Ukubukeka kwengane kuyindilinga entsha empilweni yanoma yimuphi umndeni, indlela yakho ejwayelekile yokuphila ayisoze yafana. Kodwa-ke, abazali abaningi banamuhla abaye babona ngokuphelele ukuthi yimuphi umthwalo wemfanelo ozowela emahlombe abo ngokufika kwesidalwa esincane ekhaya labo. Ukuthi ungaqonda kanjani ukuthi "umzuzu ofanayo" weza, sizokhuluma namhlanje.
Awuqali ingane ukuxazulula izinkinga
Hhayi kaningi, kepha kwenzeka - izinkinga eziningi emshadweni zithandwa ukuxazulula ukuzalwa kwengane, emva kwalokho zimangele ngokweqiniso: "Kungani kwakumbi kakhulu?" Ingane akufanele ifeze indima ye-peacemaker, ngaphezu kwalokho, ushintsho ekuhambeni okujwayelekile kwempilo ngokufika kwengane kungaqhubekela phambili ubudlelwano bakho nobalingani bakho. Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuthi uzixazululele ngokuphelele wena futhi uqiniseke ukuthi umbhangqwana wakho ulungele lesi sinyathelo esifanele.
ngiyabonga kakhulu amandla akho
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Uyakuqonda ukuthi nengane izofika ushintsho
Ngenkathi ingane ingaveli empilweni yakho, ngeke ukwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukuhlinzeka ngempilo enhle yengane encane. Kungabonakala kuwe ukuthi empilweni yakho cishe akukho lutho oluzoshintsha: Usazosebenzisa isikhathi esiningi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, usebenze ekuqaleni ngamandla afanayo, futhi ngemuva konyaka ungahlela iholide. Ngeshwa, akwenzeki. Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha zokuqala zokuphila, ufunda nje ukuphila impilo entsha lapho wena nengane yakho, mayelana nesimiso sempilo esedlule, okungenani isikhashana, kufanele ukhohlwe.
Uyaqonda ukuthi imfundo yengane iyasebenza
Ingane evele entombini yakho noma oyinayo epaki nabazali ingafa ukuze kubonakale umcabango: "Nami ngifuna lokhu!" Ikakhulu uma abazali bale ngane bekhuluma ngentokozo yabo nokuthi kungakhathazeki kanjani umntwana. Bambalwa abantu abazosho ukuthi ngaphezu kwesithunzi sengane, kuzofanele ubhekane nezinkinga nezinguquko lapho ungaba mnyama khona. Ukuhlola amandla akho.
Usukulungele ukuvela ingane ngokwezezimali
Elinye iphutha elikhulu elenza abazali abasebancane bavumela umbono wokuthi umhlaba awunawo ngaphandle kwabantu abalungile. Yebo, sikusize usuka ezihlotsheni nasezihlotsheni zami ekuqaleni, kepha osekhulile uyaba yinto ekhule, kulapho uzokuthokozela kakhulu khona umndeni nabasondelene nabo ukuze ubolekise imali noma uhlale nengane! " Uma ungafuni ukulahlekelwa ngumngane, ungalokothi umtshele le nkulumo. Khumbula ukuthi ungabheka kuphela ngamandla akho, ngakho-ke, kanye nomlingani wakho, ukwazisa amathuba akho ezibonakalayo, futhi uma "izinkanyezi zingaguquki," zihlehlisela ukubukeka kwengane isikhashana.