UMarianna Abovitova ungudokotela wezengqondo wezengqondo, okhethwa ngokwesayensi yezengqondo. Unezifundo nezifundo zesikole esisezingeni eliphakeme eSamara Institute of General Clinical Psychology kanye ne-Psychotherapy. Uveza lokho emkhakheni wakhe kwaholela esifisweni sokuqonda ubuhlakani bomuntu. "Ngesikhathi sokufunda, kwabonakala kimi ukuthi imfundo yengqondo engiyithola mina kanye nentuthuko yami, kodwa bekungazange kube ngaphandle: Kuphela iminyaka eminingi ngisebenza njengodokotela wezengqondo, wenza umkhuba wangasese , Ukubonisana no-Elizhen. " Uyavuma ngokweqiniso ukuthi ukhetha i-NLP kuya ku-psychoanalysis yakudala, njengoba ethanda ukusebenza ngomphumela futhi abonakale ekhanyayo emehlweni amakhasimende, futhi angakhulumi ngenkulumo ekhethekile: "I-Psychoanalysis yinto ekhethekile ngokwezezimali, kepha ngithanda ukuxazulula izinkinga nokwenza abantu bajabule. "
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Namuhla, i-psychology iya ngokuya ithandwa kakhulu. Uma abantu bangaphambili bathululela umphefumulo wabo kubangane, namuhla iningi labo baqonda ukuthi izinkinga zingcono ukuxazulula ngochwepheshe. Kepha bese kuphakama omunye umbuzo: Kanjani futhi izinhlobonhlobo zokuqeqeshwa kanye nezengqondo zikhetha lo chwepheshe? Ngabe kukhona izimpawu zokuhlukanisa uchwepheshe ovela kuCharlatan?
Umbuzo ukuwuthululela umphefumulo kudokotela wezengqondo noma hhayi, empeleni kuyimpikiswano. Kulo mbuzo, konke kuncike ezinjongweni ozithandayo. Uma inhloso yakho ukukhuluma, futhi kuba lula kuwe, ungama kulokhu. Kepha uma ungafuni ukukhawulelwa ekunciphiseni umphefumulo, kepha ufuna ukushintsha, shintsha isimo sakho sokuziphatha, cabanga ngokukhula komuntu siqu noma ungafuni ukwenza noma yimaphi amaphutha ngokuzayo, khona-ke awudingi ukuhamba Kumngani wakho, kodwa engosiko omuhle wezengqondo owaziyo ngalokho akushoyo, kunolwazi nochwepheshe abasebenza kahle kakhulu. Ngosizo lodokotela wezengqondo, ungaguqula impilo yakho ngokushesha okukhulu, umbono wakho nokuqonda kwakho (lezi izinto ezihlukile). Ngemuva kokulungiswa, izenzo zakho zizohluka - uzothola imiphumela yangempela.
