphuma enye yomunye. Isibonelo: "Sithandwa, ake sidlale ithenisi futhi sixoxe ngokuthi uyeka kanjani ukunika izikweletu zolwandle." Kepha ukusikisela okungaqondile kokucabanga kusekelwe kulokho okulindelwe, kepha abakukhulumi ngqoIsibonelo, umama wenza umntwana abe nemifino. Akabuzi ukuthi ingane izoba imifino, ngoba zonke izingane ezijwayelekile zizophendula "cha" hhayi kuphela ngokungathandi imifino, kepha ngenxa yokutholwa kokuphikisana kwabantu abadala. Ngakho-ke, umama okhohlisayo kufanele abuze: "Ngabe uzoba izaqathe ezibilisiwe noma amachashazi e-polka?" Ngenkathi ingane eyisiphukuphuku imatasatasa ngokuzikhethela, umama uyathokozela umphumela, okungewona ongohlobo lwemifino ekhetha imifino Choo, kodwa ukuthi ingane isazoba nayo.
Njengoba izakhi zokuphakamisa zilungile futhi ziyi-stereotypes. Okunje, okungekhona ukuphikisana okukodwa, kusobala kakhulu. Ama-stereotypes ambalwa ashiwo engxoxweni, futhi le ndoda izogwinya kalula noma ikuphi ukutholwa kokutholwa. Izibonelo zama-stereotypes zingaba nanoma yimiphi izinhlanga ezinjengokuthi "Uthando Luyini", "Uthanda Kahle Kakhulu", "Ucansi Kufanele Lube Nomfantu kuphela." Ungakhohlwa ukukhombisa ngokuxakile. Ukulungiswa okunjalo kuzosebenza kahle ngokuqonda kwakhe.
Elinye ithuluzi lethonya elincanyana kakhulu liyisiphakamiso esingesihle esikhulu. Isebenzisa isici sengqondo sokungaboni kwenhlakahla engemihle "hhayi". Isibonelo esihle sokukhangisa esingaphumeleli: "Indoda ngeke ibukeke kabi kule pajama." Waphendula ngokuthi abathengi abangahle bazethule ngokuhlekisa ngaleli fomu. Isicelo esithi "Ungangibheki Mina" empeleni yi-oda elingezansi lokubuka. "Ungangithandi kangako", "angizange ngingithande, nginamahloni", "Ungakhohlwa okhiye" - le mishwana iyi-ordinance yesenzo esiphambene. Ukwamukela kusebenza kakhulu. Isisho esithi: "Ingabe Ubala Ngokheshi noma Uhlu?" Kucabanga ukuthi iklayenti selivele linqume ukuthenga umkhiqizo wakho, yize namanje ungasazi. "Sithandwa, sithatha impungushe noma i-beaver?" Yize engakaqapheli ngesifiso sakhe esishisayo sokuthenga ijazi loboya, angangena kulolu gibe.
Ungabuza umakhelwane omuhle uma ukufudumala kufakiwe endlini, ngoba uthanda ukulala ngaphandle kwelineni. Uzokwethula enqunu, futhi lesi sithombe sizokuma phambi kwamehlo akhe isikhathi eside, esizosiza kakhulu inqubo yokuyenga. Into enhle yokukhohlisa futhi ibinzana eliqukethe izakhiwo ze-pseudological zisebenzisa izinguquko, njenge- "izihloko." Isibonelo: "Sixhumana isikhathi eside, kulapho sithandana khona." Ungakhuthaza okudingayo, ukudiliza izinketho ze-pastime zesimenywa esibizayo, owathola ithuba lokuthola isidlo sakusihlwa: "Ungabuka i-TV egumbini lokuphumula, lapho ngipheka ingilazi, noma ngilalele umculo, noma ngilalele umculo, noma ngilalela umculo, Noma vele ujabulele injabulo yakho ukuvakashelwa nami ngedwa. " Ngasikhathi sinye, ama-accents abalulekile angagcizelelwa ngezwi, ikhefu noma ukunyakaza. Futhi nakhu kusalungiselela igagasi elifiselekayo: "Sawubona! Ngaphambi kokuzwa i-buzz ekuxhumaneni nowesifazane opholile onjalo, njengami, ake sizungeze. "
Izindlela zokuphakamisa zika-Erickson noLenin Lenin - indlela emangalisayo futhi ehlukahlukene yokwethula izinhlelo ezidingekayo zokuyenga kanye namadoda aboshwe ngenhloso yethonya ngokuqonda kwabo.