Sonke siyazi ukuthi indoda ngokwemvelo ngumzingeli waKhe, iyakhathazeka futhi yakha ubudlelwano nabesifazane. Impela unomngane noma umngani ohlale ekhononda ukuthi le ndoda ilahlekelwa yinzuzo. Vele, okuningi kuya ngesimo sentombazane, kepha kwenzeka ukuthi thina ngokwethu ngokwethu asiziboni amasiginali amnika ukuthi aqonde ukuthi ngeke kube mnandi kuwe ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano nawe.
Ake sithole ukuthi yini isinikeza umfazi ongenazinkinga.
Uhlala uthintana
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Uphendula kuyo yonke imilayezo nezingcingo.
Noma ngabe wenza into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kepha lapha indoda yamaphupho akho iyabiza, iphonse konke futhi igijime ukubhala umyalezo wokuphendula. Futhi kungaba ngcono "unjani?" Noma "Wenzani?": Usakulungele ukuphazanyiswa impendulo kothandekayo wakho. Indoda isetshenziswa ngokushesha ukuthi uhlala uthintana, injabulo yakhe ngaphambi kocingo noma ukuthumela umyalezo uyanyamalala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Njengentshisekelo kuwe.
Zama ukwenza ikhefu noma uphendule ekugcineni kosuku, noma ngabe awumatasa kakhulu: Ukukhanya okukhanyayo kwamadoda amnandi ngesihloko esithi "Okwenza Ungaphenduli" ngeke kuphendule.
Isheduli yakho ingaphansi kwezifiso zayo.
Usuvele uqoke umhlangano nezintombi engingakaze ngizibone e-Institute of Bench, kepha lapha uyakubiza futhi ukumema ukuthi uchithe kusihlwa ndawonye, ngoba wakhulula phambilini. Akukho lutho olubi kakhulu kunokuvuma ukunikezwa okunjalo. Icala elinzima ngokwengeziwe, lapho ungahleleli noma yini ngempelasonto ngempelasonto ngethemba lokuthi le ndoda izobiza futhi izonikela nganoma yini, futhi, njengenjwayelo, lokhu akwenzeki.
Khumbula ukuthi okokuqala kufanele unakekele isikhathi sakho nezinzwa ezingadingi ukuchitha ngeze. Chazela indoda ukuthi unezindaba zakho ezihleliwe ongeke uzidlulise ngenxa yawo. Myeke azijwayele. Ngakho-ke uzokuqonda ukuthi umhlaba wakho uqobo akaziphoqeleli izifiso zakhe.
Usukulungele ukunikela abangane
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Unamathiselwe ngaphansi kweNAT
Kwenzeka ukuthi ingxenye yesibili kungenzeka ingathandi umuntu ovela endaweni yethu. Amanye amadoda avele enze ukubukeka okuyisikhashana lapho ingxoxo ifika ukumcasula intombi yakho, futhi enye into lapho indoda yakho ikuvimbela ukuxhumana nabantu. Futhi, akunakwenzeka ukuvumela omunye umuntu ukuthi acindezele intando yakho. Ake ungitshele ukuthi abakakulungeli ukushintsha indawo abakuzungezile ngoba emelene. Indoda ejwayelekile iyohlala iyakwazisa ubunzima bakho ezinkolelweni.
Uyavuma konke
Noma ungakuthandi ukunikezwa, awufuni ukumcasula le ndoda. Abesifazane abaningi babonakala sengathi bayindima yombono wakhe baletha umlingani wakho wokuphazamiseka, kodwa empeleni unikeza umuntu ukuthi aqonde ukuthi uzoyilandela ngobumpumputhe, kepha uzohlala uthatha isinqumo ngokwakho.
Ungumqaphi wezinsuku
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Uvame ukuqhamuka nomqalisi wemihlangano
Njengoba sishilo, umuntu ungumzingeli, okusho ukuthi kufanele kufike noma yiluphi lolu hlelo lwakho okokuqala kuye. Lapho nje esebona ukuthi le ntombazane ikhombisa isithakazelo esinamandla kuye, ondle ngaso lesoma ngokushesha. Futhi empeleni, kungani ubunzima lapho owesifazane esesemandleni akhe.
Akunandaba ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani, kepha ngowesifazane kufanele okungenani kube hlobo oluthile lwemfihlakalo, ngaphandle kwalokho amadoda azoqhubeka nokuchitha ubusuku obumbalwa nawe.