Ngokuqondene nokuthi unganquma kanjani uchwepheshe phambi kwakho noma cha, akunzima futhi. Kunemigoqo eminingana okudingeka uyilahle udokotela wezengqondo, futhi uma kudlula la maphuzu abalulekile, kusho ukuthi kungaphathwa. Into yokuqala engifuna ukudonsela ukunaka kwakho, uchwepheshe udinga ukuqoqa imininingwane. Akufanele kugxile ekushicilelweni komagazini obucwebezelayo: Manje isikhathi lapho uvula noma ikuphi ukushicilelwa kungakhubeka phezu kwendatshana yesazi. Kepha ngubani owabhala le ndatshana? Mhlawumbe umlobi wekopishi, umlobi, uma ngabe udokotela wezengqondo. Ngeshwa, lezi zihloko zivame uku-oda noma zikhokhelwe. Ngakho-ke, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba izincomo zabangane kanye nabantu obajwayele, omethembayo futhi nemibono kabani ezimisele ukulalela indlela engcono kakhulu. Ngoba kubalulekile hhayi ukushicilelwa ezincwadini hhayi ama-storsis ku-Instagram ngezeluleko, kepha iqoqo lezici: phakathi kokushintsha okukuyo okujwayelekile okwenzeka ngemuva kokwelashwa; intengo eyamukelekayo; Induduzo kwezokuxhumana nokunye okuningi. Iphuzu lesibili nakanjani ubukhona bemfundo ephakeme. Ngoba namuhla kwi-Intanethi, ungathola inani elikhulu lezengqondo ngezingcaphuno, "okubhala" izindatshana zinamasayithi, upiyano, zixoxe ngabo njengezingane zochwepheshe noma eziphakeme kakhulu njengezingane, kodwa lapho uqala ukuqoqa imininingwane ethile ngabo, Kuvela ukuthi ukuthi laba bantu bangenamfundo abasebenzi. Lesi yisikhathi sengozi. Uma abantu bengenayo imfundo, kusho ukuthi bazoncika ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo empilweni, bakuhumushele wena, bakuhumushele izinhlelo zabo, balandelwe yizinkinga zabo, ukwesaba, okuhlangenwe nakho, njll. Lapho umuntu enomfutho wengqondo azosuselwa ku Ulwazi abalumutho eyunivesithi, umkhuba awudlulayo ngaphansi kokuholwa nguprofesa, izifundiswa, njll. Mastery udluliselwa kubandakanya nasezandleni. Ngokwemvelo, imfundo yezengqondo iyisisekelo esiqinisekisa ukuthi umuntu oze naye ngezinkinga zakho ngeke akulimaze. Umzuzu wesithathu - Uma ufike kudokotela wezengqondo, futhi ngemuva kwalokho unomuzwa wokuthi udidekile enkingeni yakho, ulande ngokwengeziwe, ucindezelekile, uthembise ukwelashwa okuzothatha unyaka nokuningi, ngikholwe , akufanele ukuya kuchwepheshe kangaka. Kwi-Psychology, uma manje sizokhipha i-psychoanalysis (ngokuya ngawo ngokwahlukana), kunezindlela eziningi zokuxazulula inkinga yomuntu futhi ziveze yonke imithamo yayo ngesikhathi esifushane kakhulu. Ukwelapha izinyanga noma iminyaka kwenziwa ngokuvamile emaqenjini ozokwelaphaUma uhlangabezana nesiphakamiso se- "Specialist" ukuthatha i-receptive amahlandla ayi-10 noma ufike ezikhathini ze-Avenue futhi uthole ibhonasi - amaseshini ama-2 mahhala, kufanele uqonde ukuthi akulona ngemali. Kulokhu, amapulani anjalo "ochwepheshe" abafaki usizo olusheshayo kuwe, umsebenzi wabo, ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuze baqinise inqubo isikhathi eside. Ngokwami, ngibona ukuthi yini yokuthola uchwepheshe omuhle ongaxhumana naye kunoma yisiphi isimo, kuyabiza. Namuhla kunozazi eziningi zengqondo, kepha hhayi zonke zazo onguchwepheshe omuhle. Lokhu kuyindlela ephathelene nochwepheshe kunoma yisiphi isigaba, hhayi kuphela kwezengqondo.
Futhi ungaqonda kanjani ukuthi unezinkinga udinga ukuzixazulula kahle? Yize kunjalo, kubonakala ngathi ukuthi nathi konke kuhleliwe, kuwumhlaba nje kithi hhayi ukungalungisi futhi abantu bathola okubi ngokuphelele.
