Okungenani kanye empilweni, ngamunye wethu wayilalela le ndaba, njengoba umngane wakhe ephula inhliziyo yomuntu othandekayo, noma waba ubufakazi esokeni lombhangqwana endaweni yomphakathi. Kungani abanye bexabana njalo futhi behlukana nezinsimbi, kanti abanye abantu bathola umuntu ofanelekile emizameni embalwa nje? Akukho ukucwaninga kwesayensi ngalesi sihloko, ngakho-ke kusaqhubeka nokuphikisana kuphela nohlaka lwe-psychology. Bhala kumazwana ukuthi ngabe uyavumelana nesikhundla sethu noma unombono ohlukile.
Yekani ukukhululeka
Inkinga enkulu yamantombazane isesifisweni sokulungisa umuntu othandekayo. Ubhala ukuthi ufuna ukuhlangana nawe kusihlwa, ngabe usuvumile yini ngokudla kwakusihlwa nomngane? Ungalokothi uyise ukuyisekela emuva: ngakho-ke umfana uzohamba, futhi alahlekelwe yintombi yakho. Esikhathini sokuqala kufanele ube nezintshisakalo zakho, njengaye - ezazo, kepha zivame kuphela lapho zivamile. Uma uhlala udela amasu ngenxa yemihlangano, ekugcineni, uzohlala emkhombeni ophukile - ngeke wakhe umsebenzi, ngeke uthole umsebenzi osondelene naye, kodwa uzothola umlutha wendoda nenkampani yakhe. Vuselela othandekayo wakho ukuze ahlanganise amasu akho ajwayelekile. Isibonelo, ungahlala ndawonye futhi usebenze, esikhundleni sokubukwa okungenamsebenzi kochungechunge olulandelayo, noma uhlanganyele ndawonye ukuze usebenze ejimini.
Chitha isikhathi esihlanganayo ngenzuzo
Thanda ukubukeka kwakho
Khohlwa imishwana ejwayelekile kusuka kumafilimu afana nokuthi "Ungangibuki, angipendiwe" noma "sekuyisikhathi sokuhlala ekudleni." Nguwe kuphela onquma ukuthi ufuna ukubheka kanjani, hhayi isoka lakho, umama, namuntu! Uma uqonda ukuthi ungakhululeki kulesisindo noma ngalombala wezinwele, hamba ushintshe konke okungahambelani. Umuntu onothando ngeke akhathalele ukukuhlambalaza ngesinqumo somuntu siqu. Yebo, nemisebe yamehlo evela ekubonisweni kwayo esibukweni izokwenza ukuthi kube nokuzwa imizwa yakho ngokwengeziwe. Lapho uthanda wena, uthando oluningi kuwe - konke kulula!
Qala ukwazisa isikhathi sakho samahhala.
Umuntu ngamunye kufanele abe nesikhathi somuntu siqu nendawo. Kuyacaca ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu okwazi ukuthenga ifulethi elinamakamelo amaningana ngaphansi kwamahhovisi akho, amakamelo okugeza ahlukene kanye namakamelo okugqoka. Kepha ungahlala uthola umphumela wokuthola isikhathi sokuba wedwa nemicabango nezindaba zakho. Uma ungahlali ndawonye, ungaphuthumi ukugibela: Ngokuvamile uzoba nomfana, kepha indlu izohlala iyisidleke esithandekayo, lapho ungaphumula khona emsebenzini wabanye abantu futhi ugxile emsebenzini wakho. Futhi uma uhlala ndawonye, ungalokothi wenqabele ukuba avakashele abangane, ake ahambe, noma ashiyele ukuhamba okuhlukile. Ukuhlukana kwesikhashana kuthinta wena naYe.
Hambisa into oyithandayo
Thola indlela yokuzilibazisa ezokudlula futhi inikeze amandla abalulekile. Kungaba bobabili ezemidlalo nokudweba, ukucula noma ukubumba ngodaka. Zama izinto ezahlukene, kepha qiniseka ukufeza inhloso yakho - ukuthola leli bhizinisi. Kukholwe, kubalulekile! Ukwenzayo, uzophazanyiswa ezinkingeni ezicindezelayo, uthuthukise futhi udle okuhle. Ngemuva kwezikhathi ezinjengale ndoda, uzobuya ngesimo esikhulu. Futhi hhayi ubuhle bobudlelwano obuqinile?
Bheka emakhoneni amnyama emphefumulweni wakhe
Ungathuli lapho kunokuthile ongakusho
Akukaziwa ukuthi ngubani owaba nguMlobi wenganekwane, njengokungathi amadoda ethule futhi akadingi izingxoxo. Kuwo wonke amadoda ahlala umfana omncane nezindaba zakhe - ejabule futhi edabukile. Akufanele uthathe iqhaza lesosayensi yezengqondo futhi uxazulule izinkinga zakhe, kepha ungahlala ulalele futhi uxhase. Uma ukhononda ngosuku lwakho oluthandayo noma ukuxabana nomngane, mbuze ukuthi uzizwa kanjani? Kufanele ufunde uzwela: ukubona lapho ecasukile, ezama ukusiza ukubhekana nenkinga, uma efuna ukukuvulela. Kulokhu kushintshaniswa kwamandla, ufunda ukuqondana futhi uthole izinkinobho zeminyango evaliwe. Lapho esezethemba, uzinikeza umlingani onokwethenjelwa - okokuqala, bese kuba nesithandwa. Vuma?