Ama-manipulators atholakala ezimpilweni zethu kuzo zonke izindawo, kepha okuyingozi kakhulu lapha, eduze kwethu. Futhi laba ngabazali bethu. Ngokuvamile umzali-mandlu enikela umhlatshelo osondele kakhulu - ingane yakhe, ngoba akahlambi lutho ngakho futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, engahambi ndawo, futhi umuntu omdala uyakwazi. Ingane ayiqondi okwesikhashana lapho isimo esendlini sisekude kakhulu, kodwa nganoma yisiphi isimo sizwa ukungakhululeki, okubona eduze kwezihlobo zakhe. Ingane enjalo ikhula ngesixha sazo zonke izinhlobo zokuphazamiseka, ukuqeda okungekho isikhathi esingaphansi konyaka ehhovisi le-psychotherapist. Namuhla sinqume ukuthola ukuthi imishwana ingabalwa kanjani umzali onobuthi nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nengcindezi enjalo.
"Kepha indodana ye-tamnainshin ..."
I-Funny Flash Mob, yavela kunethiwekhi Izingane ezimbalwa zangemuva, empeleni azimnandi kangako. Umnyombo wawungukuthi "indodana kamama kamama" ihlala ingcono kunawe, futhi nawe, ulahlekelwe ongapheli. Isikimu esinjalo sivame ukusetshenziswa nabazali abanobuthi: "Ubukeka lapho kufakwa khona uShasha! Ubungeke uvunyelwe ngaphakathi. "Futhi bonke emphefumulweni onjalo ngemuva kokuthi umama azokhuluma nomngane wakhe, ingane yakhe yadlula ngempumelelo izivivinyo eyunivesithi ehlonishwayo. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, ukwehla okuphelele kwengane kuqala, umzali uzama "ukubiza ingqondo" ingane yokwehlukana, ngaleyo ndlela adale ukulimala okujulile okujulile lapho umuntu omdala ezobhekana nodokotela wakhe wezengqondo.
"Ngihlala ngingcono!"
I-manipulator yabazali ihlala iyingxenye ye-narcissus. Lolu hlobo aluvamile, kepha mhlawumbe lungenye yezinhlobo ezingathandeki kakhulu zabazali obunobuthi. Umusho ojwayelekile wesihlobo esinjalo uzoba: "Kuyamangaza, uyayithanda umyeni wakho ngokuthile okufana nokuthile, futhi ngibheka ini kahle, yize mdala kunawe." Akukho lutho olungenangozi lapha - kunokuncipha kwengane yakho uqobo, ukuze kungcono ukubona kangcono emehlweni akhe.
Umzali onobuthi uhlala ehlisa yonke imizamo yengane
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"Ujabule kakhulu?"
Lolu hlobo lwabazali luphakamisa ama-neurotic azayo kanye nabantu abaphazamisa kakhulu. Izingane emindenini enjalo cishe akukho lutho olungakwazi, ngisho nobuthakathaka mzuzu njengokudla amaswidi ngaphambi kokudla, umzali ubiza ubugebengu obukho konke. Ingane ihlala yenza konke okumhlophe komzali, vele, uma kunesikhathi, kwenza lokho okufana Naye, kepha kulokhu, kulokhu, akuvamile ukuba avele naye - umzali ngeke avumele uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi ngaphandle ulwazi lwakhe.
Ingabe ikhona indlela yokuphuma ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi nomzali wakho?
Bamba ibanga
Indlela elula yokunciphisa umthelela omubi womzali ukude. Imvamisa, ingane kunzima ukuhlukanisa nezihlobo zazo, noma ngabe iyanenkinga endlini yayo, kodwa kufanelekile ukuqala nje ukubheka izindlela zokugwema izihlobo ezinobuthi, futhi ucabanga ngokubuya ngokumane akuveli.
Thola ukwesekwa
Njengoba ukwesekwa nokuphefumlelwa kungafana nezinye izihlobo, kanye nabangane abahle abazokwazi ukuthola amagama afanele futhi kancane, kepha amanxeba akho azophilisa. Ungabelana ngemizwa nabathandekayo ngoMoya womuntu, okusho ukuthi imizwa engemihle ngeke ikudle ingaphakathi.
Ungesabi ukuxhumana nochwepheshe
Sesaba amahhovisi ezengqondo kanye ne-psychoanalysts, yize kaningi le ukuphela kwendlela yokuxazulula izinkinga zakho. Uma kunethuba elinjalo, thintana nochwepheshe kanye nabazali bami, mhlawumbe ababoni ukuthi kudabukisa kanjani ngezindlela zabo zokukhuliswa.