Amakhasimende eza kaningi kimi futhi athi ayanyathela kule ndawo noma anikeze umbuthano futhi abuya emuva noma kwakukhona ubudlelwano obungu-10 futhi bonke bafana nekhophi. Vele, kufanelekile ukunaka isikhathi sokufingqwa nokuphindaphindwa empilweni yakho yezikhathi ezithile ezingezinhle. Zama, ukuwela esimweni esithile, khumbula, nokuthi kukhona okufana nokuthile okunje. Imvamisa kwenzeka kanjena: Isimo ngasinye esilandelayo sibi kakhulu kunangaphambili, futhi lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi inkinga onayo futhi ayixazululwa. Iphuzu lesibili - uvame ukuwela ezizweni ezicindezelayo, okuthola ngazo kunzima ukuphuma. Ukuqonda okwenzekayo nawe futhi kungani yilokho kanye okunguchwepheshe. Kepha hhayi njalo. Noma yimuphi umuntu onengqondo angakha ngokuzimela amaketanga anengqondo futhi ahlaziye lapho konke kuqale ukukhipha inkinga yayo kokungaphansi kokuqonda, ukukuqothula futhi akuxazulule. Kudokotela wezengqondo, udinga ukuhamba lapho ungakwazi ukubhekana nalesi simo, siku-rake efanayo, sihamba embuthanweni ovaliwe, ungasizi noma izeluleko zomphefumlo, ngenkathi uhlakaniphile, uyakuqonda konke, kodwa Ngeke ukwazi. Ngikholwe, izikhathi ezimbili ezivela kuchwepheshe omuhle zizokwanela wena ukuze zibeke ikhanda lakho.
Inkulumo edumile ethi "Zisize usebenzele ezengqondo? Ngabe isazi sezengqondo singazisiza, uma enezinkinga ezithile: ngokwesibonelo, ukuzethemba, ngobudlelwano, nabantu, njll?
Ake siqale ngeqiniso lokuthi isazi sezengqondo esihle ngumuntu oqale (ngisho nangaphambi kokuba babe ngumuntu osebenza ngokuzilolonga) sanquma zonke izinkinga zakhe: wahlela impilo yakhe ukuze umbize ngeshwa ukuthi ayinaye into efanayo angayisho ngaye ukuthi akaphumelelanga ngaye. Njengokulindelekile, impilo yakhe yomuntu siqu yakhiwa kwimigomo yemvelo yangaphakathi nangaphandle, efaka phakathi isimo sokuvumelana, injabulo, ukuzethemba, ukuphumelela, okusekelwe ukuzithemba okulungile, amandla Xhumana nabantu, bahlomise, baveze umbono wabo, bakhulume kabi "cha". Ziqonde, wazise futhi uhlole kahle - lo mshini we-Pilot ophakeme kunawo wonke owaqala ngayo konke. Umbono ofanele kithi ngokwethu ungumgogodla - Isikhungo seNkhathi yethu encane, lapho izinhlanga ziye khona kubathandekayo, abazali, abangane, abazaziyo, njll. Isazi sengqondo akufanele sibe ne-charism, ngoba lokhu Umuntu wazi okuningi, kuzwakala okuningi futhi kuyaqonda. Isazi esihle sezengqondo siyakwazi ukuskena umuntu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungumlaleli ocashile obona kahle ukuthi uzizwa unqume kahle lokho ofuna ukukusho. Lokhu kuyinto enkulu ukuxhumana. Ngakho-ke, ngifuna ukubuyela kumuntu onjalo. Lokhu kuyasebenza nasempilweni yomuntu siqu - abantu abanjalo bahlala bekhanga kubobulili obuhlukile. Lo msebenzi wezengqondo ungomunye ohlelekile futhi konke kuvumelana.
Iningi labantu lingeza ezinkingeni nabobulili obuhlukile
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Yikuphi inkinga kuwe evame ukunxusa abamele ubulili obuhle? Nabesilisa?
Indawo ehamba phambili kwabesifazane abanezinkinga nabobulili obuhlukile. Ukuntuleka kobambiswano - Ngemuva kwalokho sifuna izinkinga kowesifazane uqobo, ubuhlobo nomyeni wakho, nezingane, abazali, ozakwabo. Futhi-ke, ubudlelwano nawe ngoba izimpande zezinkinga zidinga ukubheka ngaphakathi kwazo. Endaweni yokuqala kukhona ubudlelwano nabesifazane nomsebenzi noma ibhizinisi - kubamele ingxenye eqinile yesintu, le yinkinga ebaluleke ngokulinganayo. Futhi-ke kuphela ubuhlobo nezingane nabazali bahambe. Naphezu kokuthi sonke sihlala emphakathini owodwa, abesilisa nabesifazane bayizidalwa ezivela kumaplanethi ahlukene.
Ungakuqonda kanjani ukuthi ukuvakashela isazi sezengqondo esisizile? Ngabe zikhona yini izindlela zokwelapha eziphumelelayo?
Konke kulula ngokwanele: Uma uphuma kudokotela wezengqondo, futhi kwaba lula ngawe, kusho ukuthi usize ukuvakashela isazi sezengqondo. Lesi sibonakaliso esihle. Uma ufuna ukuza kuye futhi - lesi yisikhombisi sesibili sempumelelo yokwelashwa. Indoda yanamuhla ihlelwe kangangokuba ayifuni nje impumuzo yesimo sakhe, kodwa futhi nokuqonda ngezizathu zakhe. Lapho ushiya udokotela wezengqondo omubi, ungazizwa ungaqondi ngokwengeziwe, ungazizwa udidekile ngokuphelele. Ngokuvamile, ukwelashwa kungabonakala kuphumelele lapho impilo yakho iqala ukuguquka: ngokwemvelo, hhayi eyedwa, kepha ngiyabonga nalokho okuqondayo noma ukudedele.
Engxoxweni eyodwa, uthe ukhetha i-NLP Psychoanalysis. Sitshele ukuthi kungani? Manje umbono wakho uhlala ungashintshiwe?
Yebo, ngincamela ukusebenzisana namasu wokuhlela we-neurolynguistic. Ngingaqhathanisa i-NLP ngokusebenza kwe-laser: lapho umuntu eza, ngokwesibonelo, ngesimila, futhi esiminye isikhathi esisodwa, siyikhulula kulesi simila. Uhamba anelisekile futhi ejabule. Iqiniso ngukuthi ukuhlela kabusha kwenzeka ngaphakathi kweseshini elilodwa - umuntu uza eyodwa, futhi ashiye ngokuphelele: Ngamehlo avuthayo nomphumela. Ngithanda lo mzuzu wokuguqulwa isimo, ngoba umuntu ophatha ukulahla isikhwama sangemuva, ahlala ehudula naye futhi owakukhipha phansi, akakuvumelanga umoya-mpilo. Umuntu uzizwa empumuzo nokungena kwamandla. Vele, le ndlela ilungele ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga, kepha isebenza kakhulu kweminye imibuzo ethile. Ngokuqondene ne-psychoanalysis, nginobuhlakani obuncane be-psychoanalyst, phakathi kwezinye izinto, le ndlela ayikwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi ukwelashwa okusheshayo. Ngale ndlela akukho lutho olungalungile - wonke umuntu nje, nomuntu unelungelo lokukhetha indlela yokukuphatha ngokwengeziwe. Konke kuncike kumiphi imiphumela ofuna ukukufeza: ngokushesha, ikhwalithi ephezulu futhi ebonakalayo, khona-ke i-NLP ingcono kuwe.
Uma upheqa kwi-Intanethi noma ubheke noma iyiphi isayithi kwezengqondo, khona-ke izihloko ezifanele kakhulu namuhla zinobudlelwano obunobuthi, ukuzethemba okuvelele, izinkinga empilweni yomuntu siqu. Imvamisa, ezihlokweni ezikulezi zihloko, ababhali babhekisele ebuntwaneni bese bethi izimpande zazo zonke izinkinga zidinga ukubheka lapho. Ngabe kunjalo? Unganqoba kanjani izakhiwo zezingane nokwesaba? Kungenzeka yini ukubhekana nakho ngokwakho?
Kuyiqiniso, ubudlelwano obunobuthi kusukela ebuntwaneni, njengoba, nokho, nama-90% azo zonke izinkinga nezindawo zethu, ngoba izitini zobuntu zibekwe esemncane. Futhi uma ubudlelwane obunobuthi benziwa emndenini wakho, ungasho ngokuzethemba ukuthi uzobhekana nokuqhubeka nokuphila. Vele, ngigqugquzela wonke umuntu ukuthi aphile ngonembeza: ukuqonda ukuthi oxhumana naye, kungani uthola lokho nalokho okuthola kulobu budlelwano. Sebenzisa indlela enjalo yebhizinisi empilweni nakubantu, kepha ngomqondo omuhle weZwi. Vele, ungaxhumana nentombi, esevele isebenzise wena iminyaka engama-20 njenge-vest, kepha kufanele ukwazi ukuthi lobu budlelwano abunalutho oluhlobene nobungani. Kunezinye izinhlobo zobudlelwano obunobuthi. E-Psychotherapy kukhona igama elithi "umfazi olotshwalayo" - lona ngowesifazane ofakwe ekudakweni komyeni wakhe. Uma umfazi onjalo esusa utshwala, uzothola okuhlukile okumelwe asindise. Ngale ndlela, angathola indoda ejwayelekile ngokuphelele, kodwa ngezenzo zakhe ngokungazi lutho zikulethe eqinisweni lokuthi kuzoba ngutshwala ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke, kunjalo, kufanele ubhekane nobani nokuthi kungani uxhumana - lokhu kungenziwa ngokwakho. Uma ungakwazi ukuqonda, udidekile, unomuzwa wokuthi usetshenziswa njalo, khona-ke kufanele uthinte uchwepheshe. Kepha kubalulekile ukuqonda into esemqoka: Kusazofanela uqonde abantu abafanayo, kodwa nathi, ukuthola ukuthi kungani konke kunjalo, hhayi ngenye indlela. Futhi ulungele impilo yakho ngemuva kokwelashwa kuzoshintsha okuningi.
Uma sinaka ukuthi izinkinga zethu zivela ebuntwaneni futhi ngoba abazali bethu babengaphelele. Ungaba kanjani umzali ofanelekayo ongeke ubangele ingane yakhe ngokwengqondo. Kungenzeka yini?
Akunakwenzeka ukuba ngumzali ofanele. Singabantu, hhayi osanta. I-Face iphupho elingafinyeleleki ongalidingi ukulingana. Kepha uma ucabanga ngokungathi sína ngokuthola izingane noma usuvele unayo, gwema ekukhulisweni ngokweqile. Kunezindlela ezi-2 zokukhuliswa: ngokomzwelo nengqondo, ngamunye wazo usesimweni sawo esihlanzekile - akulutho nje kuphela. Indlela Engokomzwelo: Lezi yi-SYI-Pusi yaphakade, futhi lapho ingane idlulela ngale kwalokho - ama-hysterics kwezinye izimo ngohlelo lokusebenza lwezincwadi, khona-ke umuzwa wecala nomuzwa omusha we-pusi kanye ne-fun pusi nemusha. Indlela enengqondo: ukungazithathi, ingane inamahora angama-24 ngosuku lwe-mug namakilasi, asikho isikhathi samahhala, ukulawula, ukubukeka okuphelele, ukutadisha ku- "ezinhlanu". Ngokwemvelo, ukweqisa okunjalo ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle, futhi ingane izokhula ibe ubuntu be-pathological. Ekukhulisweni lapho kufanele kube "maphakathi negolide". Izingane kufanele zikhule othandweni nasekunakekelweni. Umzuzu omuhle kakhulu wemfundo eyisibonelo sakho, futhi akufanele ukhohlwe ngakho. Uma ufuna ukusondelana nomzali ofanele, qaphela ingane yakho njengoba injalo, ayidingi okuthile kuyo, ungasebenzisi izakhiwo zayo kuyo futhi ayikwenzi ukuthi zibhekele izithiyo zamaphupho akho. Ingane ngumuntu omncane odinga ukuhlonishwa, alalele futhi azwe. Ingane idinga ukuqondakala. Kumele abe nesikhathi samahhala futhi ajabule ubuntwana. Awudingi ukuthatha i-24/7, ngeke ukhule umuntu ophumelelayo ngale ndlela. Kumele abe nesikhathi sodwa naye ukuze azenzele ukuzikhuthaza, ukuze afunde ukuthi ungaphupha kanjani, wakhe amaketanga anengqondo, uphumule, dlala, uphumule. Futhi amagajethi amancane - kusuka kubo, vele, akunakwenzeka ukwenqaba ngokuphelele, kepha wehlisa ukusetshenziswa kwezingane zabo ngamandla ethu.
Ucabangani ngomqondo wokwenza izimfihlo zephrojekthi "zokulala ngoMariana Abravitova", izindaba ezimbili zokuqala zawo wonke umuntu angabheka kuyo i-YouTube? Uyini umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwephrojekthi yakho kusuka kokufana nayo?
Uma sikhuluma nge-PROPT yami entsha "Imfihlo Yezimfihlo Ene-Mariana Abravita", khona-ke ungahumusha leli gama ngezindlela ezihlukile. Kwabaningi, igama elithi "umbhede" lidala ubudlelwane obunobunye, ukuphumula, induduzo, ukuzijabulisa. Ngokuvumelana nalokho, indlela esemthethweni embhedeni wokukhuluma ayinakuba njalo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, umbhede uyindawo yenkululeko, ukususwa kwemijondolo yangaphandle neyangaphakathi, ukuqedwa kwemingcele. Izingubo lapho embhedeni, ama-pajamas, i-bathone yasekhaya, njll., Ikhuluma ngokuzethemba. Uma isazi sezengqondo sihlangana epulatifomu eneqhawe embhedeni nase-pajamas, okwedlule kunezinhlangano ezinjalo. Ngokubona kwami, umuntu uzokhuluma ngokungagcwele ngokwengeziwe ngaye, futhi kuhlale kujabulisa futhi efuna ukwazi, ngoba ngikumema ekudlulisweni kwabantu abathakazelayo kakhulu abanokuthile abangabelana nabo nezilaleli kanye nami. Uqinisile, manje kuthelevishini naku-YouTube kunenombolo enkulu yezinhlelo, isisekelo saso esixoxisana nabantu. Kepha kukho konke kunayo indlela ehlelekile futhi ngokwengxenye yawohloka ngokwayo, okungenzeka ukuthi akunakwenzeka. Nginezindlela zokukhulula umuntu futhi ngimsize ezembule, abe qotho. Kulokhu sawina konke - futhi mina, njengomethuli, nababukeli bami abambona umuntu njengoba kunjalo, futhi lokhu kungenye indlela yokuthandwa, futhi, amaqhawe ami, ngoba anethuba lokukhuluma.
Ngubani ozoba studio sakho? Osaziwayo noma abantu abavamile?
Isimenywa sohlelo lwami singaba yilowo nalowo. Nginentshisekelo kubantu, ubuchwepheshe obuhlukahlukene kanye nezibalo zenhlalo. Kepha kuzohlala kungukuthi abantu abathembekile, ukujula, okukhanyayo, okuphumelelayo, okuthokozisayo. Labo abasinda endabeni ethile engajwayelekile, ehlukile, belalela wonke umuntu angafunda okuthile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akulona iqiniso ukuthi ungafunda kuphela ngolwazi lwakho, omunye umuntu, ezingeni lobuchwepheshe, nathi sikubona njengelakho uma bebandakanyeka endabeni, futhi ngenxa yalokho bathandana neqhawe kusukela kuzwakala.
