Isehlukaniso kanye nomshado ophindaphindwayo ngeke kusimangaze noma ngubani namuhla. Lezo zikhathi sezidlulise isikhathi eside lapho owesifazane ohlukanisile ethathwa njengezinhlobo ezithile ezingaphelele, ezazincishwe amathuba, futhi wambheka ngokuzisola. Namuhla, abesifazane abaningi abaphumelelayo banomlando wemishado emibili, emithathu, noma ethe xaxa. Kepha nanamuhla, okuhlangenwe nakho okungaphumelelanga kokudala umndeni okokuqala ngqa kunomthelela ongemuhle kowesifazane futhi, okokuqala, ekuzethembeni kwakhe.
Enye yokwesaba okubaluleke kakhulu - ukukhathazeka ngokuthi umshado olandelayo ngeke futhi ungaphumeleli. Abesifazane abashadile, ikakhulukazi abancane, uma umshado wabo uphela kabi ngenxa yomfazi womlingani, uqala ngokungathembi ukuphatha amadoda, futhi uma isizathu sesehlukaniso sesigxile ekuziphatheni kwabo, abakwazanga wazidida ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukusindisa umndeni.
Ngaleso sikhathi, izibalo, nokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu kwabesifazane abaningi bakhuluma okuphambene nalokho: umshado wesibili ezimweni eziningi unamandla futhi uphumelele kakhulu. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi emshadweni wesibili, lona wesifazane uyeza, njengombuso, esevele useneminyaka yobudala evuthiwe futhi unesibopho sokukhetha ohlukanisayo, nokwakha ubudlelwano ngaphakathi komndeni. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile wesabe ukungena ebudlelwaneni obusha nendoda oyithandayo, futhi uma konke kufanelana naye, dala umndeni futhi.
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Amadoda asezweni yiningi, futhi uma umyeni wakho wangaphambilini noma i-cohabiter azange ahlangabezane nalokho okulindelwe, akukufanele lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okungemuhle ukusakaza kuyo yonke ingxenye yesintu. Abantu bahluke kakhulu, futhi ubudlelwane obusha nje bungavula amehlo abesifazane ukuthi mangaki amamodeli wokuziphatha nokuthi, uma ufisa, bangase bakhethe indoda ukuba babe.
Kodwa-ke, isihluthulelo sempumelelo emshadweni wesibili ukuthobela imithetho eminingana engeyona eyakho. Okokuqala, akufanele ugxile ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okwedlule nokungaphumelelanga kobudlelwano bomndeni. Musa ukukhumbula umshado wakho wokuqala, yize kukhiye ongemuhle. Ubudlelwano bakudala nomyeni wakhe akufanele babe khona emshadweni wakho wamanje. Lesi yisikhathi esedlule, futhi sikuyeke lapho, lapho kufanele khona, - ekujuleni komphefumlo wakho, kuye, ukuze sikhulume, Ingxenye yeMnyuziyamu.
Okwesibili, akunakukwazi ukuqhathanisa umyeni wamanje ngeyedlule, futhi, yize kukhiye omuhle. Ngaphandle kwalokho, umyeni uzozwa ubukhona obuqhubekayo balesi sibili esingesibili noma, esinembile. Kuyadingeka okufanayo ukucacisa abazali, ezinye izihlobo, izintombi: akufanele zibe khona lapho indoda entsha ikhulume ngokuxoxa kwayo ngaphambili.
Okwesithathu, ngesisekelo sokuhlangenwe nakho kokuqala okudabukisayo kobuhlobo bomshado, kufanelekile ukudweba iziphetho, ukuze baqonde ukuthi imbangela yezingxabano, ukuxabana, ukungaboni, nokuzama ngobudlelwano obusha ukuthi ngeke kusaba nokuziphatha okunjalo ezinhlangothini zombili.
Umshado omusha yikhasi elisha lokuphila, futhi kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi konke kungehluka kuwo: Umyeni omusha uneminye imikhuba yasekhaya, ubheka impilo, okuthandayo. Lokhu kumele kubhekwe futhi udinga ukwakha umndeni omusha, futhi ungazami ukuphinda imodeli yomndeni wakudala obambele esikhundleni somyeni wokuqala kumuntu omusha. Ngasikhathi sinye, kufanelekile ukuqonda ukuthi umshado omusha unethuba lokulungisa lesi simo, lungisa indlela oziphatha ngayo, ukufaka isandla empilweni yakho okungekenziwa ebudlelwaneni obudlule.