Impilo yami yonke sitshelwa ukuthi impumelelo ayibekezeleli amaphutha, kepha ingabe ngempela? Kuyiqiniso, kubalulekile ukuzama ukwenza ukuze amaphutha alingana nesilinganiso ngempumelelo, kepha akudingekile ukuthi aphuthelwe ukukhumbula - njengendlela yokuzijwayeza, ayikho indlela engcono yokufunda ngephutha, ikakhulukazi Uma kukhulunywa ngokwakha umsebenzi. Kungani sisathusa kakhulu ukwenza iphutha nokuthi lizuza kanjani emaphutheni? Sizoqonda lokhu namuhla.
Ukwesaba kwethu kuvelaphi
Njengoba sazi, izinkinga zethu eziningi zisuka ebuntwaneni, kufaka phakathi ukwesaba okungalungile futhi ngaleyo ndlela kubangele ukucasulwa kwabazali. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukwesaba kukhungathekile, kepha akunyamalali noma kuphi, indawo nje yabazali iqale ihlala kuthisha kuqala, bese kuba umphathi.
Kuyaqabukela, ubani ochaza ingane ukuthi kungukuphela kokuhlola okubi akuwona ukuphela komhlaba, kungalungiswa futhi ngokuzayo phatha izimo ezinjalo ezolile. Izingane ezaziqonda kahle le nqubo ebuntwaneni kulula kakhulu ukuzivumelanisa nezimo zabantu abadala, ngokwesibonelo, ngokwehluleka lapho zifuna umsebenzi, uma, ngokwesibonelo, izingxoxo ezintathu zokuqala ziyehluleka ngokuhle kakhulu Abafundi abanamabhentshi besikole, lapho noma yiluphi ukwehluleka komsebenzi luphenduke lube yinkinga yezinga lendawo yonke, ngenxa yalokho, umuntu onjalo yize futhi angaphuthelwa yisicelo esithandekayo somsebenzi, ngoba fan akhe vele unyamalale.
Uma ukwazile ukuba ngumzali, zama ukuchaza ingane yakho ukuthi amaphutha ayingxenye yempumelelo, akudingeki ukuba abesabe futhi ngisho nokunciphisa izandla.
Ungesabi "Isiphukuphuku"
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Ungafunda Kanjani Ukusizakala Ngokuhluleka Komsebenzi
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kuvela kunoma yiliphi iphutha ongalizuzisa, kepha akufanele athathwe futhi alwele ukwehluleka njengendlela yokuthola isipiliyoni - amaphutha afanayo angenziwa kabili.
Okwesibili, yeka ukuzibandakanya ukuzethemba uma ungeyena uchwepheshe we-psychotherapist, uzozenza mubi kakhulu. Kungcono ukubhekana nokuxazulula inkinga, esikhundleni sokuziqhuba ngesimo esicindezeleke ngokwengeziwe.
Akukho ukwethuka. Noma ngabe "Uphuthelwe", lesi akusona isizathu sokuvulwa kokwethuka, uzithathe ngesandla, ngoba kufanele wenze isinqumo esibalulekile ngesisekelo salokho okutholakele, futhi kulokhu kubalulekile ukuhlala unokwazi okunempilo.
Thola imbangela. Vele, kunzima ukukhohlwa ngomphumela omubi, okwenziwa ngayo ngezenzo zakho okuholele, kepha nokho azama ukugxila kulokho okwenza umphumela onjalo. Imvamisa sikhohlwa ukuthi kuyadingeka ukubhekana nokungabi nalutho ngemiphumela yezenzo zethu, njengasebangela umsuka, ukuze ngokuzayo, ukuthi izimo ezinjalo azange zenzeke kuwe.