Kungani amanye amantombazane engeke athole umlingani? Ngisho nokubonakala kumnandi, kuhlakaniphile futhi kuphumelele? I-Calm-Psychotherapist, umqeqeshi ngenhloso yenhloso ye-Ilya BearetSetv kanye ne-RPT-Therapist, umqeqeshi wokuthuthuka kwabesifazane u-Irina Shekunov uveze umbono wesilisa nabesifazane ngale nkinga futhi ahlukaniswe ngezibonelo ezivela kubo.
Thenga lona wesifazane! Thenga le ndoda!
Siphila ngesikhathi lapho sizama njalo ukuthengisa okuthile. Ithinta izinto nezithombe. Ngochungechunge, omagazini, i-Instagram, amanethiwekhi omphakathi ebuchosheni bethu athululelwa amathani wolwazi esingenaso isikhathi sokuvuselela kabusha. Uya kokuqonda, ephendukela ekufakweni. "Umuntu onemali yilokho okudingayo," "Intombazane ephoqelele ehholo - ishada." Wonke umuntu uyaliqonda ubuchopho ukuthi umfana ocebile uyi-plus, intombazane yezemidlalo ezozala inzalo enempilo, iyinhlangano engenakuphikwa futhi. Qaphela kuze kube yinkinga.
"Ngeke ngize izithombe! Ngikhetha abantu abanjengamizwa! "
Uqinisile. Ngenethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu, ungadluli injabulo yokuhlangana nomuntu engifuna ukusondelana naye. Ukusekelwa, ukudumisa, usizo, izici zokuzwa, uthando, ukuqashelwa - Okungenani okuthile okuvela kulolu hlu kuyadingeka kuwo wonke umuntu.
"Ukhohliwe ngakho?"
Impela! Owesifazane kufanele apheke ukudla, owesilisa wesilisa kumele abe ngemayini. Isidlo sakusihlwa esicebile kufanele sithweswe umqhele wobulili obungaliwe. Zombili kufanele zidlale ezemidlalo, futhi zivame ukuwalandela. Oh Yebo, futhi umuzwa wokuhlekisa ungakhohlwa!
"Yebo, akukubi! Futhi yini iqhinga? "
Ukubamba ukuthi sikhetha umlingani kaningi kungaba nobuchopho noma imizwa noma umzimba. Kepha akuyena wonke umuntu ndawonye. Ngemuva kwakho konke, wonke umuntu unendawo "eyintandokazi", ayikhethayo. Njengasengozini kaLeningrad: "Une-g enjalo g. Futhi, ngokuvamile, ngiyamthanda, "izinqumo zomzimba zakudala. "Futhi ngiyangithethelela, ngiyamthethelela futhi, futhi, futhi. O, nginawe ... "- Nakhu okusemqoka umuzwa, ubuchopho ubamba iqhaza kwi-akhawunti kuphela ngaphambi kuka-5." Lokhu, njengoPutin, ukuze ungazange uphuze , "Lokhu kubala ngekhanda.
Ngakho-ke, inkinga yile
Izinkinga ziqala lapho isikhungo esikhetha umlingani, "sajabula ngaye", kanti abanye bafakiwe. "Zonke izinsuku ziyanyamalala emsebenzini wethu, futhi angichithi isikhathi nami," kuvulwa imizwa. "Sihle eLanim, ukuqonda okuphelele, kepha kukhona okungahambi kahle embhedeni, futhi akukulungile," umzimba wavulwa, wavulwa. Izibonelo zisethiwe ezingenamkhawulo.
Izinyunyana ezinamandla - lapho zenelisekile okungenani isikhungo esingu-2. Kepha noma kunjalo kukhona umuzwa wokuthi kukhona okushodayo.
Yikuphi ukuphuma?
Ukuthuthukisa ukuqonda ngokwayo kanye nokutholwa kwayo lapho ukhetha umlingani. Zinike isikhathi sokuqwashisa, ukuqala ubudlelwano obusha. Uma kungenzeka, suka kude necebo lokukhetha elijwayelekile. Ungaqhubeka nokuzama futhi uchithe isikhathi kuze kube yilapho kuba inketho ebonakalayo ebonakalayo oyidingayo ngempilo. Kulabo abakhathele ukuncintisana ngokuncintisana okufanayo, noma nje bafuna ukusheshisa inqubo yokuqwashisa futhi basheshe bajabule, sakha "umlingani wakho wezinsuku ezi-2 - le ndlela yokuphila" Ukuphoqelelwa kwakho, umlingani ofanele, ukuqedwa kobudlelwano besikhathi esedlule.