Intombazane ngayinye yayinesimo lapho imi khona emaphethelweni, emgqeni, ilinde intombi, indoda enesibindi isondela kuyo, engekho ukwehluleka. Kuyiqiniso, kuhle lapho ukunakwa kukhokhwa kuwe indoda enhle, kepha kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu omaziyo akabangeli isifiso sokuqhubeka naye ingxoxo. Futhi nokho, sivame ukubukela phansi ithuba elaphuma. Ngani? Kulokhu sanquma ukuthola, ngakho-ke sizotshela ngezinzuzo ezinhlanu zokuqomisana ngaphandle noma endaweni enabantu abaningi.
Awulahlekelwa yisikhathi
Njengomthetho, ukuchitha isikhathi kumasayithi wokuqomisana, sikhetha abalingani abangasengaba khona abangenza kunethiwekhi, kodwa emhlanganweni ovela kumuntu abekho nakancane abanikeze yona: kufanelana? Kepha njengoba usuvele ukwazile ukuxhumana ngaphambi komhlangano, ngandlela thile ungakhululekile ukuhamba lapho uhlangana, ngakho-ke uyabekezelela inkampani yomuntu ongathandeki okungenani ngengxenye yehora, engenakushiwo ngendoda ephumayo Umgwaqo - uzoba nesikhathi sokwazisa ukuheha kwawo futhi kunoma yikuphi "ukuhlukanisa" ngemuva kwemizuzu emithathu yokuqomisana ngeke kube yinto enzima.
Futhi uvame kangaki ukujwayelana nomgwaqo?
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Umuntu ubangela uzwela
Ngokwemiphumela yokuvota oqhutshwa yizenhlalo, amadoda abeka engcupheni esondela entombazane emgwaqweni ebangela uzwela olukhulubuka kobulili obuhlukile. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi kumuntu noma ngabe yini ukwehluleka kwabesifazane kuthusa kakhulu, wonke umuntu asabela ngezindlela ezihlukile. Ngasikhathi sinye, amadoda athi "amasimu akhiqiziwe" ahola kangcono ingxoxo futhi akuvamile ukuba abe yimikhuba eyisidina, njengoba ingxenye enkulu iyangezelwa.
Akukho ukwenza sengathi
Njengoba sesishilo, isikhathi siyinsiza ebaluleke kakhulu, futhi ngenxa yalokho zihlala encwadini amasonto ambalwa ukuba zidumazeke emhlanganweni womuntu siqu, - okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo. Uzothukuthelisa, futhi ikakhulukazi kumuntu omaziyo, osanda "antshontshe" imizuzu yakho eyigugu. Inethiwekhi inzima kakhulu ukuhlola i-interlocutor ngokwanele, ngakho-ke izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zincoma ukuhlangana nosuku lwesibili lokuthandana ukuze wena noma umuntu owayenezinkolelo.
Uthola isipiliyoni esidingekayo
Awukwazi ukukukholwa, kepha khuluma nomuntu ongayazi emgwaqweni, ngisho nje ubuze isikhathi, angaba ngu-10% wamadoda nabesifazane. Okufanele ukusho ngomuntu omaziyo ngokusekelwe kwintshisekelo yomuntu. Yebo, ukuqomisana okunjalo kuvame ukuvela kungaphumeleli, kepha lokhu kuhlangenwe nakho okudingekayo ukuze kube nobuntu obunjalo, njengomuntu, futhi futhi azazi kuphela kwabesilisa kuphela, kodwa nabesifazane. Vele, intombazane ayilula kangako ukukhuluma nomuntu omthandayo, ikakhulukazi uma engayedwa, kepha owesifazane angahlale ekhombisa isithakazelo sakhe endodeni enokubukeka, ukuziphatha, ukushukuma komzimba. Ungesabi ukufenda futhi udlale.
Awunabantu obajwayele
Kothile kuzoba yisisusi, nokho, ukuntuleka kwabangane abavamile kanye nabantu obajwayele kungaba yinto enkulu, ngoba akekho owaziyo ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buzoqhubeka nokuthula, ozakwabo hhayi abangane abaseduze ngeke Yiba ofakazi baleli dolobha, indoda engayidlala.