Ngokusho kwezibalo, isehlukaniso kungenye yezimo ezesabeka kakhulu zokuphila. Abantu abadlula ngokuhlukahluka ngobuso ngalolu hlobo lwezinkinga njengokupenda, ukuwa kwezinkomba, ukuwohloka kanye nombono ongokoqobo ngabo ngaphandle kobuhlobo, ukwahlukaniswa kwemisebenzi yabazali. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umbhangqwana we-divergent udlula ekulahlisweni okusondelene nozakwabo. Isigaba esinzima sokwehlukanisa nokukhululwa kufanele siphothulwe ngokuphelele eminyakeni engaba mithathu.
Incwadi engezansi yathumela owesifazane edlula ehlukanisweni ngemuva komshado omude. Kubalulekile ukusho ukuthi isehlukaniso sibuhlungu, sisongelwa ekhelini lakhe nasekusolweni yinhlekelele yonke impilo yomndeni ngenxa yayo. Lo mbhangqwana unengane endala eye yaphila ngokwahlukana iminyaka eminingi.
Ngakho-ke: "Umngane wami wanginikeza imvilophu, hhayi ukusho ukuthi ungubani. Ngabona ukuthi bekuvela kumyeni wangaphambili, njengasemvilophini kwakukhona izithombe zami nengane yami. Isitaki sezithombe sasisikhulu, kepha izithombe zami zingama-5 kuphela, kanti ezinye izithombe ziyi-dismember enzima. Ngivuka ngesabekayo. "
Kuyiqiniso, ukulala kufanekisela i-paranoia nokwesaba umyeni wakhe we-daisy nentukuthelo yakhe kwabonakala kuye nengane yabo. Lapho iminyaka eminingi yabesifazane bephila ngaphansi kosongo ngokuphila noma ngobuqotho, khona-ke ukwesaba kwazenziwa ngokuphelele. Ukulala kusiza uSnovidice ukudedelwa ekucindezelekeni nasekukhathazekeni ahlala kuwo iminyaka eminingi. Futhi kulokhu, ukulala kusobala ukutolika.
Kepha noma kunjalo, angizange ngiholele ngephutha esibonelweni saleli phupho, njengoba ungacabanga ngesihloko sesehlukaniso nokuhlukana. CO CREAKAT, kepha ukufakwa kwamasiko kushintsha okuhlobene nesihloko sesehlukaniso. Cishe eminyakeni eyi-100-50 edlule bekuyinhlamba enkulu kunalokho. Lapho lo mbhangqwana ufinyelela esiphethweni, yini okufanele ngabe ayinakwenza lutho, khona-ke isehlukaniso yithuba lokuzikhulula kwinkontileka enzima.
Kodwa-ke, kunokuthambekela kokudiliza umlingani wakho wangaphambili: "Unjalo futhi, wangishaya, akazange anikeze imali, akazange asebenze." Ukulalela abalingani bangaphambili, ungabamba ikhanda futhi ugijime ukuze ududuze umuntu osho ngayo. Kodwa-ke, ungavumeli ngidukise. Ngazo zonke lezi zinto ezesabekayo, lo mbhangqwana wawuhlala ndawonye isikhashana, kwesinye isikhathi yiminyaka eminingi. Futhi ngandlela thile izimvu ezimhlophe kakhulu, eceleni kwalapho kwakuhlala khona umyeni oyingozi - i-monster ehlala kuyo, yakwazi ukusika futhi yaziphindisela. Ubudlelwano bomndeni buka ukuthi ukudansa kuhanjiswa phakathi kwabalingani. Umyeni ushaya, kepha ohlangothini lowesifazane, ukusekelwa okuphelele nothando lwezingane, oshade naye ajeziswa ngokufakelwa nokwenqatshwa kwabathandekayo. Noma unkosikazi ushintsha, kepha unxephezela umuzwa wokuba necala ngokunakekelwa okukhethekile futhi egcizelela kumyeni wakhe.
Ngakho-ke, angiphakamisa ukuthi ngingababheka ezinyantisweni ngomyeni ka-Thiran, kodwa lapho emndenini wonke amalungu omndeni, nowokuqala kubo bonke umkakhe, bahlale, babhekane nalokhu okukhonjiswayo okubi kakhulu futhi okubi .
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Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma uthambekele ekuhlaseleni nasekugxekeni umlingani wakho, buza imibuzo: Kungani uyidinga kulesi sikhundla; Ngabe udala kanjani ngempela amacala odlame noma izinsongo ebudlelwaneni bakho?
Futhi ngamaphupho ethu, le yimibuzo ewusizo. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube yinqubo yesehlukaniso ibe ngokoqobo ngokwengeziwe nobudlelwano nalowo owayengowokuqala kakhulu futhi ahlanzwa.
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UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin