Kusebuntwaneni, yonke intombazane idlalwe "endodakazini kamama" namanodoli - okutholwa kwalolu hlelo lokusebenza kunikelwe kuphela ekuvunyelweni kwabantu abaseduze. Lo mdlalo ufundisa ingane imithetho eyisisekelo yokukhathazeka okusanda kuzalwa, okuzoba wusizo esikhathini esizayo, lapho nje intombazane edla ifa ithatha isinqumo sokuba ngumama. Emphakathini wanamuhla, umngcele weminyaka, lapho kufanele ingane, ikhula kuphela. Abantu baphoqa isidingo sabazali ngemuva futhi basondela kuphela ku-30 bacabanga ukwakheka komndeni. Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ufuna ukuba ngumama, hlola ngokwengqondo imikhaza ezintweni ezilandelayo.
Buza umlingani wakho
Owokuqala, ukuthi uzoqala kuphi ukulungiselela umzali - ingxoxo eqotho nothandekayo wakho. Uma umyeni wakho ecwiliswe ekunqobeni iziqongo zemisebenzi futhi akafuni ukuzwa ngobaba, kungani athathe leso sibopho? Nquma ndawonye lapho unganikeza ingane isikhathi esanele sokumnakekela futhi unikeze uthando nokunakekelwa. Ukudonsa umama ngakolunye uhlangothi ngethemba lokuthi le ndoda ijwayela ingane - ikhambi eliluhlaza. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngeqiniso lokuthi uzoba ngabazali abaneminyaka engama-35 noma umshado oneminyaka engu-5-7. Kuhle kunokunakekela i-chad ngogogo no-nanny noma ukusola osemusha ngoba kukuphanga iminyaka engcono kakhulu yokuphila.
Umlingani kufanele futhi alungele ukuba ngumzali.
Ube yinto engokoqobo
Susa ukususa umsebenzi, imihlangano ejwayelekile nabangane, inhlansi engapheli ebudlelwaneni, ezemidlalo kanye nokuba ngumama akunakwenzeka. Udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ukukhathalela okusanda kuzalwa kuzothatha cishe usuku lonke - noma amandla noma isikhathi sokuhamba ngezinyawo ekhefini nase-cinema ngeke kube ekuqaleni. Kuzoba lula kuphela ngemuva kweminyaka emi-2 kuya kwengama-3, lapho ingane izokhula iye enkulisa. Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, ungumqashi ochaza izinhlelo zakho zosuku. Uma ungakulungeli ukudela okwesikhashana isigqi esimisiwe sempilo, kusho ukuthi kufanele wenze nomzali.
Lungela ukusebenza okuningi
Ngo-2014, uMnyango wezoLimo e-US ulungiselele umbiko, ngakho-ke abazali bachitha cishe amadola ayizinkulungwane ezingama-300 ukukhulisa ingane kusukela ebudaleni kuya ebudaleni. Siyangabaza ukuthi yonke imindeni iyakwazi ukuchitha cishe ama-ruble ayizinkulungwane ezingama-90 ngenyanga, kodwa uma ufuna ukuhlinzeka ngengane okufanelekile, leli nani lifanelekile. Wena nomyeni wakho kuzodingeka basebenze kwimodi eqinisiwe ukunikeza indlalifa kwezemfundo, bakhokhele ukuzijabulisa nokuzijabulisa.
Kuzofanele usebenze kakhulu kunangaphambili
Sebenza phezu komlingiswa
Uma uvame ukuba novalo emsebenzini, nasempilweni yakho yangasese, bese uya engxabanweni ngezimo, umamazela akusona isithembiso esihle kakhulu. Ingane encane ivame ukukhala, yephule yonke into nxazonke bese ngiziphatha kabi kuze kube yiminyaka engama-7-7. I-Psyche ezinzile - idiphozi ngokufundisa ilungu eliphilile lomphakathi, hhayi neurotic. Hlela nawe ukuthi uzosebenza ngokomoya bese uzama ukuvinjwa. Izokonga izinzwa zakho futhi isuse izifo eziningi, okusho ukuthi impilo izojabula futhi izokuvumela ukuthi ujabulele abazali ngokugcwele.