Kukholakala ukuthi amantombazane amaningi enqaba ukuya ocansini ngakho nangaphandle, okuvame ukuba yisizathu samahlaya avela emadodeni. Noma kunjalo, noma kunjalo, umlingani wakho engazange aphikezele ukusondelana, kunezikhathi okufanele zenze ukuthi ungenqabe ukuxhumana okusondelene.
Indoda ayinayo inhloso enkulu
Amadoda anjalo athanda imishwana efana nokuthi "ulungile, sithandwa, kepha angiqiniseki ukuthi sinokuthile esingakwenza nathi," ngenkathi sifuna ukuceba ubulili. Yebo, kungenzeka ukuthi, uthande ngempela naye, noma kunjalo, uma wakhe amacebo walobu budlelwano, ungadumaza umphumela: Kumane nje uthola eyakhe, okungukuthi, ubulili, futhi uzohlala wedwa ngamaphupho akho aphukile.
Umuntu angaphikelela
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Ucansi ngosuku lokuqala
Amanye amadoda awekho nakancane uma uvuma ukuqhubeka kusihlwa kosuku lokuqala endlini yakhe. Ngempela, abesifazane abaningi bahlela ukwahlukana okunjalo, kodwa ekuseni uzobuyela ekhaya futhi awusoze wahlangabezana nale ndoda futhi. Ngakho-ke iziphakamiso ezinjalo ngosuku lokuqala kufanele zikwazise futhi zikuqonde ukuthi indoda idinga ngempela kuwe. Ungasheshi uma indoda inentshisekelo kuwe, izolinda futhi ngeke igcizelele ukusondelana ngosuku lokuqala.
Utholakala kakhulu
Uyakubiza futhi ngokushesha ukhansele izindaba zakho, akunandaba ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani? Izindaba ezimbi: emehlweni owesilisa, umfazi otholakala kalula uthola ukungathandeki. Cabanga nje ukuthi unaka kangakanani njengoba usencwadini yokubhalela, labo abavumelana nezimo zayo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku nobusuku. Ungakwenzi ngale ndlela.
Kufanele wenze isinqumo ngokwakho
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Usemncane kakhulu
Ngeshwa, amantombazane anamuhla asemasha aphoqa umbono wokuthi uma engalali nenani elithile labantu, azobhekwa njengelinephutha. Kulesi sazi, amantombazane amaningi amancane aya ngokumelene nezifiso zawo futhi avume ukuya ocansini abangafuni, kodwa imvelo ngeke iqonde. Khumbula, into ebaluleke kakhulu isifiso sakho. Akudingekile ukuthi uhlangabezane nokulindelwe izihlobo futhi ikakhulukazi abangane.
Awazi indoda
Ngezinsuku ezimbalwa akunakwenzeka ukuqonda ukuthi ngubani empeleni ungumuntu. Akekho ongasho kusengaphambili ukuthi yikuphi ukuphazamiseka ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo osindile kule ndoda futhi ngomgomo wangahlala naye wedwa. Ucansi oluvela kuwe ngeke luhambe noma kuphi, futhi ngokuphepha kwakho kufanelekile ukucabanga hhayi ukujaha.
Uyakholelwa ama-stereotypes
Cishe umbono wokuthi ubukhulu bezicathulo kanye nobude beminwe bakhuluma ngezinzuzo ezithandekayo, ngeke bashintshe, kanti abesifazane bakulungele ukukukholwa. Khumbula ukuthi umdansi omuhle wayengazi njalo ukuthi alala kanjani. Ukukholwa ezimpawuni kungadlala nawe ihlaya elinonya.
Kunoma ikuphi, ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinqumo sobulili nomuntu omusha, cabanga konke okuphambene nalokho, lalela imizwa yakho, bathembekile kakhulu.