Sifuna ukuthanda amadoda, sithandwa, sibangele ukunconywa. Kwesinye isikhathi kubonakala sengathi - lokhu kuzokwenzeka, futhi ngizojabula. Kepha lapha isizathu nomphumela sididekile. Okokuqala udinga ukuzithanda, ngaphandle kwalokho akukho okuzokwenzeka. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akekho noyedwa ozosinikeza ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu kunokuba abe sethu kuwe.
Ukungathandeki kwakheka ebuntwaneni. Okwamanje ingane ibona umhlaba wonke emzali, ubudlelwano nomzali buyisibonakaliso sobudlelwano bomhlaba kanye nesisekelo sombono wabo. Ukude futhi kubanda kakhulu abazali, okunzima kakhulu ukuzithola bezelamandleni. Sonke sasingabantwana futhi sikhumbula ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuzwakala, wavalwa, wayaziswa. Ukuze ukwesaba ubumnyama akubangeli ukucasuka kubazali ukuze izinyembezi ngenxa yezinyembezi ngenxa yabafana abahlangabezananga ngokuncipha nokukhulisa. Sonke, ngaphandle kwalokho, udinga uthando lwabazali kanye ne-caber, okungenani ukuze uthole uthando lothando.
Ukufudumala kwabazali, izincomo, ukuqhosha, ukusekelwa yinhlabathi lapho ukuzithemba kwengane kukhula khona, isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokwakhe, umbono wakhe wezwe. Lapho inhlabathi iqanjwe khona noma cha nhlobo, akukho lutho oluzokhula. Lapho kwakukhona okuningi, ngokucebile, umanyolo kukhula umntwana owaziyo amanani futhi akekho noyedwa, ngisho nomashiqela abanzima kakhulu, ngeke baphule ukholo lwakhe.
Isazi sezengqondo u-Alena al-As
Izizathu zokungathandi zingaba ngandlela thile. Ngokwesibonelo:
- Ukuqashwa kwabazali, ukukhathala kwabo, ulaka ngokumelene nalesi sizinda, ukusuka enganeni, kubangenze umuzwa wokuba phansi, ngokungadingekile. Ngifuna ukuvala;
- Ukugcona kwabazali bobulili obuhlukile kuvame ukubangela izinkinga ngokwazi nasesikhakheni sezocansi;
- Umona ezinganeni noma kumama omncane, ukumuncwa njalo ", ukhula", uzala abesabe iminyaka yobudala kumuntu, ubutha obudala. Ukusuka lapha futhi "ngiphinde ngibe ngu-18", isifiso esihlala njalo sibonakala sincane;
- Qhathanisa nabazali nabafana abangomakhelwane, lapho vele bangcono khona, ngobuchule, muhle ngokwengeziwe. Lezi zindinganiso zokungahambisani zibangela i-pubertat yasendle kanye nolaka ngokuzama ukufakazela, "Ngubani omuhle lapha", noma esitokisini sobuhle, noma ukungabikho kwesisusa esithi "Akekho Omubi?"
- I-hyperopka yabazali ayiholeli kunoma yini enhle. Lapho egeleza ngokwengeziwe, okuncane kakhulu kunamathuba okuphila ngokwawo, yize futhi kufakwe ukugqekeza okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangenwe nakho.
Noma ngabe yonke into ibihamba kahle emndenini, abazali babenomhawu, bayalalelisisa futhi balandela inhlangano ye-microclimate yendlu, sizijabulisa kakhulu, futhi ontanga kanye nezindawo zethu ezizungezile zithonywa ingadi yethu, isikole, eyunivesithi, emsebenzini.
Ubudlelwano bokuqala, ukuzama ukwakha okuthile ikakhulukazi, akuhlali kuholela empumelelweni futhi kuvame ukuphela ngenhliziyo ephukile, ukudumazeka kanye nezakhiwo. Ngaphandle kwakho konke lokhu, kufanele uqonde ukuthi noma yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho kubalulekile futhi kubalulekile, kuyadingeka ngokuba ngumlingiswa wakho nobuntu bakho nokuthi ngubani owaziyo ukuthi impilo yakho ibingenzeke kanjani futhi noma yini oyibayo ngemuva kwamahlombe akho.
