Farewell kwabafileyo, mhlawumbe, okunye okuhlangenwe nakho okunzima kakhulu okungewona umuntu oyedwa. Thatha iqiniso lokunakekelwa kothile akulula, isikhathi salokhu siyadingeka ngokuqinisekile isikhathi esingaphezu kwehora, usuku, amasonto, inyanga. Kwesinye isikhathi iminyaka ishiye.
I-Farewell iyinqubo eqhubekayo, noma kunjalo, kukhona abacwaningi kanye nezazi zezengqondo ezabela izigaba ezahlukahlukene zale nqubo.
Manje ngizolala ama-2 abesifazane abahlukene abahlukene ukukhombisa ukuthi amaphupho asisiza kanjani ukuba sibhekane nosizi.
Ukulala 1: "Ngifunde ngamaphupho. Nginqume ukubhala. Kwesinye isikhathi ngiphupha ngezehlakalo ezibuhlungu ngamaphupho ayisiprofetho. Ngaphambi kokushona komfowabo, kwaphupha iphupho, kube sengathi ngiya kudokotela wamazinyo ukuyophatha amazinyo ami, ngemuva kokuthi ukwamukela ukwamukela kuphume emgwaqweni futhi nginomuzwa wokuthi wonke amazinyo ami aqala ukuphuma. Ngamisa inqindi, futhi ngenqindi kwavela ukuthi wonke amazinyo ayeya kwelinye, kwakungekho gazi. Kwasabisa kakhulu. Umcabango wokuqala wawunjengokuthi: "Ngizohlala kanjani ngokuthintekile." Ngokwethusa kanye nesithukuthuku, ngavuka. Kwakusekuseni. Kusihlwa babika ukuthi umzalwane washona. Kepha kwathi lapho iphupho liphupha, wayesaphila! Nansi imfumbe. "
Ukulala 2: "Sawubona! Ngicela ungitshele! Oshade naye washona, evame ukuphupha, futhi uphupha nomunye umuntu wesifazane. "
Futhi manje kafushane ngezigaba. Igunya lesihloko esikulesi sihloko sokuqala kwengqondo ngu-Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, owabhala incwadi ethi "Ekufeni, wathi izigaba zokuvalelisa ku-5 kuphela.
Owokuqala ukunganaki . Asibekezeleleki ukwamukela ngokushesha leli qiniso empilweni yethu - sivusa imizwa eminingi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ekuqaleni siphila ngokwethusa futhi okunye okuxoshwa, ukungakholelwa, ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso.
Isigaba sesibili intukuthelo . Lapho esemhlabeni wethu, kancane kancane sifanelana nomqondo wokuthi umuntu osondelene naye usahamba, siqala ukuthukuthela. Odokotela, abangazange balandele, izihlobo ezingazange zisindise, endaweni yonke, umkhathi noma uNkulunkulu. Noma ezinye izizathu ezivulwa isandla esishisayo. Sithukuthele nalabo abasishiyile emhlanganweni wethu. By the way, le ngxenye yesipiliyoni imvamisa ifihlwe futhi idutshulwe, ngoba "ngabantu abafileyo abakhulumi kabi" nezinye izinkolelo ezivimba intukuthelo, futhi ngenxa yalokho lelo thuba lokusinda ngokugcwele ukulahlekelwa kwabathandekayo.
Isigaba sesithathu - ukuqubuka . Siyaxoxisana ngegunya, uNkulunkulu, ngokwesibonelo. "Ukube ububuyile, ngabe ngithethelela konke" noma "bengingasoze ngenza enye into uma ubuyisa izinsuku ezedlule ..."
Isigaba Sesine - ukudana . Sibhekene nemizwa ephelele ngempela: intukuthelo, amawayini, ukungasizi, ukuphelelwa yithemba, usizi. Konke okulandela ukulahleka okusondele.
Isigaba sesihlanu - ukuthobeka . Samukela okwenzekile futhi sifunde ukuphila.
Ngaphandle kwayo yonke le nqubo, isigaba 5 akunakwenzeka. Imizamo yokusheshisa futhi "Khohlwa konke okubi okulungile" kuholele emphumeleni okuphambene nalowo ushintsho kosizi lube yinto engapheli.
Wabiza iphupho lokuqala lamaphupho. Ngempela, amaphupho amaningi asabalalisa imininingwane elahlekile amazinyo ephusheni ukushona kwezihlobo. Ngegazi - vala, futhi ngaphandle kwegazi - hhayi izihlobo zegazi. Kodwa-ke, angihlanganyeli le ndlela. Ukulala kungumyalezo ngamunye. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi kunobudlelwano obuqondile phakathi kwezithombe zami zokuphindaphinda nomunye umuntu, impilo nokufa. Kodwa-ke, ngingacabanga ukuthi iphupho liyi-harbinger yokwethuka nokumangala: "Ungaphila kanjani ngokulandelayo? Ungahlala Kanjani Ngaphandle Kwamandla Akho? Ungalahlekelwa kanjani yikho konke enganginakho? " Zonke lezi zinqubo ezingokomzwelo zihambisana nokuhlaselwa kokuqala kokwamukelwa kwezindaba zosizi.
Iphupho lesibili linzima ngokwengeziwe. Esikhundleni salokho, ukhuluma ngezingxoxo. Mhlawumbe, umyalezo ongokomfanekiso yilokhu: "Ukube ubephila, wabe esephila ngomunye umuntu wesifazane."
Amaphupho akhombisa amaphupho ethu, kuthi kusiphi isigaba mayelana nemicimbi yokuhlunga ezimpilweni zabo.
Kuyafaneleka ukusho ukuthi amaphupho enza umsebenzi obalulekile futhi asize ama-psyche ethu athathe iqiniso lokulahlekelwa kothandekayo. Funda amaphupho akho, uyithakazelise, ucabangele ngokucophelela.
Shesha noma ulungise le nqubo cishe ngeke iphumelele. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanelekile ukuqeda le ndatshana ngesihlobo sasendulo saseChina: "Ungawuphoqeli umfula, uziphathe."
Futhi amaphupho akho? Izibonelo zamaphupho akho athumela ngeposi: [email protected].
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin