Musa ukuzithoba ngokungabaza
Uma usola umlingani ekungathembeki noma ezungezile waqala ukusikisela, ngokushesha kwephula ukungabaza. Amantombazane amaningi ayaqhubeka nokuphila nomuzwa wokungathembani ku-Lover, futhi abanye bakhetha ukungaboni okusobala. Le ndlela ichithwe impilo yakho yengqondo. Khuluma nomlingani ngqo. Mhlawumbe wenza iphupho lakho elicebile likwenze ube novalo noma sekuyisikhathi sokufunda iqiniso. Zilungiselele engxoxweni ezolile zabantu ababili abavuthiwe, kepha lungiselela kusengaphambili ukuthi impendulo yendoda ingakulimaza.
Ungabutholi ubuhlobo
Uma iqiniso le-Treeson liqinisekisiwe, awudingi ukushisa wonke amabhuloho ngesibili esifanayo: Ukwenza izinqumo ezibucayi, hlela inhlolobane bese uzama ukunquma ikusasa lakho. Izimo lapho kufanele zizwa khona izindaba ezingemnandi zihlukile, kufaka phakathi 'ungabamba' abathandi efulethini labo. Lo wesibili, imizwa iphazamisa ukubona iqiniso ngokwanele.
Imvamisa, ukuphula konke ukuxhumana nomlandeli ngaso leso sikhathi akusebenzi. Izingane, ezivamile zempahla ezihambisana nabalingani. Noma mhlawumbe awulungele ukuyeka futhi ufuna ukunikeza ithuba lesibili? Kunoma ikuphi, ungenzi isinqumo seHaze.
Isinqumo esilungile kunazo zonke ukudiliza isikhashana, ziholele emvemeni futhi ukhulume nekhanda elibandayo.
UDenis Grebenyuk noDmitry Rybin
UDenis Grebenyuk, ohola iqiniso "ukuxhumana okuyingozi":
"Imvamisa, ababambiqhaza kulolu hlelo basabela ezindabeni eziphathelene nomoya wobudlova, thatha konke eduze kwenhliziyo. Okwamanje kubonakala kubo ukuthi ukuphela komhlaba sekufikile. Ngichazela wonke umuntu: Akukho lutho olubi, akulona ukufa. Isikhathi, njengoba wazi, konke kuphatha. Ngiyakuvuma lapho umuntu enamandla okwanele nokuzithiba ngomoya ozolile ephendula ngesimo esinzima esimweni esinzima, kodwa u-2% kuphela wenani eliphelele lababambe iqhaza. "
Hamba usuka ezikhumbuzweni
Ukushintshwa kanye nangesikhathi esedlule ngezikweletu ezimbili ngeke kusebenze, ikakhulukazi uma ubudlelwano bakho bude. Yonke imikhakha yezinyanga zakho zokuphila noma iminyaka iguquliwe kwababili. Impilo, ezokungcebeleka, abangane abavamile - konke lokhu kungafaka ingcindezi emmbini omkhulu.
Lapho nje ifolda ishaya umnyango ngemuva kwakhe, ungahlali ekuhlelweni kwangaphambili. Abanye besifazane baqala ukubukeza izithombe futhi baphinde bakhiqize izinkumbulo ezimnandi engqondweni. Ngakho-ke awukwazi ukukwenza: Vumela ubhekane nesizotha ngalesi sigaba sempilo yakho futhi ungangezi.
Ungahlali wedwa
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokushintsha isimo ukufeza izihlobo noma abangane. Ukusinda ukuvukela umbuso ngokwawo kunzima: kunobungozi obunamakhanda ukuze bangene emicabangweni ecindezelayo. Ngubani ovela kubangani bakho futhi ukhululekile? Manje usuyadingeka imizwa emihle, futhi hhayi izinkulumo eziduduzayo. Isibonelo, shayela izingane zesikole bese uhlela izinkumbulo ezimnandi kusihlwa.
Ngesikhathi esinzima ungahlali wedwa
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UDenis Grebenyuk, ohola iqiniso "ukuxhumana okuyingozi":
"Ungakhohlwa iqiniso elilula: konke kube ngcono! Kuyadingeka ukwamukela ukuthi ezinye izinto empilweni yethu azinakugwenywa. Kunzima ukuthola amagama okusekelwa, imvamisa awasizi ngalutho. Kubalulekile ukuba eduze komuntu nangomzwela ngokomoya.
Futhi empilweni yami, mhlawumbe kwakukhona ukuvuma umbuso. Bengingazi ngaphambi kokuphela, kodwa ngacabanga. Eminyakeni yoMfundi osemusha wahlangana nentombazane, futhi owayekade ekhethiweyo wayekhona njalo ezimpilweni zethu. Akakwazanga ukuthatha ifoni isikhathi eside: ngiqagele ukuthi bahlangene. Yize ubudlelwane bethu bengabizwa ngokuthi bangaphezu kobusha futhi obulula, kuhlale kumnandi ukumhawukela! "