Funda ukuzithanda ubalulekile futhi udinga noma yimuphi unyaka. Ku-20, ngo-40 kwathi ngo-60, ubudlelwane bokwakha nabo buyisisekelo esihle kakhulu nomsebenzi owusizo kakhulu. Ngoba akekho umdanso nami, uthando nawe, impela ngeke kube umsebenzi, ubudlelwano, ngeke kube yilokho abaphupha ngakho. Ngoba ukungathandwa ngokwabo kuyisinamathelisi esikhanyayo esithi "Angikufanelekeli lokhu" kusebunzini ebunzini.
Ungazithanda Kanjani?
- Thethelela. Bazali ngokubanda kwabo, abafowethu ngokuhlekisa, izintombi zokumpompa, uthando lokuqala ngommese ngemuva. Hlala futhi wenze isiqephu ngasinye esikhuluma izinhlungu. Kudala, kepha kuyasebenza. Ungakhohlwa, ungenciki, ungabuyi ngaso sonke isikhathi emcabangweni "kodwa ngangiyobe", kepha ngithethelele;
- Thatha umzimba wakho. Ngokwesisindo ngokweqile, ngamaphutha, nge-hubber ekhaleni noma ngezindebe ezincane, ngokukhula okuphansi noma izandla ezinkulu - nguwe. Ukuze uguquke, wehlise isisindo noma ube yizemidlalo, kufanele uzithambeke manje, futhi uhambe othandweni uye ekuthuthukisweni, hhayi ekuzondeni nasekuzolweni.
Ukutholwa kanye nokuzithuthukisa amanga ezindizeni ezihlukile: Ungathuthukiswa ngokungapheli, kepha awuzemukeli. Futhi ungathatha futhi ungaphelele. Woza esibukweni uzenze ukuncoma kakhulu. Uthembisa ukumamatheka okungenani izikhathi eziyi-10 ngosuku. "Ubuwula, angizange ngiziphoqe ukuthi ngimamatheke," kodwa ngoba ekuqaleni ngempela kuzofanela ukukwenza "kahle hlobo luni lobubi?" Futhi uzitholele izizathu. Bese ningena kulo mkhuba;
- Susa umuzwa wecala. Thatha umthetho: "Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuhlala ngemuva." Ukuphenya okungapheli ekhanda, izingxoxo zokwakha, izimo zokudlalwa, eziphuphweni ngesihloko: "Kuzokwenzekani uma ngi ...". " Hamba phambili.
Unelungelo lokwenza iphutha - lokhu kujwayelekile. Akudingeki ukuthi uqinisekise noma ngubani ngamaphutha akho. Vumela ungaphelele;
- Ungaziqhathanisi futhi ungalindi ukuhlolwa kwabanye. Ungenzi okuthile ngoba umama (noma omunye umuntu) udumo. Yebo, awukutholanga ebuntwaneni, kepha manje awuphoqelekile ukuthi uguquke njalo ulindele ukuvumela ikhanda. Ungaba ngobuchule noma ubuwula, unenhlanhla noma hhayi kunomuntu. Zonke izindaba zabo, idatha yabo yasekuqaleni futhi azikho izindawo ezifanayo zabantu;
- Hlanza udumo. Imvamisa, ukuncoma kowesifazane kuqala ukuphikisana: "Hawu, yebo, phonsa, ukwakheka okuhle." Wenza ukuncoma? Ngiyabonga. Kunzima ukuthi abantu baphume egobolondweni futhi, uma udumisa, uma uncoma futhi ukhulume ngakho, mhlawumbe umuntu osebenza naye futhi wenza izinyathelo zokuqala. "Musa ukushaya izandla" futhi ungakhombisi izithiyo zakho - zingaba nawe, uyazi ngakho, kodwa lowo okhuluma ngakho, akakwazanga ukuqaphela.
Khumbula ukuthi kungenzeka ungatholi lutho ngoba awunjalo, kepha ngoba namuhla inhlanhla ikushiye. Kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi ngeke kubuyiselwe kusasa. Zithande futhi wamukele indlela iqiniso ukuthi ufanele ubuhlobo obuhle, uthando nokunakekelwa