Omashiqela bezenziwe ekhaya - hhayi into engandile endabeni ezinsukwini zethu, abesifazane abaningi beminyaka ngisho namashumi eminyaka bahlala nama-Trananans asekhaya futhi babone amathuba asuka kuwo azohamba. Kuyafaneleka ukwenza ukubhuka: izingxabano ezishadile, izingxabano kanye nokulwa kwabalingani bemizwa nomunye nobushiqela bekhaya - izinto ezahlukene: izinto ezihlukile, zingqubuzana nalapho yisisulu sakhe.
Inkinga akukhona nje ukuthi izisulu zeNiranans yasekhaya zisatshiswa, kodwa futhi naseqinisweni lokuthi ubuntu babo buchithwe kanjena ama-Tranan asekhaya awenza ngaphandle kokunye, agobe ngenxa yesisulu. Kepha ungawabona kanjani umashiqela wekhaya lakho endodeni lapho ubudlelwane buqala nje futhi akukephuzi ukukulungisa?
Kunezimpawu eziningi ezifakazela ukuthi indoda yakho ibhekisela esigabeni sabantu abanobuthi okulula kakhulu ukuphenduka abashisekeli bezindlu, okungenani bake bakuzwa ukungavikeleki ngokuphelele nokuthobeka kwalowo ohlukunyeziwe.
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Okokuqala, lokhu, kunjalo, noma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kokukhohlisa kanye nolaka akukhona kuphela ngokomzimba, kodwa futhi nangokomlomo, okubandakanya ukuthukwa, izinsongo, ukuthotshiswa.
Okwesibili, akubonakali kahle, ngokungafani nodlame, lokhu ukusetshenziswa kwethoni ngokulandelana kokuxhumana. Noma yiziphi izicelo ziwuhlobo lwama-oda noma ama-oda, futhi umlingani onjalo ulindele ukusetshenziswa okuqinile nokuthumela okuphelele.
Okwesithathu, ukugxekwa njalo ngokuhlanganiswa nokuhlekisa futhi ukwehla kuwubufakazi obungenakuqhathaniswa bokuthi sisebenzelana nomuntu onobuthi, mhlawumbe uhlupheke ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwe-narcissistic olungaguqulwa kalula kube yiTyrana yasekhaya.
Ngokwesine, umhawu wezwe uvame ukucacisa abacibisheli basekhaya, hhayi uthando ngomlingani, nangokwesaba ukulahlekelwa umhlatshelo ongaya kumuntu ofanelekayo. Ekujuleni komphefumlo, i-Tyran eyenziwe ekhaya iyakuqonda ukwedlula nokungakwazi ukudala umndeni onempilo, futhi uthukuthele kakhulu.
Okwesihlanu, ubushiqela basekhaya bavame ukusungula ukulawula okuphelele kwesisulu sabo. Bazozama ukukala umngane wakhe uqobo ngezihlobo zakhe, bavimbele ukuxhumana nezintombi ezindala nabangane, zithuthele kwelinye idolobha, zizofunda ngokucophelela amanethiwekhi okuxhumana nomphakathi kanye nokuqukethwe nje kocingo, nje ukuze kungaphelelwa amandla okulawula isisulu.
Kuyakufaneleka ukuqonda ukuthi akukho lutho olwalungcwele lwasekhaya. Kubhekisa kuhlobo lwabantu abahlekisa ngobuthakathaka futhi abanaso isihe esincane. Khumbula ukuthi emndenini ojwayelekile awukho indawo yodlame lwasekhaya, futhi ngokushesha "lapho kuvela" izingcingo zokuqala ", ungathetheleli ukubekezela kwakho, noma ukuzama ukumisa ukusebenza okunjalo ezimpandeni, noma ukuqeda umshado futhi ushiye umlingani onjalo.
Uma usuvele ungaphansi kwethonya lodlame lwasekhaya isikhathi eside futhi alwenzi izenzo ezinamandla ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi ungakwazi ukubhekana nakho, akufanele ukwesabe "kanye neziqukathi zezinkinga zokusiza abesifazane.