Yiziphi izihloko ezizoxoxwa ngazo embhedeni onodokotela wezengqondo uMariana Abravitova? Ngabe kuzoba amaseshini wokwelapha noma ukuxoxisana okujwayelekile nokuxhumana?
Indlela yokuxoxisana izokwehluka. Futhi ngizoxoshwa, nobabili ebuntwini beqhawe kanye nengxoxo uqobo. Isikhundla sami akusona ukuhudula ingubo ngokwakho engxoxweni, kodwa ukunika umuntu ukuba akhulume. Ngizoqondisa kuphela, ngiveze futhi ngizwe i-interlocutor. Uma isivakashi sami sidingeka ngokwengqondo, sizokwakhiwa, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi umbukeli ngeke akwazi ngisho nokubona, ngoba nginawo, njengochwepheshe, ube nezimfihlo zawo. Izingxoxo ezijwayelekile azikho endleleni yami, kepha nokho umuntu wokudala, ngakho-ke ngizozama ukukhuluma nezihloko ezinjalo ezingathandeki. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukudluliswa kwami kuzohluka kulesi siza sezwe lethu.
Ingabe unayo iresiphi yenjabulo ongabelana ngayo nabafundi bethu? Uyini umfazi wanamuhla ofuna ukujabula, kufanele ume endaweni yokuqala? Ungakufunda Kanjani Ukuzithanda?
Vele, nginayo. Uma wazamukela wena kanye nemithetho yaleli zwe, isisekelo ukuze sijabule usuvele unayo. Zonke izinganekwane ziqala lapho ungamukeli eyodwa noma enye noma ngaso leso sikhathi. Uma unezikhalazo eziningi ngawe, uthola amaphutha amaningi, isisindo, ukukhula, awuzithandi uma uhlala ubopha umuzwa wenjabulo kwelinye iphuzu (ukushada, umcebo, ukuhlinzwa ngopulasitiki), khona-ke, ujabule Ungalokothi ube. Injabulo umuzwa wangaphakathi onganciki kokuthile. Impumelelo yakho ingaphakathi kimi, okuqukethwe kwakho kwangaphakathi kanye nokusebenza kwabantu jikelele okunganciki ezintweni zangaphandle. Awukwazi ukwenza izibopho: Uma nginayo, khona-ke ngizojabula. Musa ukunamathela kanye nezindima zenhlalo: umfazi oshadile kuphela ongajabula, injabulo ekubavuseni, njll namuhla singayiqonda injabulo njengoba sifuna. Ekuqondeni kwami, injabulo iyazibonakalisa, lapho ukhombisa, ngentokozo yokubona wena nalomhlaba, khona-ke uqala ukusakaza konke, kuvela abantu abathakazelayo namathuba amasha. Uma unesifiso sokuphila, uzojabula.
UMarianna, muva nje, incwadi yakho ethi "Nginguzibuthe ngemali" yaphuma - Uyini?
Impilo yethu yakhelwe ukuze sikwazi ukuthola konke, kepha empeleni kuphela kulokho esikuvumela ukuba ube nakho. Ngoba sithanda akekho umuntu ongazikhawulela ezifisweni - ukhuluma ngokukhululeka, thina ngokwakho asivumeli okuthile, kubandakanya nohlelo lwezinto ezibonakalayo. Vele, lokhu, okokuqala, kukhathaza ukuqonda okuphansi nalezo zinhlelo esizithola ebuntwaneni lapho kwakhiwa ubuntu benzeka. Incwadi Yami Ethi "Nginguzibuthe ngemali" ecacisa izinto ezinjalo futhi ifundise ukubuyisela imingcele ukuthi ungasusa kanjani "Psychology of Senging". Iqoqe inqwaba ye-Technician, ukuthi ingayithanda kanjani imali futhi ibenze bakuphendule ngokubuyisana, kanjani ukuvumela ukuthi ube ngubani ofuna ukuba ngubani. Funda incwadi yami lapho zonke izimfihlo zemali empilweni yakho zivezwa khona.